To wonder where some people get their money from

[todaysname18]

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Dh and I are 36, decent education level and good jobs, but we don't earn a fortune. Live in se so quite expensive area and own a little 2 bed house. I thought we were fairly average. But we have some friends, they're only 30 so a few years younger than us and I just don't understand how they have so much money. When I ask her what her dh does she just says he "works in IT" which doesn't sound particularly highly-paid but

• She's not going back to work after mat leave (genuinely no idea how anyone can afford to be a sahm nowadays)
• They live in this absolutely massive 6 bedroom house, not rented
• She drives a Mercedes, not brand new but only a few years old
• They go out to dinner at least twice a week and are always doing day trips at weekends which involve expensive meals and entry to various places, the sort of costs that quickly add up
• I don't know where her clothes are from but they certainly look expensive
• Her ds, 6 months, has SO many clothes it's unreal, I see them 3-4 times a week and I rarely see him in the same outfit twice and lots are fairly expensive brands, I've definitely seen him in a Ralph Lauren polo!
• She just bought a designer handbag...whilst on maternity pay! Who has that sort of money?

I know people will say it sounds like I'm jealous, I absolutely am! But I also just don't understand how they have this sort of money?! Do 30 year old couples regularly own million pound homes?!

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Could have been left some inheritance, could be in shit loads of debt, either way its not really any of your business.

Inheritance?
Bank robbery?
Selling her body?

My partner and I are 30. Earn about 3k a month between us with rented tiny 3 bed, two ft kids 2 weekenders. I think he might be a hacker lol.

You're quite concerned with thier lifestyle aren't you. BTW I know quite a few people working in IT who are fucking minted.

Does it matter? They could have inherited, won a small amount (enough to buy a big house and nice car, not enough to stop working), he could be high up in his job or very specialist. Why are you jealous, exactly? You have your own home, you’re already luckier than most people in this country. I suggest looking at why you’re so jealous of other people, because it’s not healthy to be almost stalkerish of their lifestyle.

They could be up to their eyeballs in debt.

Or inheritance, trust fund, rich parents. The baby clothes could well be gifts.

Also, "works in IT" is fairly broad and could very well involve earning an above average salary.

IT jobs can be very well paid. It could also be inheritance. I have friends who recently bought a very expensive house, I couldn’t understand how they could afford it as both primary teachers. But then I found out a distant relative has died and left her a house and money. I’m also surprised how many people I know who have very generous parents who gift them large amounts.

Salaries in IT can be high. It depends what sort of IT & how specialised he is. Our techies earn about £80k and a good sales director could make £160k or more.

I have a few friends who work in I.T. They earn huge amounts.... depends what the job is?

I also know people who earn a lot in IT, they do contract work and very long hours. Some industries just pay better.

They also might not be saving and maybe you are?

It's probably all on tick.
Credit cards maxed out, car on Hp, house on interest only mortgage etc etc etc.

The ones I wonder about are the 'Hippy' types . Yes that's a horrible stereotype..
Women making Facebook tat that live in lovely houses and have a comfortable life.. it can't all be funded by selling headless dolls with cacti shoved in.

My dh works in IT. Doesnt mean he is a programmer or anything. He is a chief technology officer for a network service provider so earns well. Some of his bosses are very rich.

Todaysname18 stop this behaviour at once !! How dare you have (or even think of) commenting on the lifestyle it behaviour of another living person ! Do you not know the first rule of MN is that you must walk around, eyes down, tissue in your ears should you inadvertently come across another human beings lifestyle that interest you - and commit the heinous crime of commenting on it.. anonymously !

I would appreciate it if in future should you see ANYTHING that DOESNT CONCERN YOU.. (bank robbery, child abuse, people wearing funny hats.. anything) that you keep it to Yourself and do not presume to commit your musing to print.

Shocking behaviour!

I have a mate who works in IT. He's a consultant in a very niche field. We left school together with same qualifications. He has large house in Kent, a boat and his DW has a horse and DDs are living in flats he put the deposit down on. It can ve VERY well paid,

Might be family money. We know a couple where the woman comes from a very rich family - her parents bought her an enormous house (6 bedrooms, 4 Reception) as a wedding present and other family members paid for all their furniture. With no rent/mortgage or house setting up costs a huge amount of income is freed up.

Plus agree with others that IT jobs (particularly if he works in the financial sector) can be very well paid.

I have a friend who is mysteriously swimming in money. Just bought a 1.5 mil house on which she is doing extensive renovations, three kids all in prep school, owns two horses, didn't go back to work after third mat leave (she was a midwife), has a part time nanny, private yoga teacher at the house.... I've known her 15 years and she comes from a totally bog standard background. Her DH is a bit younger than us and works "in the City". I don't know hime very well but it obviously all comes from him. He's only about 31 though! Bonkers. They are all lovely though and I am very pleased she's having a lovely life. It's just intriguing.

I know plenty of people who 'work in IT' and earn nice 6-figure salaries.

IT isn't a job, it's a sector. It's like someone saying they work in banking. They could be behind a counter at Barclays, or they could have some ludicrous-salaried City job.

Come on, Fontofnoknowledge, it’s not about that . We all like having a nosy or dream about bigger homes or cars. However there’s a big difference to being so jealous that you start a thread online listing out all the nice things your supposed friend has and seemingly suggesting they can’t afford it due him only working in IT. Some people have a lot more money, what a shocker!

maybe a fuckton if inheritance/parental cash and they have hardly any mortgage?

Maybe he ‘works in IT’ and is taking home over £200k

Who knows. You could ask them.

Hmm, possibly I've under-estimated his salary. The way she says it is so dismissive "oh, he just works in IT, nothing exciting" makes it sounds like he's IT support or something but maybe she's just downplaying it. She is really "normal" and doesn't come across as rich or snobby in any way and I guess that's what confused me.

I don't think she has money from her family as I know she's not close to them and doesn't see them much but they seem close to his family so they could be the source

I know it's absolutely none of my business, just really was wondering if it's normal for a young couple to seem so well off. I haven't had 80 replies saying "well we're only 20 and own 2 massive houses" or anything so I'm going to assume this isn't the norm and they're just very lucky

if They live in a six bed house in the se then he probably earns significantly more than you realise or they have inherited a large sum or money or both. My best friend and her husband live in a nice house in London. He works in I T and she teaches yoga part time. They don’t have any debt, he just earns 150k plus bonuses (which they use to overpay on their mortgage) and both of their parents gave them 100k for a deposit on their house.

Oh some people have more money ohh must be something illegal ohhh lets start a thread dissing them ohhh the scandel

Sorry OP i really really really dont get why people are so concerned with OTHER PEOPLE'S MONEY.

I just dont.
*works in IT sounds pretty well paid to me, why don't you think it sounds well paid?
*my family definately were't in any way minted had a second hand merc when i was a kid. (Mum a teacher step dad hotel manager)
*where are they going to dinner? Theres a massive amount of difference between going for dinner at say wetherspoons to say the Ivy
*maybe they were gifted a years membership to attractions merlin (the people that own alton towers and the sea life centres) often give away passes in cereal
*you dont know where her clothes come from. Primark, peacocks, most supernarkets do very on tread clothes, sales.
*tbh i wouldnt be madsively supriced in a 6 month old had enough clothes to change at least twoce a day poopexplsions, food disarsters etc happen, maybe relatives have gifted the ecpensive brands or their hajd me downs

• ohh a woman brought herself a treat maybe she had saved gor it?

Other than yes maube yep inheritance, well off family, gifts, saving,

But since you clearly want some sort of scandal.

*bank robbery
*prostitution
*drug dealers
*hacker
*con artist
*insurance scam

• non of your business

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IT professionals can be very highly paid. £100k-£200k is not unusual.
My husband is an IT professional and I would just say he works in IT if asked.
If some of the details in your op were different I would say you could have been talking about us.

anything so I'm going to assume this isn't the norm and they're just very lucky

Why on earth would you have thought this was ‘the norm’ anyway? Many people of this generation will never own a home, never mind a mansion. Yes, some will as there are those who have the aptitude for a highly paid job, others will fall into money one way or another. Just by being on the property ladder, you are one of the lucky ones these days.