AIBU to think dd shouldn't find out she's in learning support base first lesson b.t.school?

[inashizzle]

Dd is going into yr 8. She went online to look at her timetable and was quite shocked that she will be in learning support base for maths. She was even more angry that it will be with her class tutor that she really does not like.

So Aibu to think a meeting between head of year/senco(who I've never spoken to) would have been appropriate. Bad enough that she found out online 5 days before start school. Had she not, she'd have found out at school, even worse and would've been twice as shocked and upset!

@inashizzle I want to do my best by her and wish someone would just simply send me list of what school will do, how we can help to facilitate and cross off/tick boxes as we go. Tall order, but at least we'd be clear.

With regards to your DDs possible dyslexia, ADHD etc, please make an appointment to discuss this with the SENCO. Don't email and ask for this info, get an appointment and go in. If you find getting an appt with SENCO hard, escalate to HOY.

Make a list of what issues your DD has, not just with her school education, but also other stuff (eg refusing to read, black & white thinking, anxiety etc).

Ask them what steps you and they need to take to have DD assessed (be aware that assessment does take months and months!). Make notes and then email them after your meeting confirming what you understand the steps each of you will take. The school may not have any concerns from what they are seeing in school, but if you explain to them, with examples, of DDs behaviour (eg meltdowns) it will give a fuller picture. Girls can mask their emotions at school, but then unravel when at home, which may be why she has no behavioural issues at school and therefore not really of huge concern to them.

Have a look at NAS website to see if any other bells are ringing with regards to Autism in girls and how it presents differently. Dyslexia and ADD/ADHD can be co-morbid with an ASD diagnosis.
www.autism.org.uk/about/what-is.aspx

Shawahanks and to all other posters, I'm starting to feel empowered 💪🏻

Clairetree1. Really? Well then something's going wrong because around 40% don't get a c level at gcse

Really? Well then something's going wrong because around 40% don't get a c level at gcse
You're confusing effort and outcomes here. Some students can work hard and not achieve a C. The mark for a 4+ is set nationally based on a set percentage of the cohort getting a 4. A set % have to be under the 4.

Clairetree is right that quite a lot of secondary students do work hard in order to move groups (and prove teachera wrong). In fact scoring a point against a teacher is always a good incentive, typical 'I told you so.

(I remember a stubborn student being annoyed at a situation. I told them it would be reviewed when I see an improvement in attitude or she sustains her target grade. Mock exams came round and she burst into my room at break waving her mock certificate to inform me (with huge amount of pride) that I had to consider moving her now. It was a great incentive.