To give my DS his sister's room?

[CherryChatsworth]

So, DD is 20 and is about to enter her 2nd year at uni. DS is 11 and about to start secondary

We have a 3 bedroom house and as is normal, DD got the second largest room - us of course having the biggest! DD has the smallest - it's still classed as a double room though but only just.

Anyway it would benefit him to have her bedroom now - we cannot fit a desk and a chair in his room and he's getting to the stage where he will need one at secondary.

I've spoken with DD about this and she's distinctly unimpressed which I expected. She's away for over two thirds of the year at uni but feels she should keep her room. For what it's worth, me popping her in his room would mean her keeping her double bed - I'm not proposing a single

So why would you do? Leave the second largest bedroom in the house empty for the bulk of the year despite being able to put it to good use? Or would you turf her out?

I didn't do it in her first year away but I'd prefer to swap them round

Shan't be forcing anyone to do anything at this point but what do YOU think is reasonable?

She’s being immature and selfish. I think you’ve been considerate about her feelings by not doing this when she went to uni the first time. Time now for her to be considerate to her DB.

Actually rather than losing ‘her room’ she should remember she has two rooms - one at uni and another in your home. Rooms that you and your DH are paying for.

This is all part of learning to fly the nest.

She will still have somewhere to stay at holiday time or even if she comes back for a while after uni. It just won’t be ‘the best room’. For her at that point, getting her ‘best room’ will be about her finding (and paying for) her own place.

We switched rooms when DD went to Uni - we all thought it only fair DS got the big room once DD left.
It was upsetting for her, but she had the large room for a long time.

I'm glad you are insisting. After all, you have another child who shouldn't be made to feel second best. She's not being kicked out of her home, she is now taking her turn in the smaller bedroom, which her sibling seems to have had until now - how is it fair she always had it until now ?