AIBU to feel a lot of sympathy for Lily Allen?

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The description of her childhood in her recent memoir sounds horrible and extremely damaging. As described, her self indulgent showbiz parents may have paved the way for her in her career but seem to have failed on every other level. Very depressing, I hope she gets a good therapist.

Lily Allen if you're reading please give up your fame and wealth in favour of a job akin to what us mere peasants have.

I’ve a,ways liked her and have never understood the hate. I think maybe. people equate famous parents with a privileged upbringing, and the hate flows from there.

I have to admit I never liked her. I would some sympathy for her upbringing, I haven't heard her story. There are lots of fame hungry parents, that created celebrity DC some of which have become millionaires.

“Someone call 999....” was what Alex Turner said about Richard Hawley when Arctic Monkeys won. She was joking.

I feel sorry for her kids. She doesn't seem to consider them when she is is on a publicity drive.

Lily Allen if you're reading please give up your fame and wealth in favour of a job akin to what us mere peasants have

Do you say that to all pop stars 9am or just the pretty female ones?

Ah were you being sarcastic? If so sorry not enough coffee

Her music's shite and she can't sing she wasn't robbed Florence and the Arctics were.

No.
I'm wondering what sort of childhood she is giving her dds really... What they will think when they read all this about their mum watching porn, threesomes etc.

Anyone can do what they want in private but being discreet. She's just perpetuating a cycle.

realising you don't have to be a victim

Well, whether or not somebody is a victim is a statement of objective fact outside their control. If somebody has victimised you by abusing you, raping you, robbing you, assaulting you, stealing from you - then you are by definition a victim.

It's not a slur, or a personal failing. It's not a choice anybody can make.

Nobody gets to choose the kind of injuries they are left with. Just like they don't choose to be victimised. The person responsible for harming them in the first place is the only person who deserves your ire. Or does your concept of "responsibility" not extend to the people who make deliberate choices to inflict harm on others?

People who blame victims instead of their attackers, and by extension shield attackers by shifting blame and responsibility onto their victim, should be ashamed of themselves. And that is exactly what you're doing every time you use "victim" as a slur.

Just an attention seeker, couldn't give two hoots about any so called celebrities wouldn't recognise most if I fell over them in the street.

She's an Attention seeker, has to create a scandal in order to sell something which in this case is a book, not particularly great at what she does (I have seen her live and I can say it was underwhelming to say the least) and spouts utter bollocks most of the time.

I don't feel sorry for anyone who pays into the sex industry.

I've just read her recent memoir and came to the same conclusion. I've always liked her and had no idea about her shocking upbringing. As soon as I read it I hugged my kids and told them how much I love them. She's been through a lot.

I posted about Lily Allen's past on here a few years ago with a sympathetic tone.

And her Step Mum PM'd me and argues that she had a wonderful up bringing, and what she says is bullshit and just for the press. And apparently they don't call her Lily at home they call her something different, like Lila or something. I can't remember.
It was fucking weird.
I'll see if I can find the PM...

Crikey, what's she done to all of you? Is this 'good PR"? All I know about her is she's a fairly mediocre singer and has just published an extremely ill-advised memoir of which I've read fragments, courtesy of daily mail. And she sounds quite disturbed which cannot be a good thing for anyone.

I like her. She's herself, flawed, but herself.

The Mercury prize thing was a joke I think.

@ButAIBUtho 😮😳 oh my god!!

Bloody hell But weird indeed

Totally unreasonable.

She is an attention seeking little madam who seems to forget that her "revelations" about using prostitutes and her narcissistic tweeting will be there for her own kids to read in the future.

Loved that when she was Satruday Kitchen she got food hell - nobody else likes her either!

I find her very hypocritical, a few years back she would slate celebs for garnering attention now she seems obsessed with it herself. I don’t like her revealing her her liaison with Liam Gallagher, he was married at the time and has kids. The only thing that would do is bring heartbreak and humiliation to his family whilst bringing her money and headlines.

Amazing how much hatred and contempt can be conjured about a person most of us have probably never met ... Projection, much?

I don’t like her revealing her her liaison with Liam Gallagher, he was married at the time and has kids

Why not? He was!

Some really nasty attitudes on this thread. Poor woman!

There's no doubt she's damaged but I find her lack of self awareness irritating. She fancies herself as a bit of a maverick but instead she's just a walking cliché. I wish she hadn't had children while she was so young and fucked up. She seems to be leaving a trail of devastation in her path , just like her father. That said, I really did like some of her music back in the day.

NOPE, I just looked back in my PM's it wasn't Lily Allen's step mum it was Tulsa's step mum that PM'd me from N-Dubz. 😂😂