To think this woman was far ruder than me!

[YeOldeFishWife]

Feeling a bit upset as this took place in front of my DS.

I was coming out of a shop and stopped at the front to put my purse in my bag. A woman approached with her DC to enter the shop. I admit I was blocking the entrance. She huffed a bit and walked around me, this got my back up a bit so as I walked off I said to DS, 'she only needed to say excuse me'.

The woman then shouted after me, 'no I didn't need to say excuse me at all'.

I saw red at this point and shouted that she had no manners, she said nor do you and called me a stupid cow.

I'm rather shocked and embarrassed my comment escalated to this and it shook me up tbh.

She didn't need to shout after me.

AIBU?

It's not popular in London either. A harrumphing is mostly what you'll get, but you will get that.

Completely agree with Monkee4. Very rare that I hear anyone say excuse me any more. People are so bloody entitled - they are all in a terrible rush and the whole world must part before them to allow them to continue about their terribly important business without a seconds delay. How do people cope with slow elderly people or toddlers being in the way/distracted? Do you all go around huffing and puffing and snarling at them for daring to be in the space you desire to pass through at that particular moment in time?!

The risk of being passive aggressive (which you were) is that someone will just be all out aggressive (which she was with the name calling). So why would you risk that when you are with your child? Basically, you started it and are now complaining about the response you got...

For future reference, trying just being upfront and politely assertive instead of playing these games. While stood in doorway, you could have tackled the situation head on and said, “sorry to get in your way, i’ll just be a moment”.

The irony of your username 😂

You didn't need to stop in the entrance blocking peoples way to put your purse away did you I'm sure there are many places out of the way that could have been done.

She didn't initially comment in front of your son she tuttedor huffed! You chose to take it verbal by calling her out to your son. She was with her children too I'm sure she didn't feel great being called rude in front of them but that didn't stop you!

Picklypickles

How do people cope with slow elderly people or toddlers being in the way/distracted? Do you all go around huffing and puffing and snarling at them for daring to be in the space you desire to pass through at that particular moment in time?!

Yes, because an elderly person or toddler is the same as an able bodied adult

I don't huff or puff at them, I just go around them, but in this case OP invited the response she got by being passive aggressive. When you're in the wrong, you should take the other person hugging with a bit of grace.

Huffing not hugging!

@YeTalkShiteHen by the time I've stopped laughing at your username I'll be dead. (I am also from ggow and can confirm we have zero tolerance for this nonsense, contrary to what you might believe, the doorway is NOT the ideal place to stop!)

doesthemindrulethebody

Both of you sound highly strung.

If your son is mortified you were shouting I think that gives you your answer.

Havaina

You can't always tell who is/is not an able bodied adult or whether or not someone has mental health issues etc. Furthermore why should an able bodied adult automatically be treated with less respect than you would show someone elderly or with a disability?

So many excuses for not using basic manners, why are people so against being polite these days? Is it unfashionable now or something?!

You were rude and in the wrong, OP. Even worse, you dragged your DS into it by speaking to him about someone else - I would take some time to reflect on today, because your DS is obviously distressed by your behaviour and it would have been so easily avoided.

My mum does this. Every single time. Will loudly exclaim/comment "Well excuse me!", or, "Don't bother saying excuse me then!" ad infinitum. It has always, always, been a source of massive anxiety and embarrassment because it has in the past caused the exact same confrontation as you experienced. She's been almost punched before, been sworn at, etc, all because she does the passive aggressive comments. There is just absolutely no need for it.

There is nothing more annoying than someone faffing about in a doorway. Either put your purse away before you leave the store or move out of the way of the entrance/exit to rifle thru your bag. Do not block the doorway! So Infuriating! YABU!

Yeah you’re entirely in the wrong here...

So, she walked round you without inconveniencing you at all, you made arsey comment and she is in the wrong for replying?

If I were your DS I would be very embarrassed.

You should have apologised for blocking the door and moved on.

You sound like hard work.

You were so in the wrong.

Much as I hate people blocking entrances, normally a polite excuse me sorts it out

So yanbu

You were so rude! How were you hoping it would go?

The polite thing to do if you inconvenience someone e.g by blocking a doorway is to apologise, not make an arsey, passive aggressive comment.

Well done to the women for calling you out on it, maybe you'll think twice next time and be a better role model for your son.

When you realised you were blocking the doorway, why didn't you just apologise? I don't understand why you wouldn't?

The issue wasn't 'why couldn't she wait'. The issue was why should she wait? Stopping and blocking a doorway is really bad behaviour and then to try and make yourself feel better in front of your child you made a stupid passive aggressive comment so I'm glad she pulled you up on it Op!