To feel sad about spending the weekend completely alone?

[teakettlewhistle]

I don’t know if anyone else is in the same boat. I was reading a thread about people’s plans for Saturday and felt sad

I love having the weekend to myself, I binge watch crap and I mean crap tv, have a bath, we are detached so I play music loudly, I eat what I when I want.

Haven't had one for years.

Is it a regular thing Op?

I'd love it as a novelty

Oh and bring wine o' Clock forward and go to bed either really early or stupidly late.

I’m sure it’s great as a novelty but not really when it’s a way of life (as with most things I think.)

To be honest people saying how much they’d love it is pretty insensitive at best.

Good point re novelty, it used to happen about twice a year.

Like Martha said it's great to have a weekend alone once in a while usually as a rare treat not so nice when it's forced upon you too often.

Why are you on your own at the weekend?
Presumably you aren’t on your own during the week

Oh OP. Why are you alone this weekend? Can you plan a good walk out, a browse in the shops, a film by yourself, a hot choc in a cafe or some time on the sofa watching your favourite thing?

I would love it as a one off but would get lonely if it's every weekend. I've even tried palming my husband off on the next door neighbour to give me some peace and quiet!
Why don't you get out and do something new alone? I like craft fairs on my own so I don't have people nagging me to move along quicker!

Haven't had one for years.

It stops being fun when it's the default.

Ah I see

So it's a regular thing

Then Yanbu

I won't patronise you by asking if you have hobbies etc....

I wouldn't like to be alone every weekend either.

I spend every weekend alone through choice. And I do love it.

@teakettlewhistle enjoy the peace or if you don't like it do something about it

It's shit isn't it OP.

That’s great 5bob

Perhaps the key is choice. Who knows. It’s not even half ten and I feel like I’ve been alone since time began

Could you find a hobby/activity that meets on weekends? If possible, start making advance plans for a few meet-ups with friends, so there's something in the calendar to look forward to.

What would you suggest tam?

See friends ... sometimes I do, but it isn’t easy as they tend to be with their own families.

Thanks

I do understand I spent a long time on my own before I had a family and no every weekend gets really hard and it is frustrating when people say go and see friends because often they are with partners or family

It can be really lonely and feel quite empty and all the hobbies in the world don't help , I don't think I ever solved it to be honest so I have no answers but no yadnbu to feel a bit sad

Yabu however for getting defensive and snippy in your second post ...you didn't give enough information for people to assess the tone so you do rather need to knock the attitude off

Yes I would be sad too if it was the default position So I am sorry for you op. I am not far off from this position as my options are dwindling as the years go by. I find myself looking forward to the weekend as a break from full time work but often find that apart from chores I am not doing anything else, small immediate family who don't need me so much. I am determined to do something about it though and writing it down like this and reading your comments make me even more determined! Find things to occupy you, interests, hobbies etc and eventually these will lead to human connections. Being pro active will automatically make you feel better. Good luck op and get planning

It’s a shame you read it like that getting ... the rest of your post was spot on but to be honest it’s hard not to get snippy. I mean, I do totally understand it’s nice to have a bit of peace but surely people can appreciate they wouldn’t like it if they had that peace because they actually had no one?

I’m alone most weekends due to DH’s shifts. It’s just the way it works out.

I used to get sad about it until I actually thought about it properly and realised that my weekends are the only time I actually get to do whatever I want and can be COMPLETELY in control of my time. That’s kind of powerful to me.

Granted, I choose to spend that time mostly on the sofa watching crap tv and eating but hey, the heart wants what the heart wants!

I'm on my own this saturday as DP is working into the wee small hours of tomorrow. I like to treat myself to a new book and waste the afternoon dipping in and out. I understand how the loneliness can get to you, it is a tough one. Cups of tea, big snuggly jumper, a favourite film and then some wine and a throw in the oven meal for later?

I wish I could spend my weekends alone. Im with my kids 24:7 and never get a break