Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

AIBU but is this a CF

198 replies

MRSMARMITE3 · 27/09/2018 12:59

OH works out of town and has somehow become the company driver! New person started and told the boss that he has a bad back so can't get to work unless someone takes him(let's call new person Bob ).
My OH Lives in the same town so was roped into doing it everyday. He didn't mind at first till Bob admitted lying about bad back cos he didn't want to get the bus or train. He doesn't offer any money and just sits in the car on his phone or moans that the journey takes ages.
Now two more people have started and OH is having to drive them too. He's getting fed up of it and I get he's going that way anyway but no one has offered any money (even a little) . Surely 3 extra adults in the car would create more wear and tear.
OH spoke to his boss and said he's really not happy driving everyone and his boss told him that Bob said he would quit if he can't get a lift so OH needs to drive him. WTF!!!!?
I know it's not my problem but he's always moaning to me about it. I'm just amazed by Bob's entitlement (and also that the boss is feeding into it)

OP posts:
AnneLovesGilbert · 27/09/2018 13:00

That’s a total pisstake.

What happens if your partner is ill or on holiday?

Sirzy · 27/09/2018 13:00

Your husband needs to put his foot down. Unless his contract states he has to play taxi then it’s not his issue

AuntBeastie · 27/09/2018 13:01

That’s outrageous. Your DH really needs to not be a pushover about it and tell his boss that unless he is now to be paid a fuel and car allowance he simply won’t do it anymore.

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 27/09/2018 13:01

If I was your partner I’d say I wanted to be paid time and expenses (petrol/wear and tear/business insurance) for what it apparently now a compulsory work duty.

DartmoorDoughnut · 27/09/2018 13:02

Huh?! They can’t make him drive anyone surely unless they’re going to start paying him extra to do it?!

itswinetime · 27/09/2018 13:02

It's not op to your OH he needs to say he is no longer doing it normally I advocate telling the truth but in this case I think I would say to his boss he isn't able to as he know has family commitments that mean he doesn't go straight home always and that it isn't his responsibility to get the staff to and from work.

Original poster
MRSMARMITE3 · 27/09/2018 13:02

If he's on holiday they all get the train and the boss picks them up from the station. They even get to leave early on certain days because of OH cos he leaves early as his contact so that I can get to work whilst he looks after our child. I've told him to just crash the car then they'd have to get the train 😅

OP posts:
JamPasty · 27/09/2018 13:03

I bet your insurance doesn't cover your car for work use. DH could use that as a reason for stopping giving lifts

Original poster
MRSMARMITE3 · 27/09/2018 13:04

I think his boss sees it as "your going that way anyway" to be fair they come near our house to be picked up so he doesn't have to drive much further. I just find it really odd tho that is expected now

OP posts:
Sirzy · 27/09/2018 13:06

Would be awful if the car broke down for a couple of weeks....

PoisonousSmurf · 27/09/2018 13:07

What is so special about 'Bob'. Is he your DH's superior? How come he can sit in a car but not on a bus? And if he said 'NO!' What would they do to him?

itswinetime · 27/09/2018 13:07

Jam makes a very good point I would think ferrying people to and from work classes as business use are you covered for that. It isn't expected it is ask the Manger had found a solution to his problem he isn' easily going to give that up. But if your DH says no there is nothing he can do.

Uncreative · 27/09/2018 13:09

You need to stage a car breakdown. Followed by reinsuring your car so it is not covered for taxi services or travel to work.

Your DH should start looking for a new job.

honeysucklejasmine · 27/09/2018 13:09

I think your DH needs a word with his insurance provider, and then be presenting his boss with the bill for increased premiums.

Motortrader · 27/09/2018 13:10

Get him to check his insurance - social. domestic and pleasure usually includes commuting, but not other uses on company business.

And demand reasonable expenses, say 70p/mile.

Otherwise, get a motorbike.

ParanoidGynodroid · 27/09/2018 13:10

If just saying "no" isn't an option (though it should be!) , then mentioning insurance may be the way forward.

Think if I were your DH I'd be looking for another job!

MediocrePenguin · 27/09/2018 13:10

I don't understand why the boss wants to employ someone like bob!

It's also terribly unfair your partner has to pay petrol and no one contributes. Work out a weekly cost and bill them for it.

Original poster
MRSMARMITE3 · 27/09/2018 13:11

Actually my OH is higher up than Bob!! Apparently Bob is hard to replace (!) The other two seem grateful for lifts. Bob is not!!

OP posts:
Hissy · 27/09/2018 13:12

I'd TELL the passengers that unless they stump up with a considerable amount for petrol that the arrangement will end in a month's time.

Or if he wants to stop taking them, he can just tell them that as of next month it'll stop and they have to find their own way in and home.

WorriesGalore · 27/09/2018 13:13

What if you need the car and DH has to take the train for a few "months"?

RebootYourEngine · 27/09/2018 13:13

If your dh didnt have a car how would he get to work, could your car have a 'problem' and need to be off the road for a while.

aidelmaidel · 27/09/2018 13:13

Um. If he has to do this for work it's probably playing hob with your insurance. You ought to get that checked out.

Also Bob is a cheeky fucker and your DH would be totally reasonable to say "Bob, you're getting a free taxi, and you never say thank you and you never contribute, would you please keep the negativity to yourself." At the very minimum.

RB68 · 27/09/2018 13:13

He needs to start again with them and just say he is happy to give them lifts however there is a cost to that so he needs petrol money and tell them what that is. He can't make a profit from it but he can cover his costs - or alternatively if it is coming from the boss he needs to claim mileage from work

PoisonousSmurf · 27/09/2018 13:14

Bob really is a CF! He's managing to avoid bus and train fares! Does he even have a car? How does he get to yours?

SnipSnipMisterBurgess · 27/09/2018 13:15

He should do up an expenses sheet for mileage to date and produce a Q4 projection for costs!

Swipe left for the next trending thread