To only pay for vegan food at my wedding?

[ClaraBanana7]

Haven't set a date yet, but it'll be in around 2 years so it's not right around the corner or anything, but DP and I are both vegans. Neither of us have a problem with other people eating animal products, I don't think I've ever even brought up veganism unless I'm at a restaurant and need to order because I really hate confrontation and I've seen/heard so many cruel and horrible things being said to vegans. That said, we don't want to pay for the guests to be served animal products at our wedding.
Some of my friends think it's unfair and that restaurants etc are pandering to the vegan 'fad' (even though I've been vegan all my life) so I should cater to everyone's dietary requirements. I told them I was considering putting a meat option on the catering form, but that whoever picked it would have to pay for it themselves as I really don't want to give my own money towards that industry. But, my friends also think it's unfair that some people have to pay and others don't.
DP doesn't want to have an animal product option at all, and tbh I would also prefer this, but I want a way of not isolating people who can't go a meal without eating animal products.

Your wedding, so your menu shouldn't have to contain anything you ethically object to

I'm an omnivore, but I don't keel over if I have a vegan meal and of course it wouldn't put me off attending.
I've enjoyed some delicious vegan dishes
(but also shuddered at some soya pretend meat abominations - imo, don't do pretend stuff)

I am a meat eater and would be happy with a fully vegan menu. I’d enjoy trying things which I consider too much of a faff to prepare myself. Presumably you can have soya milk in tea and coffee.

Serve a delicious vegan meal for everyone.

If you want to give people the option of buying dead animal products for their own consumption, maybe have a couple of street food options during the evening party that guests pay for.

To me, that would seem less weird and grabby than a paid option for the main meal.

Having had to cater and pay for different vegan and vegetarian meals at my wedding I'd be very cross if I wasn't given an option to have meat for my meal at a wedding. If o was asked to pay for it I wouldn't go to the wedding.

Yeah go for it! Serve just vegan food. sounds yum. Just make sure there are options free from common allergens such as wheat, gluten, nuts, soya if your guests are allergic:) have a great wedding

Full vegan. Dont even mention it as an issue - if anyone brings it up act completely confused about the fact that someone is complaining about the fact they are eating a single meal without meat. A meal paid for by someone else. It's ridiculous.

I went to the wedding of my vegan friends and I would have been surprised to see any non vegan foods there. It was a lovely ceremony and I didn't die from having a meat free day

Lydia When I have went to weddings I have been there pretty much all day. So yes just drinking water, orange juice and coke for a whole day is not a great option. Will do it if I have to though. Wouldn't be an issue though if I was drinking alcohol. Its only because I wouldn't be that it is an issue. I am glad some pubs now serve tea and coffee. Spent too many long evenings in pubs wanting to drink something, but sick to the back teeth of coke or orange juice.

Almond or cashew milk is good in hot drinks - I prefer them to dairy

Your wedding, your money, your food.

Have a Vegan wedding, OP.

I'm an occasional meat eater but if I was a guest, I would applaud you for sticking to your principles on your big day.

It will help your guests realise that Vegan food is delicious and it is perfectly possible for them not to eat meat at every meal.

sleep soya milk in tea is rank.

No one here would make vegan's and vegetrians cough up for there own food. For allergy reason i really cannot eat most vegan food (I am deadly allergic to nuts) So i would simply decline.

As would you if there was no vegan option and the vegetarian was Cheese based.

No one on here would say its one meal vegans / vegetrians can skip the meal or eat parts of said meal they can do since its only 1 meal they can cope with having whats on offer.

At my wedding there will be limited alcohol

No alcohol till the evening time.

If people have a problem with this, dont come... My wedding is about me and my partner, not about people getting drunk in the afternoon

Huge problems psychologically if they can’t deal without meat for one meal. Give them vegan food, open their minds .

Tbh I would be way more upset about the no alcohol wedding than the no meat wedding!

Just serve a vegan meal for everyone. People can go one day without eating meat. Food that doesn’t contain animal products isn’t just for vegans you know 😂

Having had to cater and pay for different vegan and vegetarian meals at my wedding I'd be very cross if I wasn't given an option to have meat for my meal at a wedding.
How delightful you sound.

Make sure you have NO NUT based vegan food otherwise you would seriously be limiting people (actually look at most vegan foods are nut based)

Just have a vegan menu. It’s one meal

When I have went to weddings I have been there pretty much all day. So yes just drinking water, orange juice and coke for a whole day is not a great option. Will do it if I have to though. Wouldn't be an issue though if I was drinking alcohol. Its only because I wouldn't be that it is an issue. I am glad some pubs now serve tea and coffee. Spent too many long evenings in pubs wanting to drink something, but sick to the back teeth of coke or orange juice.

I understand what you're saying and I often have a coffee after my meal but I still wouldn't expect a vegan to provide milk. I'd just drink it black or drink something else. You could always bring your own UHT milk/cream pots if you're desperate.

Veganism is much more than not eating meat. So getting fed up of those commenting as if it was.

I can only eat very plain food so there's probably nothing I could eat on your menu. I've gone to plenty of do's where I have been unable to eat so it depends on how close I am to you.

A close friend/relation, I'd absolutely attend and just not eat. Someone not particularly close or if i was just invited because we have a mutual set of grandparents, then I'd probably stay away as I wouldn't go without a meal for someone I don't see very often and am not bothered about.

I think any of this is only an issue if you're having an enormous wedding and inviting lots of distant friends and family who don't care that much about you. People like that may expect a meal to their liking and lots of free alcohol if they're going to bother coming.

Any reasonable person who likes you will be able to enjoy a day seeing you get married and live without meat and alcohol. There should definitely be enough filling food though. Nothing worse than being starving all day.

Whyy is it that people (rightly ) are supposed to cater for vegans or veggies but they refuse to cater for meat eaters. You would soon kick up a fuss if you went to a wedding were only meat was served or you had to pay for vegans options.