To think that bikinis on toddlers are vile and wrong..

[worzsel]

And to wonder why my Daugher has to wear anything on her top half atall ? I've spend hours this morning trying to find a nice pair of swimming shorts for her and have seen rails and rails of bikinis that are just scaled down versions of adult ones, little triangle tops and everything ! I am struggling to understand why anyone would dress their toddler like a mini adult, it's very saddening.

Charming post !

Apart from keeping them out of public view and vetting everyone with whom they come into contact, I don't think there is any way that you can stop paedaphiles looking at children.

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personally i think little's dds look nicer (and being more practical) in tankinis if a top part is necessary (and i think for sun protection it's safer too esp. over back and chest). IMHO skimpy triangles for toddlers is a no-no

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well cod, atleast you can spell better than me

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oh my god...........my dd love her bikini................she thinks she is the dogs wotsits when she wears it................worzsel yuo are dillusional [sorry cant spell]

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oh and im sure that it makes no fecking difference to a paedo what your child is wearing.........................

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Kerry

if you start suggesting that women or children should only dress in a certain way because otherwise they leave themselves more open to abuse, then IMO you are suggesting there are ways to behave that will encourage paedophiles

in answer to your other questions, that is absolutely none of your business, and I would ask you not to ask me such personal things in a hectoring manner ever again

it clearly hasn't occurred to you that perhaps some of those things have happened to me, as they have to lots of other people reading this

are you ok Kerrymum?

I have to admit that down the thread a bit I think that some may not have intended it but were quite dismissive and sneerish at kerrymum. Surely, you can understand where she is coming from? - I know none of us can stop a (YUCK!) paedophile looking at our children or thinking whatever (feel sick) but as parents, it is our job to protect our children and do everything possible to avoid this? - bikinis are more revealing than the suits - they are basically a bra and knickers.

sorry couldnt be arsed reading all the middle bits

I don't think you understood Franny's post Kerrymum. Obviously you have had a very traumatic experience.

I understood her post to say that no child is every culpable, whatever they are wearing.

KM - come on - this sounds too raw for you to see objectively

What was written was actually the opposite to the way you are reading it.

What Franny said was that no-one was culpable, whether or not they had a bikini top on.

There was no suggestion that you (or someone holding your view) was culpable in any way.

I think it might be worth sitting this one out- it seems much to close for you to be good for you to be part of IYSWIM

sorry, "no child is ever culpable".

and Kerry I did not and would not suggest any such thing

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You are misinterpreting what has been said, KM.

KM - I think it is actually quite offensive that you even could think that Franny meant that.

You really are crossing the line now!