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Found out DH has cheated on a test

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hrocia · 10/09/2018 13:45

Had to NC for this as DH knows my username.

Recently DH invested in some kind of online certificate to develop his professional skills in a certain field, this cost us £950. Was fine with this as it was obviously needed.

We share the same e-mail address and a few days ago an e-mail ticked in, saying that the answers for his exam were ready. Turns out he's paid a fair amount of money to get the exam results e-mailed to him. He doesn't know that I know he's cheated as I marked the e-mail as unread and he deleted it shortly after.

He's now pretending that he passed the exam without any issues and I can't decide if I am more disappointed that he cheated or the fact that he wasn't going to tell me. Do I let him know that I know or should I just let it go?

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ADastardlyThing · 10/09/2018 14:12

All i can think about his he's cut it a bit fine, exam answers (results?) emailed only a few days ago so he must have only taken the exam in the last 2 days? Not much time to memorise!

ImperfectTents · 10/09/2018 14:14

Most folk sitting these exam go on courses paid by their employer. The course consists of being taught how to pass the exam which isn't far off being fed the answers. I hate these certifications and am doing one in a month and am at a massive disadvantage as I am doing the studying myself. I can see why your dh did it.

waxy1 · 10/09/2018 14:14

Hope he’s not a brain surgeon.

SpuriouserAndSpuriouser · 10/09/2018 14:15

What kind of professional pays for their own exams?

Junior doctors do!

chasinggarlic · 10/09/2018 14:16

How does having your results emails constitute cheating?

CuriousaboutSamphire · 10/09/2018 14:16

Turns out he's paid a fair amount of money to get the exam results e-mailed to him.

Hold on a mo! You said results, did you mean answers?

I ask as it isn't unusual to be asked to pay for your results, with full answers and marks, with the certification - so you can see any you got wrong.

Having said that, deleting the email makes that less likely!

DailyMailFail101 · 10/09/2018 14:17

It wouldn’t really bother me tbh, least he passed and doesn’t need to pay again to retake the exam.

Gemini69 · 10/09/2018 14:17

Christ.. he's not a Doctor is he Hmm

SpuriouserAndSpuriouser · 10/09/2018 14:19

I wasn’t suggesting that OP’s husband is a doctor by the way, I was just pointing out that it’s not unheard of for certain professions to have to pay for their own exams.

kaytee87 · 10/09/2018 14:19

Op did you mean results or answers?

Spacezombies · 10/09/2018 14:20

So... how long before the test did he get this email?

It isn't clear what happened. Did this email come before the test and include the answers he would need. Or was it an email with the results, showing the correct answers?

Also... Why do you share an email address? Is that a thing people do?

RitaMills · 10/09/2018 14:21

I’d be pissed off he’d paid a fair bit of money for the answers, that’s the bit that would annoy me most. I’d be dissapointed in the cheating esp if I knew he was capable of passing the exam but I could let that go. I certainly wouldn’t LTB over it.

MaxTeyon · 10/09/2018 14:21

I’d be more concerned about the shared email address TBH

SheCameFromGreeceSheHadaThirst · 10/09/2018 14:21

He's not that bright, is he? If he was having exam answers emailed to him prior to sitting the exam, it wasn't exactly a genius move to get them sent to a shared email account. Hmm

What type of organisation did the 'answers' come from, and how are these easily available for a fee? He's probably been scammed ~ they could send you any old gubbins, as you're hardly likely to sue when you sit the exam and find out you weren't sent the correct set of answers.

Hold on a mo! You said results, did you mean answers?

Yeah, that's a bit puzzling. Presumably you mean he's been sent the answers, rather than the results?

AromaticSpices · 10/09/2018 14:21

I'm confused - what do you mean he cheated? he just got the results through - did it say that he didn't get a score because he cheated?

SheCameFromGreeceSheHadaThirst · 10/09/2018 14:24

Why do you share an email address? Is that a thing people do?

Let's just hope that the OP has had the presence of mind to switch off notifications for this thread, otherwise NC-ing was a bit pointless! Grin

Billben · 10/09/2018 14:24

he's always claimed that he'd never lie to me and that he can't keep secrets from me...

Big alarm bells ringing here. I’m always suspicious of people who are desperately trying to make me believe that they’d never lie to me or keep secrets 🤔

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Batteriesallgone · 10/09/2018 14:26

Are you 100% it wasn’t a practice test?

For my accountancy exams I paid £100 a pop to sit practice tests with full answers, the email had questions, answers and was also a receipt, all of it on one email if I remember

HonestReally · 10/09/2018 14:26

This would bother me too. I don’t like cheats. I’d dislike it more if it’s the type of exam where him doing well effects others for example if only the top 50%of candidates pass. It bother me a bit less if him passing is independent of everyone else (eg a driving test)

LusaCole · 10/09/2018 14:36

I'd be really disappointed about this. It's not LTB territory though (assuming everything else is fine).

I guess it depends a bit on the importance of the test. Is it maybe a tick box exercise, when it's important for him to have the certificate but he already had the skills or doesn't really need them? If so, I could kind of understand if he felt it was a waste of his time studying for the test (although it's still wrong to do what he did, of course). And I can understand him not telling you out of embarrassment.

MirandaWest · 10/09/2018 14:38

When did he sit the exam compared with when he got this email? Was this for an actual exam or a practise one? And when did he get his results?

Hoppinggreen · 10/09/2018 14:39

I would rather my DH cheated than fail and waste our £950

SpuriouserAndSpuriouser · 10/09/2018 14:40

inTheBoredroom

Yes, beyond university fees. You have to pay to sit the exams required to progress through your specialty training, and they aren’t cheap either.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 10/09/2018 14:40

April. He cheated on a test.
He's not shagging another women, ffs