Please help me before I totally lose my shit!

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How do people cope with their partners snoring? Like genuinely how do you deal with it as it's driving me mad!! I normally fall asleep first which is fine, but I often wake up during the night most nights and then can't get back to sleep as DP is doing impressions of some kind of demented walrus

Even the neighbours have commented that they've heard it!

We've tried me wearing earplugs but I can still hear it slightly through that which is enough to keep me awake. Tried sleeping in the spare bedroom but I can still hear him and also when I'm downstairs on the sofa. Nose strips and nose spray helped a bit but not completely. He is slightly overweight which is what I think probably causes it but he's quite sensitive bout that so can't really push that he needs to lose weight

At the moment I've been going with the method of waking him up every time he's snoring (around 48000 times per night) and hoping that will annoy him enough that he will stay awake long enough for me to go to sleep but that never happens and I end up lying there fantasising about hitting him with the bedside light or something similar

Please tell me there's something that will help or is my only option to cave his head in?

Snoring is something I can’t live with. I don’t have any long term experience of it ( thankfully) but sharing a hotel room with my snoring mum made me seethe with silent rage. If I had a partner who snored I’d probably have to dump them !

Good idea to check for sleep apnoea. If gets all clear, ask your dentist about a snoring device. Its a kind of mouth guard to wear while you sleep which you can adjust each night until snoring stops. Worth a try.

my hubby was the same could here downstairs if he was upstairs in bed. he has sleep apnea had tests done he was actually only sleeping deep sleep 13 minutes per hour the rest he was not fully asleep hense the loud noise he was stopping breathing, he now wears a sleep ap mask ans is connected to a machine he now is much more quite and i get a good nights sleep. worth gp check up it is dangerous,

Make sure he is using strips and spray, and not drinking alcohol just before bed. Try snoring pillow. Prop him up with extra pillow helps. If all else fails get him to go on a diet.

Reading all your posts makes me very happy to be single!
I've just got my own snoring to contend with... I have been known to wake myself up, only if I've strayed onto my back 🙄

If he’s in the spare room and you have ear plugs then I’m amazed you can still hear it. Mine snores like a sodding rhino but when he’s kicked out to the spare room I finally sleep!

We’re on holiday though now and on day 1 I got around an hours sleep. Not kidding. I miss our spare room. Day 2 I bought snore spray, vicks, nasal spray and decongestant and along with my ear plugs and smothering myself between two pillows it’s just enough so I can take the edge off

Sympathy though. DH gets bad when he puts weight on. Fortunately he’s dieting when we get home. If I had to deal with this daily it would mean divorce, it’s the worst tint ever.

I feel your pain...its the only thing likely to end my marriage and the lack of sleep fir many year has contributed to my depression.
Im reading this thread hoping for a solution

I know someone who had sleep apnea and had tonsils out and a nasal surgery as well -- these were able to sort it without a cpap machine. much better now. so that's worth asking about as well, as the machine is not the only approach. yes, sleep apnea can do permanent and major damage, as can being woken by someone else every minute all night long term ...

I get kicked out of bed for snoring.. oh well there is mumsnet!

A CPAP machine.

I snore and when they did a study I stopped breathing a ridiculous amount each hour.

I feel your pain. I have found nothing yet to help I normally just cry and sleep on the sofa haha. He feels mega guilty on the morning but I'm permanently exhausted

I started to use Kalms, herbal remedy - so even if I heard him snoring - I would be so relaxed and sleepy I would just drift off back into a deep sleep. That was years ago - it hardly wakes me now and I don't think I even used a whole packet of Kalms.

Silicon earplugs (see the brand 'macks'
Play loud white noise on an app / timer for 30 mins to allow you drift off but means it's not going all night
Alcohol relaxes all those snorey related muscles so be aware!
Sprays and nose strips can reduce things a little bit

My DH is a horrendous snorer. GP referred him to the hospital, they diagnosed 'anti-social snoring' and suggested separate bedrooms 🤷🏻‍♀️ but would not offer any surgery or anything like that. Told him a neck collar size of anything over 16'' would increase the snoring so to lose a bit of weight.

When he's been out, he sleeps elsewhere in the house- sofa usually or one of the kids beds and they come in with me, but then he disturbs everyone because of where the rooms are situated in the house. It's no fun and you have my sympathies.

www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B00D9GYHCE/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o00_s00?psc=1&tag=mumsnetforum-21&ie=UTF8

This worked a treat for me along with weightloss. It stopped the sleep apnea without resorting to the machine.

Goo luck OP

Dh snores. We sleep in separate bedrooms which isn't ideal but what I can see from these threads is that often its the man who is overweight, and refuses to do very much about it.

Its OK at home. We have the space to sleep separately but on holiday its a nightmare. Spending £1,000's of pounds to stay awake all night listening to the snores. I like to go to 5 star hotels but two rooms is too expensive so we end up in 3 star. Not a first world problem but its such a shame.

I have tried ear plugs, white noise etc. He gets annoyed if I wake him so its just easier if we sleep in different rooms.

I do wonder if some of it is me getting more and more annoyed whilst listening to it so I have a got a book recommended on this thread which indicates that you might be able to 'zone' the noise out. I am not convinced but am trying to keep a open mind.

I have used sleeping pills on holiday (the real ones!) and its the only thing that has helped in some way. They do make me feel groggy but its better than having no sleep at all.

Asking DH to stop drinking at night and lose weight - well it just wont happen.

How about a large v shaped pillow or long bolsters to keep him wedged onto his side?

I have the same problem. A few things I have found that help:

New, firmer mattress and getting him to use fewer pillows. He snores less with one pillow than with two.

An air purifier, we got the Philips one. It's expensive but if you live anywhere near pollen or pollution which could be making things worse it really helps.

Dust mites! As in, get rid of them. We recently had to use Indorex in the house to get rid of cat fleas and it also kills dust mites, the difference in his snoring has been dramatic. We can now spend the whole night in the same bed which we haven't been able to do for ages.

Other than that it's ear plugs and gently trying to get him to lose weight. Good luck!

See Doctor to get assessed if sleep apnoea . May need CPAP.
They often tell you to lose weight ( but weight gain is part of the vicious circle )
The soft tissue operation is not recommended .
If he does not " qualify " as sleep apnoea he can perhaps get a Mandibular Advancement Appliance. ( Dentist , orthodontist ). This helps hold the airway open so less noise.

I see @shinywhiteteeth has just said that !

OP I feel your pain, I have this problem too

I've had to go and sleep in the other room before and have tried waking him up but it just starts again within minutes. I've just started using foam earplugs and they really do help! I think we're looking at going down the GP route now as gadgets like nasal strips and mouthguards etc don't seem to do anything.

Record the snoring and set it as your alarm. Then set your alarm to go off every half hour and put the alarm somewhere where he can’t turn it off. Repeat until he sees the GP or at least engages with you to attempt to look for a solution.

My dh snored for Ireland before he got tested and diagnosed with Sleep Aponea. He now uses a Cpap machine and the snoring is completely gone. The machine hisses slightly but it's a gentle hiss and quite soothing - nothing compared to the snoring!

These are supposedly good. Not cheap though

www.flareaudio.com/collections/ear-protectors

I remember a previous snoring thread and this was mentioned Not sure if anyone tried it though.

Another vote for the acupressure snoring ring. I can tell from outside the bedroom if my DH has forgotten to put it on. Works for everything except drunk snoring, but even reduces that.