To want to throttle the snoring DP on the maternity ward?

[Lilyabelle]

I’m currently staying on a maternity ward in hospital after a truly horrible day having my yet to be born baby’s movements monitored. I’m feeling so sick with worry, exhausted and uncomfortable. All I want is to sleep for a few hours. It’s just me and one other couple in a room with 4 bays. There’s a man snoring away like an absolute beast and I can’t get any rest at all. As I’m not about to give birth or have just given birth I really don’t want to ask to be moved as I don’t feel entirely justified. What makes it worse is this couple have been so Inconsiderate all sodding day, playing films really loudly and talking at such a volume it’s almost like they’re yelling at each other. When I had my first DC I was also kept awake post birth by a snorer but I wasn’t as bothered as I had a beautiful baby to look at all night and the other snorer’s DP had just had a baby themselves. But this warthog - I’m not really sure why he’s here... How do I get through this endless night?!

Thinking of you OP, hope all is ok x

I had my first child back in the late 90's when I was very young with an abusive partner. Had he been allowed to stay overnight he would have loved it. Ideal opportunity to rifle through peoples lockers, leer at breastfeeding mums etc. While he was there he was flirting with the HCAs and one of them started slipping him free meals! I just wanted him to go away. He also kept popping out for cigarettes and returning to the ward and you could smell him a mile off.

With my second DC, I lost a lot of blood post c section in the hallway on the way to the loo. Blood hit the floor, spattered all up the walls and one man walking past on the way to his partner said 'disgusting' as he went past. Luckily I didn't faint and someone summoned a midwife. I felt so ashamed and small. That was just in visiting hours.

I don't want men around when I'm vulnerable. I don't want my own DP particularly either as he is just another person for me to worry about. I just want the medical care I need and certain visitors only when I'm well enough to receive them and not at the expense of other women on the ward.