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Holiday fall out

484 replies

Starleaf · 26/09/2018 18:32

Ok so I'm on holiday abroad with a friend and her two late teen children. It was my friends birthday yesterday, I packed birthday banners and ordered a cake and a bottle of fizz for her from the hotel. We went on a special day trip that I knew she wanted to do. Got back to hotel got ready for dinner and a night out, maybe a dance bar. All good so far. We had a lovely meal and decided to have a walk and find a bar. We passed several that were either showing football or boxing. Almost at the end of the strip we came to a place that was busy, playing music with people dancing. Just as we went in a song I love came on and I went to dance beckoning for my friend to follow. She didn't so when the song finished I went back to join her and asked if she'd like a drink. She said she didn't like the bar and was leaving.
I'll admit I wad pissed off at this point and walked out with my friend and kids following. I didn't walk fast but she hung back and the three of them stopped at a market, so I was on my own. I got back to our room (2 bed apt) and went to the bathroom. When I came out one of her kids was sleeping in her bed, and she'd gone to the other bedroom. I asked her why and she suddenly became very angry. She said as it was her birthday I should have done everything she wanted.
She has since told me she doesn't want anything more to do with me, I spoiled her birthday and that our friendship is finished.
I told her she was behaving immaturely. We haven't really spoken since, and they've now gone out for dinner leaving me in the room.
AIBU to think she'd had the whole day doing what she wanted, could she not have stayed at the bar for one drink, and has she over reacted?

OP posts:
Maelstrop · 28/09/2018 22:09

She sounds like a right cow, OP, just block, blank, ignore, on the journey and afterwards. She’s been a real bitch.

greenlynx · 28/09/2018 22:18

I would tell her enthusiastically to send it and make it a long one. And that I might even answer it!
Are you sitting together in a plane?

woolduvet · 28/09/2018 22:25

Considering she fell out with someone else on her birthday last year, do you think you we're supposed to buy her a big present too?
She sounds bonkers.

missbehaving1000 · 28/09/2018 22:25

What peachy said 1 million %

Not sure how these things work but if it means you get to read her email, whilst at the same time gets sent back to her under the guise of you not reading it OP (unless she's put a read receipt on it) then do it do it do it!

She's a fucking joke of a mate in my opinion.

I've been friends with ppl in excess of 20yrs, and can only recall one occasion where I came to blows with one of them and the feud lasted one bloody day! We both apologised, admitted we'd said things in the heat of the moment and moved on. That's what true friendship is all about.

Never a bad word been spoken since either.

Your friend sounds like fucking hard work... it's either her way or the highway and to gang up on you with her daughters.... leaving you on your own is beyond me. Abroad as well, without the support of your family is quite frankly disgusting.

Wishing you well star. Am interested to know what the aftermath of the holiday has in store. Please do keep us posted! Thanks

LoniceraJaponica · 28/09/2018 22:31

"You can’t block emails."

Yes you can justaguy

How to block emails on yahoo

Starlight345 · 28/09/2018 22:39

I would also block .

The only reason I would want that email if I wanted to resolve an issue .

However due to her behaviour . If there was something to discuss she could of done it there not abandon you on holiday.

I wouldn’t spend my life wondering I wouldn’t care no excuse for her behaviour

dustarr73 · 28/09/2018 22:40

Well you are getting one upon her.You are staying in your room,while they i suppose have to sit in the airport.
Have great pleasure tomorrow,letting them walk out first and then you just close the door.

Thats going to drive her bonkers.

justaguy · 28/09/2018 22:52

You’re right, LoniceraJaponica, but it’s not like the blocking that people were implying — something that will overtly stop her from sending the email and infuriate her (like blocking on Facebook Messenger would). It’s just a way of sending emails straight to trash and the sender will never know about it.

LoniceraJaponica · 28/09/2018 23:13

It would be good if there was a way to bounce back the email wouldn't it.

CoughLaughFart · 29/09/2018 00:10

Absolutely let her send the email - just don’t respond. She is dying to draw you into an argument. Some people have said this is letting her have the last word - but no word at all can be far more powerful.

WatchOutForTheCar · 29/09/2018 00:22

She sounds like a right knob op!

Urbanbeetler · 29/09/2018 00:32

It sounds like she has a particular issue with her birthday. Maybe it wasn’t a great time for her as a child. Or maybe she is just a cunt. She should at the very least offer you an explanation as to what you are supposed to have done wrong.

Poor girls - how embarrassing having such a crappy mother.

Ginkypig · 29/09/2018 00:37

I'm way way too nosey to not let her send it!

I wouldn't reply or even acknowledge I'd received it but I'd want to hear what the arse hole had to say before blocking.

Flowersandblack · 29/09/2018 00:43

you have to let her send it. what a bitch.

Ignoramusgiganticus · 29/09/2018 00:50

She's fallen out with others who don't fall into line as demanded? Yes she's a drama llama.

Quantumblue · 29/09/2018 00:54

Hope you have better friends to go on holiday with next year!

klondike555 · 29/09/2018 01:11

If you let her send you that email she will have the last word. If you block her you will have the last laugh

Agreed. I couldn't bear to let this bitch have the last word, so I'd definitely be pre-emptively blocking her on everything right now, including email. If you can't block her on email then the fake auto message suggested by a pp about her address being blocked is also good too. (Hell, maybe do that too anyway, just to make sure she really gets the message).

If she's only unfriended you on Facebook as opposed to actually blocking you, I'd make sure to get in first and block her there too.

Aimarge · 29/09/2018 01:21

Let her send it. Laugh at all the blatant crazyness in her explainations and tell her to go fuck herself.

fieryginger · 29/09/2018 01:32

She's going to end up a very lonely old lady, by the sounds of it. Her children will flee the nest at some point. Let her send the email but do not respond, don't even be tempted to. What she's done is horrible.

You need to end this for good.

Lucyloo1986 · 29/09/2018 01:33

Maybe talk to them rather than mumsnet. Way too many opinions

lostpigeon · 29/09/2018 02:09

sounds like my ex

lostpigeon · 29/09/2018 02:14

sorry, bad marker, I admit. Just read the whole lot, and very interesting. Your friend is a cnooont OP!!!

famousfour · 29/09/2018 05:18

How strange. Sorry your holiday ended this way!

Zippetydoodahzippetyay · 29/09/2018 05:21

Block her and do not give her the chance to send the email. You know yourself that anything she says will be self serving tripe designed to justify her ridiculous behaviour. You will feel angry and wronged when you read it and you won't have an opportunity to respond as she will most likely block you before you can. The best way to handle her is to not give her what she wants. Don't acknowledge her, dont accept any messages or emails etc amd move on with life. You are better off without someone like that in your life.

Namechangeforthiscancershit · 29/09/2018 06:38

Do not read the email! Don’t give her the headspace. If you send it to trash then I’d get someone to delete it for you as it’s not like FB that just won’t ever get through.