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If I sent you this message, what would you do?

303 replies

QuestionableMouse · 04/10/2018 15:25

Message was "help migraine pills drink help please"

I sent it to my sister after waking up with the worst migraine I've had for a while. I never ask for help, ever. I sent it at 12:20. She's still out shopping and I've had no help from her or my parents. Just managed to make it downstairs to get a drink.

I'm feeling pretty sorry for myself and quite fragile so I'm not sure if I'm being unreasonable in feeling a bit annoyed and upset.

OP posts:
Tara336 · 04/10/2018 16:03

I occasionally get migraines and they are awful, in all honesty I’d struggle to pick my phone up and text anyone I just lay down and wait for it to go

alwayswingingit · 04/10/2018 16:03

I would think you text me by accident as the message doesn't make any sense to me. More than likely I would finish whatever I was doing with my day and then get back to you later on in the evening and ask what the text was about

aliloandabanana · 04/10/2018 16:04

I keep all my migraine tablets right next to the bed (I have to take three types when I get an attack) and also have a glass of water there every night. I started doing that after waking up with a terrible migraine and feeling for ages that it was just too painful and to much effort to get out of bed and get my medication from my handbag - obviously I did get up eventually to get them, but it delayed my recovery for an hour or so.

ButchyRestingFace · 04/10/2018 16:05

Unless, of course, this is a reverse and OP is the no fucks given sister. 🚗🚗🚗

AriadnePersephoneCloud · 04/10/2018 16:05

I'd be worse and have sent you a couple of virtual tablets ->oo and a drink 🥃 because I wouldn't have assumed you expected me to do anything else Grin

RangeRider · 04/10/2018 16:07

I’d have text back with ‘Eh? What’s wrong, as that made no sense.’
This ^^ Grin
What was she supposed to do? Does she have keys to your place? Is she local? Does she have transport?

BIgBagofJelly · 04/10/2018 16:08

I would call up if I got that message from my sister/partner/close friend and check if they were OK and what drink they wanted could they wait until I was finished shopping etc.

rickandmorts · 04/10/2018 16:09

I’ve worked my shift in a bar while going through a migraine. You’re over reacting.

Tbf they affect everyone differently. I'm violently sick with mine and can't see anything, there's no way I could stand never mind work a night shift.

Flowerfae · 04/10/2018 16:11

I have chronic migraine, mostly controlled by medication that I have to take all the time (thank god). I still do get them though, I keep pain killers with me all the time though, some kept in the bedside cabinet. They do sometimes come out of nowhere though with no warning so I get where you are coming from. I can make it downstaires to get a drink though if I absolutely have to, I just look/walk like I'm absolutely rat-arsed and speak incoherently :D I wouldn't be able to text at all, even if the screen wasn't blurred I wouldn't be able to get my fingers to text.

7salmonswimming · 04/10/2018 16:13

I’d only send a message like that if I were in critical need of an ambulance.

If I were your sister or parent and knew you had a history of migraines, and that you live alone, I’d be pretty annoyed actually. It’s a bit pathetic as messages go. A please or a thank you, a “are you anywhere near me? Any chance one of you could come by for a few mins?” might be better received. You really wanted someone to drop what they’re doing, come to your house, get your pills and some water, and take them upstairs to you? If you have migraines, why don’t you have your pills scattered around the house? I have crippling (literally) back pain. I have painkillers fucking everywhere.

SoyDora · 04/10/2018 16:15

She’s not even at home, what exactly do you expect her to do?

Morgan12 · 04/10/2018 16:16

Well when I have a migraine my eyesight would be too blurry to text or start threads. I think you may be being a tad dramatic.

JessicaJonesJacket · 04/10/2018 16:16

tbh if my DSIS sent that text, I'd call to see what was going on and wonder about her personality transplant. The two 'helps' are very dramatic and my DSIS is quite no-nonsense.

I suffer from migraines. I spent yesterday lying in a darkened room and I did call DH to ask him to bring medication in. However, I wasn't texting or sitting on MN. The thought of that with a migraine makes me Envy

SwarmOfCats · 04/10/2018 16:17

I think if you’ve recovered enough to be posting on mumsnet, you should probably send another, more coherent text to your sister to explain what was wrong and apologise for overreacting.

I get blinding migraines, and sympathise with anyone else who gets them...but if you’ve recovered enough to fend for yourself and be looking at a screen three hours later you probably didn’t need an urgent delivery of painkillers and water!

In answer to your question...I’d think you’d pocket texted me, or that you were being dramatic, depending on how you usually behave. Chances are she’s not even seen the message yet though.

SilverySurfer · 04/10/2018 16:21

You would have a long wait if I was your sister, my mobile languishes at the bottom of my bag and the last time I charged and used it was over a month ago.

I don't understand why you have no medication at home nor the drink bit - if you're capable of creating this thread, surely you're capable of pouring yourself a glass of water?

I also agree with other posters, why didn't you ring her rather than sending a text if it was urgent?

Much ado about nothing and a tad drama llama.

harriethoyle · 04/10/2018 16:24

I'd think you were a massive drama llama. Be careful OP. Remember the boy who cried wolf...

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 04/10/2018 16:25

Something tells me this isn't the first time you've sent such texts to your sister?

Bluntness100 · 04/10/2018 16:25

I'm afraid if I got that I'd also assume you were being attention seeking and probably ignore you.

Sorry op.

PinkCalluna · 04/10/2018 16:26

It’s a work day. I’m genuinely surprised that you texted three other people expecting them to drop everything and rush over because you have a migraine.

Honestly it’s not a reasonable request. Not even a little bit.

In future keep pain killers and a bottle of water in your bedside table.

I hope you are feeling better.

QOD · 04/10/2018 16:28

I have a couple of friends who alllllways post on Facebook when they’ve got a migraine.
It’s a severe headache I don’t doubt. But not a migraine surely

I’ve only had maybe 3? And I’ve been in a dark room shaking crying and unable to shut my eyes due to the pressure from my eyelids

Original poster
QuestionableMouse · 04/10/2018 16:35

I didn't ring because noise is much worse for me than light.

I've also never sent a text like that before. Even when I broke my foot falling down the stairs. I'm genuinely not an attention seeking person. I just needed some help.

I do usually have my pills stashed in various places but didn't have any in the bedroom today.

OP posts:
TheOrigFV45 · 04/10/2018 16:38

I actually don't have much first hand experience with people dealing with migraines, but regardless if someone sent me a text asking for help, unless I was, I don't know, in A&E with own kids or something, I'd like to think I'd call or text back as soon as I could.

You know...be a nice human being.

And if it was my sister, of course I'd get back to her.

Harsh bunch, aren't ya!

Witchend · 04/10/2018 16:38

I get migraines. They're rarely so bad I couldn't send a text message if I had to. But that's had to, and it could be considerably less effort to go and get the drink and pain killers myself.

If I received a message like that (which I probably wouldn't while shopping as I wouldn't hear nor check my phone) then I'd think attention seeking/drama queen.

Nissemand · 04/10/2018 16:41

No one ever died of a migraine.

diddl · 04/10/2018 16:43

"I'd like to think I'd call or text back as soon as I could."

Yes, me too-& at least let the person know if there was nothing that I ould do to help for a few hours.

Has she seen your message Op?

Did you also contact your parents?