Step-baby

[LateLatte]

How long should a step-baby wait to meet its new baby sibling? Assuming baby and Mother are well and hospital/babies home is within 30 minutes of where the older sibling lives and can be dropped off by another family member?

[InertPotato]

I see this thread has moved on swiftly!

Why does a child need a step parent to love them as much as that step parents' genetic child? I really don't get it. Why is standard step parent love not enough? Why is it being compared at all?

I don't think it's reasonable to expect that a step-parent loves their step-child as much as their own, but you really have to be a parent to understand that. Kids don't really need to be aware of the distinction.

It certainly wouldn't be good enough for my kids for them to live a step-father who didn't treat my children with the same love and affection as he did with his own. Surely this is a normal parental instinct.

NRPs don't get to know their stepchildren as well, sure, but why is that? I keep on going back to my previous point - why do fathers i.e. NRPs get such a wide fucking berth? This is a big issue for women/mothers, part and parcel of a larger issue of unpaid child support, fatherless kids and the like.

The older kids matter way more than some are willing to see.

[flamingofridays]

Kids don't really need to be aware of the distinction and why would they be if they're being treated the same?

NRPs don't get to know their stepchildren as well, sure, but why is that? because generally NRP's get something like EOW and one night in the week, its hard to build a relationship based on that. Often its court awarded too, so not a case of they haven't asked for more, its what they've been given. I don't think its a lack of giving a shit.


Why do NRPs get such a wide berth? Well that's a question youd have to ask the courts, and the other parent. If they want 50/50 shared care then suggest it! Many don't. Child support then wouldn't have to be paid by anyone.