Things you should never say in front of childless women

[Clothrabbit]

Just following on from another thread I started, what things have childless women on here had said to or in front of them, or read celebs spouting in public, that really hurt or upset them.

For me:

You don't know what real responsibility is until you have a child.
Having a child makes you less selfish.

The WHO defines infertility as a disease of the reproductive system

But what would they know about what is and isn't a medical condition!!

How can you not see that rubbing the experience of a long walk in the face of someone who is physically unable to do that but would give anything to is similar to rubbing the fact you have children in the face of someone who is physically unable to but would give anything to do that? Is it because you'd be horrified at someone who did the first of those two examples? Because if so that's funny...

Banana why the need to be so rude, sarcastic and insulting to people with children. You are making it into an us and them situation and it doesn’t need to be like that.

user I don't know how you dare after your completely goady comment about your children upthread. Which I have reported.

I have reported User as well. Her comments are becoming increasingly unacceptable and goady.

user1494667160 no User. You made it into that. Along with some others. Again... The OP was asking for childless women to share examples of things they find insulting. You are not a childless woman and you had nothing nice to say either yet you came here and told us all about how you think this and that is true etc... There was nothing to be gained from it except hurting people's feeling. You hurt lots of people. Yet you still can't just go... Is it not enough that you've hurt people who are already suffering? Just go. Honestly.

My own sister made a comment about needing to get on with having children as she wasn't getting any younger when she was first pregnant. I'm older than her and found it very hurtful. She didn't intend to hurt me I think, but she did. If she had thought about it, she may have phrased it differently. Or she may not give a shit and think I should just suck it up as some posters do.

@user1494667160 could you please point out how I'm being rude?

I'm just perplexed why someone with children would spend so much time coming in to argue with childless women on a thread for childless women

I'd be delighted to be enlightened

I have no interest in being rude to people with children

My dearest friends pretty much all have kids, and they are a joyous part of my life

But thankfully they don't choose to deliberately say hurtful things to me. And likewise me to them

With my friends, and indeed most of the people I encounter in life, it's considered courteous to listen to what others are saying. If my friend tells me that something is a sensitive subject and how they would like to be supported, I listen. If I say something that upsets my friend, however well intentioned I may have been, I apologise for causing offence or upset, take it on board and try to be extra sensitive to that issue that they have told me causes them pain.

There's no us and them between women with children and childless women. Plenty of women with children have posted on this thread and added thoughtful and supportive comments

The only us and them is between a community of people who are hurting deeply, and those who choose to repeatedly say things that many many people have said they find hurtful

Banana I will respond tonight as I’m busy dealing with my children at the moment You are disgusting.

The only us and them is between a community of people who are hurting deeply, and those who choose to repeatedly say things that many many people have said they find hurtful This is spot on.

@Peanutss - don't feed the hair footed one. I've reported your post as you've quoted user's post which has been reported iyswim.

Wowfudge I understand. Im so mad and upset at that comment though. I didn't see it at first. What a truly horrible person. After everything on this thread... That's really upset me. Most people here clearly got more decency in their little toe than that woman.

@bananafish81 you are fucking AWESOME. I have followed your story over the years and you are incredible. Keep doing what you're doing.

What??? But I was doing children pick up.someone said they were busy watching a game yesterday. Seriously you are being extra sensitive.

You're a wind up merchant and you know it. Commenting that on this thread when everyone has been screaming at you to have some empathy and you think it's a good idea to say that in the middle of people explaining their suffering. Why did you need to say it? Why? Just piss off and do your pick up. Honestly no one cares if you don't come back to this thread. Just do us all a favour and go. Stupid woman.

User please, just stop it.

Banana saying you are perplexed about why as someone who is a parent is on this forum is rude. Just because I am a parent does not mean I am not allowed to write on hea.

User, if you're bored and looking for a thread to have fun on, just go and choose one that isn't about something deeply personal and hurtful and sensitive. Because it is obvious by now that you know exactly what you're doing, and are getting a weird kick out of it.

I find it fascinating that participation in this thread is so deeply compelling

I wouldn't go onto a thread of mothers sharing experiences about PND and tell them to pull their socks up and stop whinging, and that they're being over sensitive if they object to me telling them they're making a fuss over nothing

Most perplexing!

I have a lot of empathy. What I dont empathise and understand is the constant rudeness and aggression some posters have to people that come on here with a different opinion. all I have ever said is that since I had children I was more tired and that before I had kids people used to say it to me. I now understand why they say this and did not get offended before I had kids when people used to say this to me. The rest of my posts are in response to others aggression and rudeness.

Banana I will respond tonight as I’m busy dealing with my children at the moment.

I read this opened mouthed. @user1494667160 - you are despicable.

Or maybe user lacks any self-awareness if she genuinely can't see what a bitch she's being. This'll get deleted no doubt.

No one said you couldn't have that view. They are just asking you not to express it as an absolute in front of childless people

Yes. This. I also like that article about being a childless woman in the workplace. It is something that resonates with me when I go into work on a Monday morning (always the same client in a Monday) and hear all the things that the other woman are talking about - kids, husbands and so on and they always turn to me and ask me what I did. Well, I worked. Then, on Sunday I did housework. No I didn't go out. No I didn't have a party and no I didn't see or speak to anyone outside of work or my family for the entire weekend. Every week.

Oh and I've reported @user1494667160 too.

Of course you are allowed to post on here user

No one is saying you can't

I just find it perplexing someone with children would invest so much time into a thread for childless women to share mutual experiences

I would be well within my rights to post on a thread about PND or SEN. But it would be a colossal waste of my time and wouldn't serve anyone any benefit

Most odd when there's a wealth of threads about parenting to zone in on the thread for women without children. Strange!