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Is she being a CF?

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lexi727 · 22/09/2018 14:51

Friend who has twins the same age as my DS (2) suggested the other day that we go to a soft play area on Monday to catch up/so the boys can tire each other a bit. I said yes, and suggested that afterwards she and the twins come to my house for lunch afterwards. All is agreed, looking forward to it etc etc.

She has now messaged me saying this 'Hi Lexi727, looking forward to seeing you at softplay on Monday. Since you have suggested that the boys and I come over to yours afterwards anyway, would it be okay if I just dropped them at yours afterwards and then got all my housework/shopping done and then picked them up later in the day?' Then went on to send a second message about 10 mins later just saying how hard it is to cope with twins and get everything done round the house.

I haven't replied yet, but am I right in saying wtf? I also have a 6 week old DD, and I'm not sure if I can control 3 rowdy two year olds?!?! I invited them under the assumption she would be there too, and it was very clear when I suggested it that she was to come as well. I even said I would get in some tetley tea bags for her! (She only likes tetley tea, weird but whatever)

AIBU to say fuck no, or should I just be a good friend and allow her to get her cleaning done whilst I try and entertain three 2 year olds as well as look after DD?

OP posts:
LexieLulu · 22/09/2018 16:08

Jesus it would be impossible to care for a newborn and 3 two year olds!!!

Original poster
lexi727 · 22/09/2018 16:08

@BasicUsername I mean, it would be good practise, but only if when I have my third all my children will magically become 2 year old boys as soon as no3 pops out?

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BasicUsername · 22/09/2018 16:08

I hope she sees this and realises that tons of people think she is rude AF.

BasicUsername · 22/09/2018 16:10

"but only if when I have my third all my children will magically become 2 year old boys as soon as no3 pops out?"

And only if you also get another bonus kid thrown in for free, because it's four you'd be looking after if you took her up on her kind offer of practice!

dustarr73 · 22/09/2018 16:12

That text message is something else.Its so PA.As if you dont have enough on your plate.

cheesefield · 22/09/2018 16:12

So she doesn't actually want to see you, she was just trying to trick you into babysitting for the afternoon. Sly little wench.

tolerable · 22/09/2018 16:13

no way-theres sod all that equates in plan a.. to a double trouble burden babysit.shes taking kindness for daftness. just say sorry no,i was just going to message you it would have to be quick-lunch as ive just been reminded of plans for the afternoon. ...if she wants you to babysit-she has to at least ask properly.

LannieDuck · 22/09/2018 16:18

I would have been tempted to remind her that she couldn't look after 3 two-year olds when your mutual friend asked her to reciprocate childcare, so you're sure she understands that it's too much for you when you have a 6-week old to look after on top? ;)

Amirite · 22/09/2018 16:19

I have 2 yo twins and no part of me says this is ok, tell her no. In fact, tell her HELL NO! Bloody rude.

Original poster
lexi727 · 22/09/2018 16:19

Are the constant 'huns' irritating anybody else? I am not your hun, hun

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Ariela · 22/09/2018 16:20

I'd say 'Brilliant, if you can put your shopping away then come to mine, you can then look after all 3 plus my 6 week old while I get to go and do all my shopping.'

Original poster
lexi727 · 22/09/2018 16:24

@Ariela hahahah! I should have tried that. I dream of the day I can walk into a supermarket without a toddler in tow...

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Welshmaiden85 · 22/09/2018 16:26

I actually didn’t think the first message was cheeky. She didn’t assume it was okay, she asked. But the second message was weird!!

Gemini69 · 22/09/2018 16:26

she sounds as patronising as she does arrogant and fecking rude OP .. Flowers

Lynne1Cat · 22/09/2018 16:26

Yes, she's a CF. Tell her that you can't.

BasicUsername · 22/09/2018 16:28

Has she replied to your message?

YouTheCat · 22/09/2018 16:30

I have twins. Admittedly they are 23 now but I can remember what them being 2 was like. I got no help with anything and I still wouldn't have asked a friend with a newborn and a toddler to watch my kids.

Original poster
lexi727 · 22/09/2018 16:35

@BasicUsername she has indeed, bare with me whilst I block out the names.

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GenericHamster · 22/09/2018 16:37

Twins are hard work but a newborn and three two-year-olds? No way!

ApolloandDaphne · 22/09/2018 16:41

She is one CF. I rather think she is no longer your friend!

YearOfYouRemember · 22/09/2018 16:41

I don't cancel everything tbh.

YearOfYouRemember · 22/09/2018 16:42

FFS WOULD

WhiteCoyote · 22/09/2018 16:48

I was actually sympathetic with her to begin with as she sounded at the end of her tether, but now I think she’s just nasty after that follow up text. Thank god you’re shot of her op.

Original poster
lexi727 · 22/09/2018 16:51

These were the last texts we have exchanged - message she sent before that just contained some personal stuff that might be 'outing'

Is she being a CF?
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cheesefield · 22/09/2018 16:56

Oh blimey. Yep, she can do one. I'd be stepping back from her.

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