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Petty I know but (Would) IBU to copy everyone into the reply?

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VladmirsPoutine · 18/09/2018 22:14

I know this is quite a petty gripe but it's been eating away at me all evening so I've turned to the reasonable minds of MN.

I'm working on a project in which I have to complete a certain aspect before a colleague can complete her bit. The deadline is looming so about 3 weeks ago she e-mailed me asking me to send her my bit when I was done. I replied that same afternoon with my finished section saying if she wanted me to make any changes or had any comments to let me know soon as and it'd be my first priority.

I didn't hear anything back so all was well in the world. Earlier this afternoon I received an e-mail from her basically saying "Vlad, I asked you to send me xyz 3 weeks ago so I could complete abc as the deadline is nearing. Where is it? Can you send it ASAP." She'd copied in her manager, my manager and their managers too, along with a few others on the edges of the project.

She's not a malicious person so what I suspect happened is that her manager basically asked her where it was as he probably wanted to have a once-over before we declared it finished. So she must have panicked and just sent the e-mail to everyone.

Thing is, if she'd just e-mailed me or just came over to me to ask about it I would have happily said 'Here it is.... I sent it to you that day but you must have overlooked it.'

Now I feel like copying in all the people in the e-mail she sent with a PA reply. As I see it - even if I take the high road and just quietly e-mail her to the others it will look as though I dropped the ball and suddenly picked it back up again when brought to attention.

I've had quite a fairly long and extensive career so I'm not a stranger to these sorts of antics but for one or two reasons this has really irked me.

If you're still with me: WIBU to copy everyone else into the reply saying I sent this to you the same day you asked me about it (which incidentally was to schedule), or should I just send it to her alone in an e-mail and think no more of it?

OP posts:
jaffajiffy · 20/09/2018 09:55

Damn I started the post last night and missed the update. Well done.

FlaviaAlbia · 20/09/2018 10:01

Good email, factual comes across as more professional than PA.

I once had the joy of doing the same to a complete arse who emailed me in a rage demanding to know why X was done and how dare we do something like X at all. I was able to attach his request from the year before demanding we did X asap. That made my week Grin

DioneTheDiabolist · 20/09/2018 10:05

Nicely done OP.Smile

Satsumaeater · 20/09/2018 10:10

No need for any additional PA stuff about her checking her junk mail

Why would that be PA? It does actually happen, I usually do ask people to check their spam filters if they say they've not received something from me and I know I sent it.

VladmirsPoutine · 20/09/2018 11:12

@BitOutOfPractice Perish the thought! Grin

OP posts:
DarlingNikita · 20/09/2018 11:17

Satsuma, because it's highly unlikely that mail from a colleague with whom you have regular communication would go to a junk file, so saying that in this scenario is a way of saying 'I know you received it, bitch' but in a way that she can't challenge. Ergo, it's PA.

BitOutOfPractice · 20/09/2018 11:35

I was just worried she might legitimately not got your first one!

Phoning people is very unfashionable I know.

CuriousaboutSamphire · 20/09/2018 16:16

Why would that be PA? It does actually happen It doesn't happen within a company though. No filter would send an email from the same @address to Junk!

So, as Nikita said, to suggest it would be a very PA insult!

Quartz2208 · 20/09/2018 16:18

No company email should go through to junk!

Andro · 20/09/2018 17:57

I wouldn't expect it to go to junk, but the occasional email does seem to get lost in cyberspace.

Lalala2018 · 20/09/2018 18:08

I would cc everybody and the cleaners to say it's not your mistake. Nobody likes looking unreliable and sowing that seed within a work place is dangerous.

Teacher22 · 20/09/2018 18:21

Copy all. No question.

upnorthwhereitsboringandslow · 20/09/2018 18:21

Actually I’d be tempted to walk over and tell her she’s in the wrong and take the flak but know she owes you one and remember it... could be very useful in the future. If it’s not too serious for you that is. Humiliating her will do you no good.

pollymere · 20/09/2018 18:28

Copy everyone in, and make sure it's the original email you resend, with an email saying that you sent it on x, but am surprised you haven't asked before now if you hadn't seen the original. This way you're covered for the I didn't see it excuse too.

TeknoGran · 20/09/2018 18:40

You know what to do! She’s a right cf

Haffdonga · 20/09/2018 18:42

@Pollymere
@upnorthwhereitsboringandslow
@Teacher22
@Lalala2018

Please for the love of all things MN RTFT

If you can be bothered to reply, surely you have time to skim read the OP's last few posts.

pollymere · 20/09/2018 19:18

Apologies, I went offline and I think it posted when I came back this afternoon!

Lostinlondon999 · 20/09/2018 19:37

You are far too kind. She knew exactly what she was doing otherwise she would have chased you sooner.
Nothing wrong with replying to all recipients.

figelnarage · 20/09/2018 19:39

Forward original with all cc’d in

Resending for your convenience...

ViserionTheDragon · 20/09/2018 19:39

YANBU - copy them all in!

figelnarage · 20/09/2018 19:40

Haha, just saw you’ve already replied

Oops

angelfacecuti75 · 20/09/2018 19:48

Click reply all and send the saved copy of the reply you sent with the date and time and finished attachment on it and say 'please find attached '. Not rude. Just to the point ;)

NotBeforeCoffee · 20/09/2018 20:01

That’s definitely a reply all situation

Gemini69 · 20/09/2018 20:14

you did good OP Grin

Pgs007 · 20/09/2018 20:29

reply all with screenshot of previous email u sent with date it was sent :)

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