To be jealous of my daughters lifestyle?

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She’s 20 and studying at Cambridge. We pay all her living costs, her wealthy grandparents give spending money, and she takes a student loan.

Yes she works very hard, but compared to me growing up skint, she has a great life. As a student I ate noodles and had chips as a treat at the end of a hard week. DH stays at home, and I bring in just over £100k a year outside of London.

So this summer, she’s been on 3 short haul holidays abroad, 1 longhaul, and 2 in the UK.

Not only that, she’s stayed at nice places too, the type dh and I would take to for a special treat. I can’t differentiate between what’s being paid by her, or her friends rich parents. As I can’t see her really being willing to spend £800 a night at a hotel or pay for Business Class flights. She’s only worked 4 actual weeks at a job this entire year.

AIBU to be jealous of my own daughter ?!

Well I’m jeAlous if your daughter too fwiw

Stupid fat fingers and gin

I'd be more worried than jealous.

Having to struggle (at least a bit) and stand on your own two feet, is one of the most character building things a young person can do imo.

I'm not saying she should live in poverty on bread and water, but I would worry that somehow she'll grow up not knowing what the 'real world' is like.

But still if she's happy, that's also a good thing.

I’m jealous of her too🤣🤣

You should treat yourself to a spectacular holiday as a reward to yourself for providing your child with such an awesome life.

That might mean a little less cash availab,e to your daughter - it I suspect she will survive😇😇

YANBU to be jealous, but YABU to have posted the braggiest thread of the day under the guise of an AIBU. What is there to even debate? You should want more for your children than you had anyway otherwise what is the point in having them?

Actually, just a thought but why would her friend's parents fund her lifestyle too?

I’d be curious about the source of the money, personally.

YANBU if you're doing without to fund her living expenses, so she can go on holidays.

But generally, parents strive to give their children a better life so be proud of that. At least she'll be set for life so you will have more money when she graduates ans gets a job.

Is DH a SAHD or disabled?

Yeah, I would be too except I don’t want to be studying at Cambridge or mingling with rich people as I’m feeling lazy. And have been on enough holidays that I’m happy sitting on the sofa with DDog.

I’m jealous of the lifestyle that I give my DC
They can’t really understand that getting a whole crunchie to themselves back in the 70’s was a big treat
YANBU I think student life seems very different now. I was very lucky and stayed st home but I worked and did loofas oh housework including most of the ironing.
My mum was so grateful but tbh I enjoyed it, we were brought up doing housework from a young age.
Now that I think about it, I’m letting my DC away with murder

I’m jealous of your £100k income With a SAHP!

Starting, everyone wants more for their kids than they had.

But 6 holidays this year and other luxury breaks when she's only put in 4 weeks work, is a bit different.

Maybe you should stop paying ALL her living costs!
All my nieces and nephews have middle class parents some went to private and most went to state school but they all took jobs throughout uni!

*loads of housework!!!!!
Loofahs
Mind you, I did scrub out a lot of baths

How could real life ever measure up?

I'm jealous of her too, but think she should work in the holidays etc, like most other students. Are you happy with your husband not working?

Sorry but you lost me at ' I bring in just over £100k a year outside of London.

God your one of those parents.
Maybe didn’t have it great as a youngster and then do well in life and not actually feel that happy that you’ve given them something you couldn’t have had.

My ex’s parents were like this, sent him to a good school, oxbridge educated lawyer, but they don’t really like that bit about him. Why did they bother doing it I asked myself!

I agree with a previous poster - I'd be concerned about the source of the money. 800 quid a night hotels and business class flights?

So the student loan pays towards her education? Are her wealthy grandparents giving her enough that she can afford so many holidays? Or is she working to fund them? I can understand you are jealous, but if you are only funding her living costs (as most parents do) I'm not sure what you can do?

Yuck, why would you post something like this? It's actually the most offensive shit i have seen all day. When it comes to crowing and bragging less is definitely more. "Oh I'm so worried that Peronel is too high achieving and has too many holidays". Cry me a river.

Surely that’s one of the reasons you worked so hard and have gone into an extremely high paying career - so your children don’t have to struggle like you did.

I’ve lived hand to mouth for my whole life - I don’t want that for my child. If he’s fortunate enough to go to University and be able to live comfortably whilst studying I’d be thrilled.

Also remember she will have to pay her student loan back. So if she is choosing to take this (when she could be putting the money from holidays towards funding her education instead) she will 100% regret this in the next few years!

I'd be concerned about where the money is coming from. 'Friend's parents' is a bit vague...

Just remember, she probably has to produce two essays a week and endure gruelling supervisions. She hasn’t time for a paid job.