To let DD wear this dress to a wedding?

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My friend thinks it's unfair on the bridesmaids/bride?

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@katseyes7, sorry, but you actually got annoyed about that? A one year old being mistaken for a bridesmaid? Why?!??

She will be a beautiful and cute flower girl

If it was my wedding I wouldn't mind if your DD wore that.

@Strongmummy Not because of the child, but her mother - she did it on purpose. During the wedding ceremony, the little one started screaming, and her mother made no attempt to quiet her, or take her out. Her husband was the best man, and he turned round and was giving her daggers, to no avail. lt was more about the relationship between SIL and me - we didn't get on at all, and she didn't speak to me once on our wedding day.

My daughter wore dresses like this to parties. It’s just a dress and she’s a little girl, I think it’s absolutely fine 😊

Maybe ask someone in real life....like the actual bride!

I think if you put a bright little cardigan with it and colourful shoes and maybe hair accessory that match the cardi and are not too bridal it will be fine for a 4 year old and take it away from being too flower-girl. Do you have ny way of subtly finding out what the flower girl / bridesmaid situation is - to put your mind at rest, or even know the bride well enough to ask her?

It's not a 4yr old. It's not "let's all roll our eyes because people have a problem with a 4yr old, hooooow ridiculous".

It's the grown adult mother, putting her in the dress. Obviously.

No one will have a problem with the child. They'll have a problem with the mother, just like my aunt had a problem with me, until she realised I knew nothing about the bloody "surprise" buttonholes either.

Buttonholes for everyone at your wedding, pointless comment, that was your choice and included everybody. Not for a select few that indicated they were in the bridal party.

Do not make something look like part of the bridal party unless it's been decided by the bride and groom. It's not your decision. Don't be ill mannered enough to ask and put her on the spot and unable to say no.

@katseyes7 understood , so really it wasn’t the dress at all, more like your SIL is a tool 🤣

Let her wear it she's 4. I wouldn't care if someone turned up in a wedding dress at my wedding. Some of you people are crazy!

It's a beautiful dress. Of course she should be able to wear it! Don't worry about like a bridesmaid- she'll look like a princess!

I would let her wear it. Don’t see any problem with it unless the bridesmaid/flower girl is wearing the same dress

You can unclench Courtney, the dress isn't the same colour scheme of the bridal party.

It literally says 'flower girl' dress in the description. It just makes you look desperate.

@Strongmummy Yes! And the slyness of how she asked. ln front of her husband, my husband to be, her parents, his parents, and her mum's neighbour. How could l say no? l was basically coerced into it, and that's what infuriated me. The fabric was exactly the same type and colour as my bridesmaid's dress. Conveniently....

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Here's one that doesn't say flower girl so should be fine op!

Honestly I think that dress with pink tights and a little pink cardi would be fine

Yes, Donut, it does say flower girl, it's a marketing ploy so they can charge more for it. It could say wetsuit but that wouldn't make it one

If it was my wedding I wouldn't mind, she's only 4 and will look cute but I can see how some guests might think you were trying to make her look like a bridesmaid.

She's 4 let her wear the dress. Plus the bridesmaid may be wearing coloured dresses. Just don't put a flower crown on her.😂

Good friends got married a few weeks after my two dd's were flower girls at a family wedding. I was chatting with the bride about what we were all wearing and mentioned the flower girl dresses (very similar to this one) she thought it was a great idea. On the day, 5yr old chose to wear it, 3yr old chose her red party dress instead. No one thought 5yr old was a flower girl, just a little girl in a pretty dress. We clearly weren't part of the wedding party we were having far too much fun enjoying the wedding! Talk to the bride, send her the picture, it's the only way to know for sure that no ones feathers get ruffled, if it's a problem could dd change in to the dress after the ceremony when it's more of a party?

Why would the bride care if a 4 year old is wearing a pretty dress?! Lots of my nieces and child guests wore very similar dresses to this at our wedding and I thought it was adorable. They enjoyed feeling like princesses for the day as did I! If you were to wear it op then yes you would bu.

I'd have had no problem at my wedding - my bridesmaids wore gold. Check the colour scheme, add cardi etc in different colours and it's fine. PPs suggesting other dresses are missing the point that the little girl already has this dress, and loves it!

Perfectly fine, I love little girls wearing stuff like this at weddings! Just check withbride to see it’s ok and not the same! Can’t see any problem.

I wouldnt mind if a 4yo wore that dress to my wedding if it were my big day. Id find it nice that she picked such a pretty dress to wear

I don't know how any adult could come to a different conclusion. She is 4 year's old fgs- she is hardly going to upstage the bride.

Also agree with the suggestions of pink (or other bright coloured) cardy/ shoes/ tights/ accessories.