To think I shouldn't be expected to go to BILs birthday dinner?!

[l0stmummy]

ILs are celebrating BILs birthday at a rather nice restaurant. Under normal circumstances I would go. I'm not BILs biggest fan but I would always put on a smile and go as a family unit. However, I had a tooth extraction on Friday last week that had some complications. Long story short, its gotten infected and I have a face the size of a house. I can only see properly out of one eye, and the antibiotics I'm on are making me feel rotten. I'm in alot of pain and have no appetite. AIBU to think I shouldn't be expected to go to this family meal tonight? DH thinks I should still attend and is being quite stubborn about it.

Don’t go! He is BU to expect you to. You’re in pain and having a tooth extracted is seriously painful especially if it’s gotten infected!!! Get well soon lovely

No - you have the best reason ever for not going. How could you eat? And you don't have appetite anyway. Stay at home with a good book.

She didn't go

How are you today, OP?

Hope your whining man child has realised what a twat he was being.

Hope you're feeling a bit better.

How will you contribute? You wont be talking much,eating much.Stay home and get well soon

OP didn't go.

I would tell your DH to fuck the fuckity fuck right off.....

so sorry that has being so awful to you

Your DH really needs to grow up and get his priorities sorted... or pack his bags. I obviously don’t know you OP but I do know you deserve to be treated better than he is treating you!

You do t want to go and you have the perfect excuse. But it matters to your husband. Why not go along for 15 minutes, have a soft drink, say hi to everyone then go home?. Then do the decent thing and pick your husband up afterwards. Then he can have a drink. You’ll be doing right by everyone, including yourself. Hope you feel better soon

boom it was yesterday, she didn't go and her husband is an arse

And also Boom, she’s not a bloody mug. She’s ill. She doesn’t have to do anything.

”Then do the decent thing and pick your husband up afterwards. Then he can have a drink.”

@Boomclap - did you miss the bit in the OP where the poster said she could only see out of one eye? Or do you think it is safe or sensible for someone who can’t see properly to drive? Plus she is suffering from a raging infection, so didn’t feel like going out at all - let alone twice - once to ‘make an appearance’ and a second time to collect her dh so the poor love can have a drink.

Thankfully the OP decided not to go yesterday (you can highlight all the OP’s posts, so you don’t miss updates), and didn’t take your, frankly dangerous advice.

He was looking for a babysitter. What a controlling cunt.

Your husband is being a dickhead. Don't go.

Boom - you are as arrogant and mean as the Op’s Husband. Just wow at your comment. Glad I’m not in your head.

OP also said her husband isn't a drinker on p1

Jadfehwand the bastard once and for all!

Sorry, I meant jadfiewahnds - can’t spell!

I am glad you stood your ground OP. You were absolutely entitled to do so.
I do hope though that your 'D'P isn't punishing you for 'disobeying' him. It seems he would be the type.
Please know that it is not normal to be this controlling.

Also, genuine laugh out loud at jadfiewahnds.

I told him that if he's going to continue to treat me the way he does then I'll jadfiewahnds him.

Are you okay? How is he behaving now?

How's your tooth op? Hope you're feeling better.

Ignore the selfish twat and plan your exit from this abusive relationship.

😂😂 what is jadfiewahnds? 😂

Oh I remember your previous thread OP. I really felt for you.
My first proper relationship was like yours. 95% my ex was a complete cockwomble. Put up with it for 6 years then I LTB. Couldn't take it... he was sucking my soul out of me with his constant negativity and putting me down to make himself feel better. Ugh... awful.

Hugs OP. I hope you find some happiness somewhere soon...

@PlinkPlink

HTH!!