Is she being a CF?

[lexi727]

Friend who has twins the same age as my DS (2) suggested the other day that we go to a soft play area on Monday to catch up/so the boys can tire each other a bit. I said yes, and suggested that afterwards she and the twins come to my house for lunch afterwards. All is agreed, looking forward to it etc etc.

She has now messaged me saying this 'Hi Lexi727, looking forward to seeing you at softplay on Monday. Since you have suggested that the boys and I come over to yours afterwards anyway, would it be okay if I just dropped them at yours afterwards and then got all my housework/shopping done and then picked them up later in the day?' Then went on to send a second message about 10 mins later just saying how hard it is to cope with twins and get everything done round the house.

I haven't replied yet, but am I right in saying wtf? I also have a 6 week old DD, and I'm not sure if I can control 3 rowdy two year olds?!?! I invited them under the assumption she would be there too, and it was very clear when I suggested it that she was to come as well. I even said I would get in some tetley tea bags for her! (She only likes tetley tea, weird but whatever)

AIBU to say fuck no, or should I just be a good friend and allow her to get her cleaning done whilst I try and entertain three 2 year olds as well as look after DD?

She’s a CF! Good job you know she form for not reciprocating.

Give her a taste of her own medicine and tell her you couldn’t possibly cope with four children on your own then suggest she hires one of those deep clean companies to go round to her house while you’re all at soft play.

I don't think she's being a cheeky fucker. I think she asked a question which she knew would be stretching the limits of reasonableness and it's your choice to decline.

Fair play to both of you - it's not easy dealing with house/admin/shopping etc with 2yr twins, neither is it easy doing it with a new born and toddler either.

Some friends do have these sorts of reciprocal arrangements - yes I know the clue is in the name 'reciprocal' but it was a request which you can't fulfil. That's it. MN loves to jump on a cheeky-fucker bandwagon so much so that I think we should rename AIBU.

She's a CF as is anyone who says they don't blame her for trying it on. WTAF. 'No, that doesn't work for me, I'm not really in a position to offer babysitting. Do you still want to come for lunch with the boys or are we just doing soft play.'

The end.

Reply:

“Oh bless you, I know it’s so hard to cope with two kids. I’m struggling with 2yo and newborn so I just don’t think I can handle 3 x 2yo’s and my new baby at the moment. When they get a bit older we can maybe do swapsies for childcare but not yet. If you need to rearrange I won’t mind x”

Yep, C.F.

Nip it in the bud now & say a very firm NO! These sorts don't give up & get worse

"Oh, I'm sorry, I think you miss understood me, I wasn't offering childcare, but a get together, NVM if you need to cancel, but sorry, it's still not an offer of childcare"

InstagramPork - That’s a really good reply.

C bloody F. Honestly. Some people.

Am I the only one reminded of the scary SoftPlayZilla threads?

Oh, and OP: say no. She's a CF. Some excellent possible responses above - take your pick.

Yah total C F nice try but you have more than enough on your hands and watching 3 2 yr olds you'll need more than eyes in the back of your head.

She has form as you have seen from her dealings with your other friend.

Big red flags - this is who she is - exploitative and selfish.

Just say "No - that wont work for me".

Then drop her as a friend - otherwise you will be on high alert for getting shafted 24/7.....and she will win.

There are lots nice people around. No one needs someone like her in their life.

If she had said - would you be interested in a babysitting share upfront then you could have considered it -- but with 4 kids under two - 3 mobile and a 6 week old needing your focus - no even sure if it would be safe!!

"No. But thanks for the laugh - 3x 2 year old boys and a 6 week old baby, as if!"

I replied saying 'oh I'm sorry love, I just don't think I would be able to cope with all four kids at once! If you're struggling for time, how about just softplay and we can do lunch another time? If you're struggling at home why don't you ask husband to pull his weight a bit more around the house?'

That text resulted in more cheeky fuckery!! Response attached... the bits blacked out are names.

Oh dear, I think it’s kicking off.

@lexi727 you want 3 kids so it's good *practice 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 the CF!! Nice response back too!

Wow her brass neck is amazing. I found caring for a newborn very hard, plus your toddler and two others noway. Good practise, hmmm how often will she be letting you practise if you let her.

Yikes
She really is trying her luck here

Oh, fuck her off! She's a silly cow for putting up with a cock of a husband who doesn't pull his weight and then cheekily expect her mates to provide childcare. You were very nice in your reply. Good riddance, start cutting her a wide berth.

Sorry I actually meant to put then.

She needs to get a playpen, put the twins in it, whilst she does her housework. Do online shopping, or put them in a pre school for a couple of morning a week, so that she gets some time to herself. I had to do that, and many others too.

She's being most odd.

Has she forgotten how much care a six week old needs?

Might be the drawing to a close of the friendship.

Mother of steins here, with no family help you manage she is cheeky and there is no way this is about cleaning otherwise she wouldn't be bone badgering and trying to guilt you into this after you no.

Answer lol, nice try! When I have three I will have them spaced out and no baby who will need feed or changing.
Very sorry you will miss lunch I was looking forward to the catch up if you want we can cancel soft play to another day so you can dedicate the day to the cleaning.

You get help and you don't have twins so you're lucky lol

Twins! Mother of twins!