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Petty I know but (Would) IBU to copy everyone into the reply?

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VladmirsPoutine · 18/09/2018 22:14

I know this is quite a petty gripe but it's been eating away at me all evening so I've turned to the reasonable minds of MN.

I'm working on a project in which I have to complete a certain aspect before a colleague can complete her bit. The deadline is looming so about 3 weeks ago she e-mailed me asking me to send her my bit when I was done. I replied that same afternoon with my finished section saying if she wanted me to make any changes or had any comments to let me know soon as and it'd be my first priority.

I didn't hear anything back so all was well in the world. Earlier this afternoon I received an e-mail from her basically saying "Vlad, I asked you to send me xyz 3 weeks ago so I could complete abc as the deadline is nearing. Where is it? Can you send it ASAP." She'd copied in her manager, my manager and their managers too, along with a few others on the edges of the project.

She's not a malicious person so what I suspect happened is that her manager basically asked her where it was as he probably wanted to have a once-over before we declared it finished. So she must have panicked and just sent the e-mail to everyone.

Thing is, if she'd just e-mailed me or just came over to me to ask about it I would have happily said 'Here it is.... I sent it to you that day but you must have overlooked it.'

Now I feel like copying in all the people in the e-mail she sent with a PA reply. As I see it - even if I take the high road and just quietly e-mail her to the others it will look as though I dropped the ball and suddenly picked it back up again when brought to attention.

I've had quite a fairly long and extensive career so I'm not a stranger to these sorts of antics but for one or two reasons this has really irked me.

If you're still with me: WIBU to copy everyone else into the reply saying I sent this to you the same day you asked me about it (which incidentally was to schedule), or should I just send it to her alone in an e-mail and think no more of it?

OP posts:
Havaina · 21/09/2018 21:23

Zany I'm offended that you can't see the sheer originality and novelty of my post.

I love to read the OP, ignore 300 posts, post my innovative ingenuity, and then frantically scroll to the last page to see how my distinctive pearls of wisdom were received.

ShotsFired · 21/09/2018 21:39

Well I haven't RTFT, but on such a complex and unusual situation, I am convinced nobody will have thought of my radical solution.

OP, just resend your email go over to their desk and set them on fire for being so utterly insufferable.

Havaina · 21/09/2018 21:47

ShotsFired, surely that would just inflame the situstion?

ShotsFired · 22/09/2018 00:05

GrinGrinGrin

chipsandgin · 22/09/2018 00:18

Blimey OP, you should totally cancel the cheque...🤣. Seriously though, well handled- I get more and more intolerant of that kind of bullshit as I get older & have to rein in my initial reaction (which is to take down the perpetrator as fiendishly as possible!) and remember to be grown up about it, which you managed with aplomb!

ZanyMobster · 22/09/2018 09:43

Havaina Grin next time just be a bit quicker, how you worded it was genius though Wink

DontCallMeCharlotte · 22/09/2018 22:43

I’ve had this happen to me. Where people have emailed me about something I supposedly haven’t done and CC’d my manager in.

Me too. Only the colleague blind copies our manager as I have since found out.

Crunchymum · 22/09/2018 22:54

Reply to all and attach the earlier email you sent.

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