To let DD wear this dress to a wedding?

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My friend thinks it's unfair on the bridesmaids/bride?

https://www.matalan.co.uk/product/detail/s2652137c356/girls-corsage-bridesmaid-dress-3-13yrs-cream?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIxOOpkrHU3QIVLZPtCh2o5g63EAQYKCABEgJjlPDBwE

Wear what you both want her to wear, its a pretty dress Ask the bride. She will probably be glad that you are putting so much thought into it.

I didn’t have any bridesmaids or flower girls. If my friends daughter had turned up in that I wouldn’t mind at all. Depends on wedding. Ask the bride.

“I just think it’s a very weird thing to do, and wonder what the thought process is behind it.” •••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••IME the thought behind it is child wants to wear a nice dress because they’re going to a party, so parent lets them. Nothing more complicated than that.

Sorry if it's been said above already but it's cold now, so a pink cardi on top will help it look less bridesmaidy! I don't see the problem and don't think anyone will really mind or notice 😊

Yabu if she’s not a flower girl. Buy her a coloured or floral dress unless you want to look like the unhinged mother trying to force her kid into the bridal party.

Best wedding I ever went to had herds of children. Bride's directive was little girls wear cream with pink sash, boys a cream shirt with sash. There were about 30 cross legged up the aisle. Best day ever.

She’s 4, I think it absolutely fine and she should wear it.

Actually, thinking about it, I went to an evening reception with DS when DS was about six (and if the MNer whose reception it was is reading this, Hiiiiiiii! Hope you weren't horribly offended or anything). DS wore the outfit he had worn to my brother's wedding two months previously, because that was his Party Outfit and it was a bit... pageboy, because it had been bought for brother's wedding. But we are/were not all that well off, so it was designated Party Outfit for the next 18 months and it was that or a t-shirt with helicopters on and possibly indelible bolognese stains. I don't think anyone was outraged or distressed or assumed he was supposed to be a page boy or that we were making a point.

It’s fine, don’t get all the negativity

It must be getting more popular to do this kind of thing as I drove past a wedding party in my town the other day and saw a little girl in a pure white floorlength satin sticky out dress with a wide royal blue sash and big royal blue ribbons in her hair. I thought “oh a little flower girl“ as it was clearly a specially made dress and then I spied the rest of the bridal party behind her in a completely different colour scheme and Grecian style floaty dresses. You must have been driving very slowly to create this story in your head. Also, some people do have one child dressed specially against other flower girls etc. You have no idea what the situation was from your drive-by.

Ask the bride if you're really worried, but I think it's fine for a four years old. If she can't wear it to the wedding have a play date for her and a couple of friends where they all wear best dresses.

She’s 4. No one cares. Don’t ask the bride, that’s daft

It's even called a bridesmaid's dress in the description. Buy her something else - she is 4, she doesn't have to wear anything she wants.

Definitely not. It's a bridesmaid dress.

Not fine. It clearly says for a flower girl.

She’s 4 for gods sake, I can’t believe anyone would mind what she wears! If it was a question of you wearing the same/similar dress to adult bridesmaids then that’s a whole other issue but for people to tell you ‘she can’t wear that’ is just totally ridiculous!

I'm usually one for etiquette, but this is next level.

It's a 4YO in a party dress.

No right-minded bride will care. No guest will care. I can tell you right now no male guests will care, anyway! The only female guests who'll notice - let alone comment on it - seriously need to get out more.

I have to say, if a guest at my wedding asked me, I'd be mortified that they thought for even a second, that I'd be the type to mind about something as inconsequential as this.

I'm not saying don't ask - clearly that's the accepted position on this - but the outrage on this thread is quite something.

It looks like a party dress, it’s not especially bridesmaidy anyway. I know it says it is but unless you stick the printout from the page on her back nobody will know that. As long as the bridesmaids are wearing a different dress I wouldn’t give it a second thought tbh.

My aunt and her whole immediate family (8 of them) decided to order their own corsages. Pink and white roses with fussy bits. They didn't match, they didn't go with my deliberately chosen look Jesus Christ. You're angry that a relative wore the wrong colour flowers to your wedding.

Of course she can wear it! She's four years old, no-one gives a stuff what she wears, apart from her, to whom it will be very important indeed.

I didn't see the issue. With the greatest respect you must have saw the issue or you wouldn't have asked the question. Good IDEA from Piper.

If she wears it, it will look like you are trying to push her into the bridal party. You could get away with it if she wore a pink cardigan with it

If someone asks you if she's a flower girl, just say "No."

Oh good grief, no. It’ll just look like you were desperate for the flower girl role, didn’t get the gig, so you decided to dress her up as one anyway. It’s like showing up in white when you aren’t the bride.

Honestly wouldn't have cared if a four year old had worn this at our wedding and wasn't part of the bridal party. It's a sweet dress.