Is she being a CF?

[lexi727]

Friend who has twins the same age as my DS (2) suggested the other day that we go to a soft play area on Monday to catch up/so the boys can tire each other a bit. I said yes, and suggested that afterwards she and the twins come to my house for lunch afterwards. All is agreed, looking forward to it etc etc.

She has now messaged me saying this 'Hi Lexi727, looking forward to seeing you at softplay on Monday. Since you have suggested that the boys and I come over to yours afterwards anyway, would it be okay if I just dropped them at yours afterwards and then got all my housework/shopping done and then picked them up later in the day?' Then went on to send a second message about 10 mins later just saying how hard it is to cope with twins and get everything done round the house.

I haven't replied yet, but am I right in saying wtf? I also have a 6 week old DD, and I'm not sure if I can control 3 rowdy two year olds?!?! I invited them under the assumption she would be there too, and it was very clear when I suggested it that she was to come as well. I even said I would get in some tetley tea bags for her! (She only likes tetley tea, weird but whatever)

AIBU to say fuck no, or should I just be a good friend and allow her to get her cleaning done whilst I try and entertain three 2 year olds as well as look after DD?

Say no. Remind her you've got a 6 week old and that you weren't offering free childcare.

Fuck no! would be my reply of choice.

She's being a cheeky twat so don't agree.

When do you get your cleaning done? Perhaps she'd like to return the favour and have your newborn and 2 yo at some point?

So, no. YANBU. She is being a CF.

........and it's got to be Yorkshire tea, I don't like Tetley, too bland.

I think that is a lot to cope with when you have a baby to look after as well. Perhaps text back that you find it quite hard to do housework and shopping with a toddler and a baby so you understand, but until the baby is older, you won't be able to supervise three toddlers properly. Unless you are VERY good friends, I think she is a CF. An offer to come over for lunch is NOT an offer to babysit.

YANBU. The lunch invite, was based on the assumption she would be coming too. Fair play to her for trying

No!
Just a simple No is enough.

She’s being a CF.

@HolyMountain my sentiments exactly! Yorkshire tea or nothing in my opinion.

Yes she’s being a bit cheeky but with 2YO twins I don’t blame her for trying it on! Yes it might be nice to do her a favour but don’t feel obliged and don’t do it if you don’t want to. Just reply with ‘Sorry that doesn’t work for me as I’ve already got my hands full with the baby and I was looking forward to catching up. Are you we still on to meet at soft play or would you prefer to rearrange?’

Is she the type to reciprocate? My friend is a single mum and my DH works long hours, each of our two youngest DC get along really well so in the school holidays I sometimes take her two youngest and visa versa, the idea being that it's easier to snatch a quite cuppa and five minutes sit down when you've only got the older DC at home who don't need as much continuous input.

Could you reply and say "I'll have the twins over to play for a bit, would you be able to have DS for a few hours on ?"

Just say you have a 6 week old baby a D you won't be able to cope with baby and 3 two years old alone

@Liesmyparentstoldme I know that's what I thought 😂😂 it's very bold, if nothing else!

Cheeky fucking cow.

Tell her no you don't want to babysit her 2 while wrangling your own 2 while she has a nice child free afternoon, thanks very much.

YANBU, she is being very cheeky. You could copy and paste her message and replace ‘2yr old twins’ with ‘a 2 yr old and a 6 week old’. It’s just as hard.
Tell her no, you definitely couldn’t manage 4 kids by yourself.

Lol no. She’s might be despairing on lack of sleep so I’d be gentle, but it would be a gentle no.

Also Tetley? Yorkshire? It's Rington's or nowt.

Major CF! Has she forgotten you gave birth 6 weeks ago to another child?!

@EwItsAHooman she absolutely does not reciprocate! Our other friend who has a DD who's a bit older has taken the twins once literally for an hour whilst she needed to go to the dentist and when other friend needed the same favour but for an ultrasound she said she doesn't think she could cope with 3 kids all in one go!

@Maelstrop she bloody hasn't forgotten because she keeps hinting that she should be godmother to her!!! Even though I have told her 3 times she's not even getting christened!

Definitely don't have them in that case! It's not so bad when it's someone who reciprocates, you know you'll have your hands full but you're going to get some free time in exchange.

I'd tell her you were looking forward to lunch and a catch up and really can't manage four children on your own with such a young baby, and if she's got too much stuff to get done at home does she want to reschedule for another day.

What a cheeky mare!

I have two yr old Twins and I wouldn't dream of leaving them with another Mum. They're mad those kids.

Maybe answer with "sorry, but I don't feel safe having all the kids on my own. Have you thought about getting some help in?"

Just text back "Haha, nice try! lol But seriously if you have alot on I understand so if you'd rather reschedule altogether or just do soft play. Let me know?"

'HA! Good one!'