... to feel insulted that my son-in-law called me "Thingy"?

[DancingForTheDog]

Had the family over this weekend - eight of us in all. We ordered in a takeaway and SIL was handing out the different dishes at the table. He was saying the name of the dish and then the name of the family member who ordered it, until he came to mine and said, "Red thai curry - pass that to Thingy", gesturing towards me with the tray. I said (in a good humoured way) "Thingy? Well I've never been called that before." and my daughter said "Perhaps not the best idea to call your MIL Thingy". I let it go, but it has narked me. I'm generally laid back but I think it's just the undercurrent of disrespect that's annoyed me. We get along fine, although not particularly close as he can be rather stand-offish with all of us. He's from a very wealthy background and I may be wrong but feel he may feel rather superior to us. Anyway, am I being a snowflake, or would this annoy you too?

"If your mil called everyone else round the table by their names and you “thingy” how would you feel?"

It's fascinating that I have asked this several times and nobody has answered....

Ok Bertrand - in the context described by the Op it would only bother me if I didn't like the person saying Thingy to start with and was looking for a reason to feel offended.

I think if her sister had inadvertently said Thingy instead of her name she would have laughed it off.

"John, Mary, Sarah, Thingy, Peter, Jane...."

And if her sister had said "Thingy" do you think she would have started a thread about it?

I can keep telling you I wouldn't be offended, you can keep disbelieving me.