Who should be feeding the baby?

[TiredNick]

So, just a quick vote for opinions here please, who should be feeding the baby tonight?

Baby is 10 months old. Over the last week: parent A has been to work for four days, has done 5 early morning feeds, four teatime feeds and no last feed at 10pm. Has also had the morning off work today as no childcare until lunchtime.

Parent b has worked for five days, finished early today to collect baby from childcare. Done four last feeds at 10pm. Done no early morning feeds and one teatime feed.

Last night. Parent a offered to do the last feed, parent b accepted the offer of an early night. Parent a forgot this and so asked parent b at 10.30 what time the baby was being fed, causing parent b to get up from watching tv in bed and feed baby.

Historically, parent a does early
Morning and parent b does last night feed. Tonight, parent a asked parent b to do something before they fed the baby. Parent b says parent a should feed the baby tonight as parent a forgot they had offered last night. There was no discussion about this other than this interchange. Parent a assumed b would do last feed as usual, parent b assumed a would as they had forgotten they had offered last night. For background, both parents are exhausted and worn out, but who should be feeding the baby tonight? Parent a will be up early and will be allow parent b a lay in until around 9am as per most weekend mornings. Thoughts please,
A or b?

Couldn't even be bothered to read it all. Stop being childish and feed your bloody kid without moaning.

^ agreed. It's not a chore to be divvied up.

Say whaaaaaaat?

I’m too tired to read it. Just feed the damn baby

Surely both parents WANT to be the one to feed their child?! I couldn't even read the whole post, I'm shocked. Just feed the poor baby!

Thanks so much for your support ladies. Do remind me never to post anything supportive on your posts. Am just looking for some genuine thoughts not criticism so do feel free not to comment again.

I agree with the others I'm afraid! I love feeding my baby no matter what time of day or night!

TLDR

I can't believe you have counted how many feeds each parent has done. Jesus Christ.

Would have taken less time to feed the baby than to write that post. Just get on with it, who counts up which person has done feeds at what time anyway? Assuming person a and person b have more issues at the minute then feeding a baby.

Good god, I think both parents have lost perspective with being so tired. Is it that much of a chore for one of you to feed the baby?

How is feeding a baby at 10pm at night even a big deal? Feed the baby, go to bed. Done. I'm not sure what teatime feeds have to do with anything.

By “last feed” do you mean there’s no feeding through the night? Sounds pretty amazing!

Can’t be bothered to decider but...

Feed your child and make him do some laundry or something 🤷‍♀️

Stop moaning. You have a 10 month old who sleeps through the night/ doesn’t have any night feeds? Just be happy about this!
‘Causing parent a to get up from watching tv in bed’?! At 10.30. This isn’t a big deal. Is this your first child?

You realise this child will need meals and drinks providing for the next 7, 10, 12 years right?

Parent B shouldn't have been a martyr last night and shouldn't have got out of bed, instead should have reminded parent A they said they would do it.

Tonight? Meh.

Yes there is a lot more going on than who should feed the baby! For those of you who are concerned, the baby has of course been fed! Think i was just looking for a bit of support to perhaps approach my other half and suggest we need to be having a more equal share. I’ll not post again here as you’re all fairly unkind. But thanks

Does it really matter? Whichever parent is still up at the time the dc wakes, surely?

you realise you could have fed the baby in the time it took to write that

I lost track of the duties there.

Pathetic.

Does it need to be equal? Can't it just be what suits at the time?

I miss feeding babies.

I don't know.

But when mine were 10 months old, parent breasts fed them bazillion times day and night and parent nobreasts couldn't, so didn't, ever, so the concept of taking it in turns and keeping dibs is too discombobulating for me to help you. Sorry.

I hope you get some sleep though. Early days are hard no matter how you do things.

By 'feeding' Do we mean anything more complicated or hard word than giving your baby a bottle and a cuddle? Because it sounds more hard work than it is from your post OP.