To be annoyed at a nurse ‘kissing her teeth’ at me?

[FairyF1]

My father is in dialysis today. He hasn’t been well and there have been problems with patient transport so I left work early to help him. When I arrived at the hospital a nurse , before even introducing herself, started shouting at me in front of all the patients saying that my father had been difficult and was very demanding. This is not like him at all (he’s deaf , blind and hemiplegic) I asked him what was up and he showed me that he had been incontinent and left to sit in it (he said for hours). The nurse started shouting (in front of the ward) about how busy she was and started ‘kissing her teeth at me’. I was lost for words. I know she must be under a lot of pressure but was surprised that she had totally lost it in front of everyone. I do also think that someone in a professional position shouldn’t suck their teeth at you- i did ask her to stop but she wouldn’t. What would you do? I think sucking you teeth at an elderly and ill man is especially rude.

I’m sorry but I don’t really understand what you mean

I have been in the situation where a nurse was rude. I walked away and left her to it, I came back an hour later to collect the patient.

Complaint. You have witnesses. She may be stressed, but that’s out of control and totally unprofessional. (Not to mention completely disrespectful to you and your father.)

I dont know how anyone could kiss their teeth at you. Why would anyone want to kiss their own and how would they do it.

Is this a regional expression?

I absolutely hate teeth kissing and think it’s incredibly rude. I would complain about the nurse - I think the shouting at you and leaving your dad to soil was worse anyway tbh. How awful for him

Teeth kissing is literally as described. Not dissimilar to tutting

So is ‘teeth kissing’ tutting?

For those of you who can’t use Google

Not it’s not tutting, it’s just similar and rude. Google as above explains it

Yes it's a "disdainful utterance" not a word but more akin to tutting or clicking your tongue.

m.youtube.com/watch?v=JSBMqGCdw84

Op I'm sorry she was so rude and unprofessional. No patient should ever be left in that state. Hope your dad gets better treatment from now on.

Ok think I’ve got it now op.
This is absolutely not acceptable. She may well be tired and fed up cos god knows the NHS is killing it’s staff but to treat your dad with such unkindness is appalling.
She didn’t introduce herself, was unfeeling and downright rude and neglectful.
Complain to the right people, don’t go shouting the odds on the ward.
Sorry your dad is so ill x

DelilahandDaisy what a fantastic way to link how to do a Google Search. Thanks for that!!!!
FairyF1 I am so sorry about your father and the care that he needs and the stress that is for you and of course YANBU...no one, much less a nurse should yell or teeth kiss/suck at someone else. That's how teenagers resolve (not) problems and express themselves, not grown adults. I would definitely make a complaint and ask for a different carer/nurse/ward for your father.

Kissing teeth at someone is literally the height of disrespect. Complain complain complain.

The attitude is completely disgusting and your poor father being left in soiled clothes. Absolutely not on.

You really must complain.

The teeth kissing and shouting are unnacceptable - but leaving your dad in soiled clothes for hours is the worst of all.

Did you get her name? Make detailed notes NOW - exactly what happened and exactly what time and date; where you were, what was said, who was there. Every possible detail. Then escalate it.

YOur poor dad

Just wondering how many people are reading the comments whilst practising kissing their teeth! 😆

The nurse was very rude indeed and kissing her teeth at you was utterly vile. It shows what an ill mannered, ill tempered person she is.

Your poor dad, I feel for him.

The woman should be reported, I don't say that lightly as someone who will usually give someone another chance but she was just too dreadful for words.

So she found him 'difficult' and 'demanding' for asking to be brought to the toilet, or given a bedpan, or cleaned up after soiling himself because she ignored him?

The bitch clearly thinks the patients are there to prevent her from doing her job

Sadly, it's an attitude not unusual in London hospitals. Write to the ceo.

Just wondering how many people are reading the comments whilst practising kissing their teeth! 😆

That would be me

Teeth kissing isn’t necessarily a problem and is incredibly common amongst denture wearers such as myself particularly if the denture is poorly fitting and/or caused a lot of friction on the tongue.
However, that aside, that nurse was INCREDIBLY RUDE AND UNPROFESSIONAL

hope your df is ok?

This has made my blood boil first because I'm a nurse and to hear another nurse could leave a patient in wet clothes and behave so awfully is both upsetting and infuriating! It doesn't matter how crap staffing is, how busy you are patients are why we are there and that is a simple task to assist someone with to help them regain their dignity.

To complain to you your dad was 'difficult' is enough of reason for you to make a complaint- as this was unacceptable.

Teeth kissing/sucking is probably the most disrespectful thing a person can do, it is vile, I absolutely hate it! - for a professional to behave like this is disgusting. I'm hoping as your dad goes for dialysis I'm assuming three times a week he/you know the staff so will know or can get the name of this nurse.

To make a complaint you can go via PALS, or if you are able to write a letter of complaint yourself send this to the ward/unit manager.

I can't understand OP is fine about the (in multiple ways) unjustified shouting & ranting but teeth-kissing is what she finds intolerable.

Do you not think that leaving your dad sitting in his mess is a bigger deal than sucking her teeth?!

Horrendous behaviour, your poor Dad.
I hope you complain about her outburst and behaviour and negligence leaving your Dad soiled.