To let DD wear this dress to a wedding?

[veruka]

My friend thinks it's unfair on the bridesmaids/bride?

https://www.matalan.co.uk/product/detail/s2652137c356/girls-corsage-bridesmaid-dress-3-13yrs-cream?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIxOOpkrHU3QIVLZPtCh2o5g63EAQYKCABEgJjlPDBwE

It's a.pretty, party dress. I'd let her wear it.

Gorgon.. I think that was pretty rude actually. A couple - usually relations - wearing the same colours one thing. A whole family imo is rather imposing your colour scheme on someone else’s wedding. It sends the statement you should have received button holes and corsages. // I also think that gold monstrosity complete with princess crown on the 9 yo is rather ott. // This dress is different. It’s pretty understated and the sort of dress dd wore when she was 3 (the John Lewis bargain I mentioned upthread).

Why are people so precious?! She's 4 years old - let her wear it. It's not worth the tears/stress.

It's not a dress for a wedding unless you are a flower girl I'm afraid. I would choose something different, it's not hard to persuade a four year old that she gets to choose a lovely new and more suitable pretty dress, so she hatwo lovely party dresses instead of one. When is the Wedding? It is very summery and next year it may not even fit!

Dip dye it so it looks less flower girl like?

I think it's fine.

It'll be fine. If you don't put a label on it with 'perfect for flower girl' written on it, i doubt anyone will think she's wearing a flowergirl dress. (Also, top tip: don't put a headdress or flowers in her hair 😁)

CaMePlaitPas - REALLY?! It’s worth risk offending/bride on her wedding day, not to mention incurring the judgment of other members of the wedding party who will have spent a fortune and have been planning this for months so that a 4 yr old doesn’t have a tantrum?! OP I can see you have listened btw so not suggesting you are going to do this! I just find this tiptoeing around because we daren’t upset the child attitude ridiculous and probably the reason we have so many spoilt, entitled children in our society.

FGS, it's perfectly fine, in my day it wouldn't have been labelled a flowergirl dress, it would simply have been a pretty party dress. As ReanimatedSGB says: "People probably won't actually give a fuck. Most 'party' dresses for 4 year old girls look like bridesmaid dresses anyway." Though I do agree that you should ask the bridal couple themselves in case they are on the bridezilla scale.

It is fine it looks like a lovely outfit and your daughter will feel like a princess. If it was my weddings all I would be worried about is that everyone was having a great celebration not what they were dressed in. Just add a nice pastel cardigan and she will be lovely.

This is MN. She should wear a gender neutral outfit

Not rtft I got married in April, my 10yo goddaughter wore a BM dress. It was absolutely fine - it wasn't in our colour scheme and my BM were adults. Her mum did however ask me beforehand. It's a beautiful dress so can see why she would want to wear it.

Any bride or wedding party member who would get offended over a small child wearing their best dress seriously needs to get a fucking life. Don’t care how long they might been planning their wedding for.

Haven't rtft but I got married last year and a friend asked if her 5/6 year old could wear an old bridesmaid's dress. I said sure. In the one or two group shots she's in, yes, she does look like part of the bridesmaids but I just can't be bothered to care. She wrote a nice dress, it didn't cost my friend anything extra and I still had a fab day. Just ask the bride!

*wore

Any bride or wedding party member who would get offended over a small child wearing their best dress seriously needs to get a fucking life. Don’t care how long they might been planning their wedding for Totally agree. Can't believe how anybody cares what a 4 year old child wears!

She’s 4. It is a pretty party wedding dress. She won’t look like the bridal party because she won’t be wearing matching dresses. I’d let her wear it. Lots of chikdren I know have worn their actual flower girl dresses eg for other weddings anyway!

Be aware that flower girls are often matching the bride so can be in white/ivory even if bridesmaids aren't.

It is a very obvious bridesmaid/flower girl dress. It's also white. Some brides would be really upset. Even if the bride isn't the chance of a mother etc being offended is high. So if you put her in it expect to be told by guests that:

You are attention seeking.
That you are trying to make your child seem like a bridesmaid.
That you are disrespecting the bride.

Honestly I would just buy something else if you are able to.

What SaucyJack said. It's a pretty frock, that's all. I can't believe how precious some people are about utter trivia. What sane bride gives a stuff what a four year old wears to her wedding?

There’s some seriously batshit nonsense going on here. Ask the bride.

I wouldn't have any issue with this whatsoever. However... I'd check whether the bride is having flower girls and if so what they are wearing. The bride would be batshit to be upset what a 4 year old is wearing but it would be unfair to cause upset to a small flower girl who is excited to have a special role. I don't think you can assume the colours of the flower girls' dresses will match any older bridesmaids - my older bridesmaid was in royal blue and my flower girl was in ivory (same as my dress).

Jesus Christ it's a little 4 year old in a pretty party dress standing next to her mum, of course it's fine!!! Why any bride would mind that is beyond me!!!!

If you really have to check with the bride just ask what colour the flower girls (if she having any) are wearing. If it's the same dress that might be a problem. But honestly without the extra bits flower girls usually have (like flowers) it's just a pretty dressy dress

Dip dye it? Good grief no-don't dye it at all, it's lovely as it is.

'Be expect to be told by guests that you are attention seeking and disrespecting the bride'?!!? Good grief. What would actually be disrespectful and attention seeking would be gratuitously starting an argument like that at a wedding?! Having a go at other guests because you don't fancy a 4yo outfit would be indescribably vulgar.