To think I shouldn't be expected to go to BILs birthday dinner?!

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ILs are celebrating BILs birthday at a rather nice restaurant. Under normal circumstances I would go. I'm not BILs biggest fan but I would always put on a smile and go as a family unit. However, I had a tooth extraction on Friday last week that had some complications. Long story short, its gotten infected and I have a face the size of a house. I can only see properly out of one eye, and the antibiotics I'm on are making me feel rotten. I'm in alot of pain and have no appetite. AIBU to think I shouldn't be expected to go to this family meal tonight? DH thinks I should still attend and is being quite stubborn about it.

No of course you shouldn't go. I'd be prepared to argue he shouldn't go either actually, unless you prefer that he does!

What's jadfiewahnds?! Of course you can't go or be made to feel you have to.

He is being a knob. Hope you feel better soon

I was going to say fake a migraine but your situation is generally much worse, bin it off and tell them you won’t be attending. How do they expect you to eat with that much pain. Wishing you better soon

Sorry I'm that stare I'm not sure I'd attend OHs birthday dinner, you're very unwell

He's using the whole "well I'm sorry I want to spend time with you" thing

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Or tell him you will go and you will say to them all- you should be so proud of how the cockwomble has had a massive tantrum because I said I wouldn't be coming. But it's fine I shall sit here in pain, looking at you all through one eye and not eat a damn thing you know cos I am in pain. Happy birthday BIL

Send a photo of your face to MIL and say you're not going but husband is so will see them there. That will end it.

He can spend time with you before, after, tomorrow and forever. Or he can spend time with you in the divorce court.. But hey I am single because I wont put up with this bullshit.

No you can't go. Mouth infections are truly horrible.

Nor would I and I’ve been married 36 years!

What’s up with him? Tell him you won’t be going. Silly man.

He said I don't have to eat anything. So what? I sit there like a lemon and watch people eating delicious food while I twiddle my thumbs. Nah I'd rather lay on the sofa and catch up on my soaps without your moaning in the background, love.

Hes a twat for even suggesting you go in the circumstances. Id bet anything he wouldnt go if it were him in your shoes...

It doesn’t matter at all that the table is booked and if he wants to spend time with you, he can book up something for just the two of you next week when you’re feeling better. He’s being a massive twat OP.

What on Earth is wrong with him?

Please don't go OP...

No way. Send DH on his own. Netflix and soft foods followed by a warm salty mouthwash. I’m a dentist and this is an order

He wouldn't attend a family meal for anyone in my family if he was fit as a fiddle. Hes just being an ass. Nothing new. Still insisting though

Don't tell me, he feels his family has expectations of him

Haha @chrisinthemorning Dentists orders!! he cant possibly beat that!!

@Idaho his dad definitely does

He’s being unreasonable and thoughtless. Tell him we’ve all said so! I can’t imagine that your in laws would expect you to show up with a swollen face and unable to eat.