To be pissed off photographer asked DD if he should edit her photos?

[ShowerOfMonsters]

School photos today. DD scraped her face on a tree branch at the weekend and has a scratch on her chin. The photographer asked if she'd like him to airbrush it out of the photo She is 6. AIBU to think this is totally unacceptable and an awful message to be giving such young children?

If they want to offer the service then maybe to parents in the blurb when they try to get us to buy extortionate photos but not to the kids, and certainly not in class.

DD's best friend has a bruise on her forehead (swing collision) and her mum said DDBF came home saying the same and asking how bad it looks. (I don't know if any boys were offered the same service). I'm in two minds about complaining as I have another child and think I should save battles with school for more important (SN) things. Although I think it is important. I've told best friend's mum she needs to complain because I can't!

I do not know a single teenager with zits who wouldn't love to be a teenager without zits.

At no point did I suggest that any teenager would prefer to have spots fgs. That's some leap from me saying it was awful of a parent to airbrush their own teenagers school pictures.

My own teens have spots, one more than the others, but the idea that I would remove them from a photo? We are just not that shallow.

I don't think it's shallowness to want to see yourself looking the way you would like to look, or to not like the way you look thanks to zits, just as it's not shallow to cover zits with concealer, foundation, etc. It can be a morale booster to do that, enabling many a teen to face the world with a bit more confidence on a daily basis.

Why would a parent be deciding what gets airbrushed anyway? Surely a teen would get to decide that?

Imo it wouldn't be fair for a parent to insist on a teen being immortalised zits and all for fear of encouraging shallowness, if the teen wanted a photo retouched. I don't think it's vain to want to see a version of yourself that does not include something that could be causing you distress.