To ask how you would react if your 15 year old was pregnant

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And was unable to terminate. I am interested in how you would react to this.

If it were my kid, of course I'd be upset, but then we would discuss her options.

Termination isn't one of them. You don't kill a child because it's an inconvenience. (I'm a nurse. I know life begins at conception.)

If she decided to place the baby for adoption we would support that. If she decided that she wanted to raise the baby, we would have the following requirements:

1. We will care for the baby while you're at school or a part-time job. We will do this free of charge for now (see below). This is on the condition that when you're at home, you're mum. You're doing the baby care. This means you're not out with your friends at night, you're not seeing movies, etc.

1. We expect you to continue your education. Depending on what you're comfortable with, this could mean you attend a public school or an online school. If you're attending online school we will give you time to do your schoolwork, but when you're not doing school work you're mum.

1. Once you've completed high school and any additional credentials, and you've gotten a job where you can support yourself, we expect that you'll find your own living situation and an appropriate child care situation for your child.

Termination isn't one of them. You don't kill a child because it's an inconvenience. (I'm a nurse. I know life begins at conception.)

Such bollocks. (I'm a scientist, I know it doesn't) Being a nurse doesn't make you an expert. Lots of people are nurses, some of them not very bright. Like you. You look a bit stupid now.

@agnurse

I think that's great. It's however also a sad reality that the families of many young mothers simply can't do that... (Or want - as some commenters on this thread have described based on their own experiences...)

Which is why young mothers and their children are often at risk and or very disadvantaged.

I found it easier as a young mother than when I had my other children later on in life.
As a teenager, I had nothing to lose and everything to aim for, me and DS1 grew together. It was physically demanding as a lone parent but I had the energy for it. Looking back I just got on with it.
Later in life, pregnancy left me worn out and I had the stresses of trying to fit things round my career and deciding and other more 'grown up' worries.

" (I'm a nurse. I know life begins at conception.)"
Hahahahaha!

Don't you mean that that is what you ^believe?

I still want to know where OP is?

I often find that people who talk about abortions being something you'll never get over are people who've never had one.

Now I'm not saying that there aren't people who find them difficult but whilst mine wasn't physically the most comfortable thing I've ever undergone, emotionally I never give it a second thought.

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Just incase

F* Off Daily Mail

agnurse Which century are you living in?

What right would you have to tell your dd that having an abortion wouldn’t be an option for her?!

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My dd is 11. The thought that in 4 mere years my child could possibly have a baby is terrifying. I want her to live and be free and explore and be adventurous.

However I wouldn't be angry, I wouldn't assume it was a life choice. I would tell her whatever she decided to do I would be there for her. Explain the options, drown her in love and support and go from the there.

Whilst her youth in many ways would be taken from her I don't think it's the end of the world. She could still have an amazing life with support.

What right would you have to tell your dd that having an abortion wouldn’t be an option for her?!

I’m in my twenties and was told of I ever got pregnant as a teen and had an abortion, my dad would disown me.

I don’t disagree with him, although I wouldn’t do that to my own children.

Btw the police should care and if the boy was also under the age of 16 your DD would also be commuting the exact same crime, so if you drag her down to the police station (Most likely the police would use common sense and do nothing but if both parties are under 16 they will ether charged both or none of the parties).

So unless you want to make your own DD a sex offender (only if the father is roughly same age or younger obviously if he is 18+ that's different)

I'd be shocked and devastated.... and disappointed too.

She's watched 16 and pregnant enough times to know it's not a wise move.

*Termination isn't one of them. You don't kill a child because it's an inconvenience. (I'm a nurse. I know life begins at conception).

I really hope you’re not a nurse who has access to vulnerable women if you’re peddling your beliefs as fact.

I’m in my twenties and was told of I ever got pregnant as a teen and had an abortion, my dad would disown me

That is so desperately sad

I would be disappointed And most likely be worried for her.
But I would step up and support her as best I could.

That is so desperately sad

I don’t think it’s sad. My parents had IVF and don’t take things like abortion for convenience lightly. I share their views, although I support any other woman’s right to do what she wishes. Personally I never would.

A 4 week old embryo, for example, is certainly not the same as a newborn baby.

IMHO, life certainly does not begin at conception and if my 15 y/o wanted an abortion, I'd support her completely.

I don’t think it’s sad. My parents had IVF and don’t take things like abortion for convenience lightly. I share their views, although I support any other woman’s right to do what she wishes. Personally I never would

They used emotional blackmail to influence your views

I’ve got infertility. I had the whole sit in the GP and get told it’s unlikely to happen after I lost a much wanted baby. It would be massively inappropriate to say to my DD I would disown her for having an abortion. That’s not the actions of a loving parent.

Termination isn't one of them. You don't kill a child because it's an inconvenience. (I'm a nurse. I know life begins at conception.)

You don’t get to make that decision for your child. Regardless of your beliefs.

Oh and I’m a nurse too.

I wouldn’t class it as emotional blackmail. It’s their honest beliefs, partly due to their religion and I don’t think people should be shamed for their beliefs. I don’t personally know how anyone can do it, but as I said, that’s my decision and not necessarily right for others.

I’m very sorry about your situation.

I'd probably lose my shit, as would DH. After the tears and tantrums we would find a way to make it work as a family. I'd never dream of being anything other than supportive

I had my eldest at 20 but I was out of education with good results and working full time. I still lived at home and my parents were supportive but they didn’t help with the baby I was left entirely to it, mainly because they worked full time as well and I had younger siblings.

Eldest is now 10 and we have had discussions about what it was like for me when she was born (her questions) and I am honest, I wouldn’t have planned a pregnancy at that age but I’ve never regretted having her and yes it was hard. I’ve said that I want more than that for her, I want her to see the world and enjoy her youth with her friends etc and get a career/jobs she loves that goes for my other 2 DC as well.

The reality is if any of my DC came home pregnant at 15 we would be unable to help with baby due to us both working and I won’t be taking time off etc to look after a baby again so they would need to have all these situations spelled out for them, the costs, the logistics etc

I have boys but I’d tell them everything will be absolutely fine whatever they choose to do. I’d try to reach out to their pregnant partners and say the same thing also, and I would try to help in anyway. My friend had a child at 16 and she’s a wonderful mother

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I don’t think anyone should be shamed for their beliefs but they shouldn’t try and impose their beliefs on others.

Thanks for the flowers. Appreciated. Ironically in the midst of a bit of a scare so kindness really well received x

agnurse

You don't kill a child because it's an inconvenience. (I'm a nurse. I know life begins at conception.)

So you don't agree with a copper IUD? Or the contraceptive pill?

Because these methods they "kill children" .