To be jealous of my daughters lifestyle?

[rheak]

She’s 20 and studying at Cambridge. We pay all her living costs, her wealthy grandparents give spending money, and she takes a student loan.

Yes she works very hard, but compared to me growing up skint, she has a great life. As a student I ate noodles and had chips as a treat at the end of a hard week. DH stays at home, and I bring in just over £100k a year outside of London.

So this summer, she’s been on 3 short haul holidays abroad, 1 longhaul, and 2 in the UK.

Not only that, she’s stayed at nice places too, the type dh and I would take to for a special treat. I can’t differentiate between what’s being paid by her, or her friends rich parents. As I can’t see her really being willing to spend £800 a night at a hotel or pay for Business Class flights. She’s only worked 4 actual weeks at a job this entire year.

AIBU to be jealous of my own daughter ?!

Are people only to post about situations a lollipop lady in England will have direct experience of?

Yes, that and only that. On every single thread, in every single topic.

You'd better get to it

Having read the other thread which is (to use her own words) light hearted I really don't understand what the OP is on about.
The 'humour' of the other thread was that the dd has already spent £1000 of her student loan on flights for holidays next year ..

Really odd post. It’s very baggy. Not sure why it was relevant to let everyone know your salary. It feels like you want everyone to know how clever and privilidged your daughter. I think you should save that for the grandparents as I don’t think anyone else cares.

It’s a huge achievement to get into Cambridge but unless I actually know the student I seriously don’t give a shit.

Exactly Hester

I expect the OP has nipped off to bake the buns for later.

Yesuesyesss - you've called me sad and jealous. I didn't call OP anything. I didn't mention money at all - the boasting dressed up as concern i find perhaps not offensive but certainly wearisome and disingenuous. The OP didn't need to specify Cambridge, she could have said just said university, she didn't need to specify her salary she could have said "comfortably off". She can and should be proud of her's and her daughter's achievements but the boasting in the guise of concern is horrible.

I really worry about this generation coming up as I see how spoilt/cosseted my friend's children are - the expectations they have of how life should be. My girls are 14 and 16 and I am shocked by the rewards their friends get for 'normal' educational achievements. The holidays paid for without expecting DCs to contribute, the funded gap years, the swopping uni courses and starting all over funded by parents again.
I think the lyrics of this song sum it up

I wanna dance by water 'neath the Mexican sky
Drink some Margaritas by a string of blue lights
Listen to the Mariachi play at midnight
Are you with me, are you with me?

Who bloody doesn't want this? Difference is we had to wait and scrimp and save to dance by the water at midnight with or without a mariachi band - these teens expect it to be all handed to them - rant over!

Just curious but is she studying History of Art 🤨

I'm not so sure the daughter has it so good... yup it's all roses now, but has she had experience of budgeting and denying herself life's little luxuries? She's used to a comfortable life - it's a way of life a person can get used to, and will be very keen to keep.

Maybe she’s really a call girl and that’s how she’s got all of that money.

Thinly disguised stealthboast - I earn shitloads of money and my daughter is studying at Cambridge. Take that, you ordinary folk with your average salaries and thick children.

Are you sure she's not an escort?

If student loan/grandparents' contribution covers her rent and basic living expenses, I wouldn't be giving her extra money for holidays etc. Anything she wants above and beyond rent/food/books, she can pay for herself.

Yes. I'd be worried and jealous OP. I'm about the same age with older teens. Very worried and very very jealous, there you have it. Tell her she needs to pass her degree and get an amazing job and take her hard working mum on a shopping trip to New York! Hold her to it!

Indeed Worra or maybe she's planning fireworks ...Light the blue touch paper and stand well back

I think she is potentially a drugs mule

You'd better get to it

No thanks. I'd find it exceedingly dull.

Not sure if I understand the gist of this thread or not? What is she studying at university? We need more information.

Why would anyone be jealous of their own child ? I find that odd. My son is at uni and has had 3 jobs this summer him and his gf had a week in Turkey in a 5 star hotel this year that they both saved for. We haven’t been abroad this year we couldn’t afford it , I wasn’t jealous at all just enjoyed hearing all about it and seeing the pics

Do you know what? Our local lollipop lady is a fabulous woman with a vast number of interests and life experiences Akanamali
I can't speak for them all but I can't see why you should be bored.
It couldn't be that you have a prejudiced and narrow view of lollipop ladies, could it?

Hester, she's just having a little dig cos I used to be a Lollipop Lady

Most fun job I ever had. Thinking about it now, I quite miss it

Is she selling her body?

What a braggy thread.

Good for her.
OP you sound like a fun sponge.

£100k total household income is more like 2 people earning 40k each. Not that Braggy.

What a stupid thread OP - you can earn £100K a year and still post shit like this - you need to find a more fulfilling way to validate your life.