What's happened to having a bit of pride in yourself?

[daffodil10]

I am genuinely asking this question out of curiosity not being inflammatory but I will no doubt be accused of this in typical mnet style! Anyway here goes-

I don't understand why some women are so proud of the fact that the first thing they do when they get home is to take their bra off and put pjs on.

A) I don't have time as when I get in from work there's stuff to do.
B) why would you want to sit there with everything dangling about

I think it is much better for your state of mind to have a bit of pride In Yourself, to wear a bit of makeup, clean clothes, brush your hair etc. On another note if your bra is so uncomfortable you're wearing the wrong bra!

if your sat in your pjs and no bra it's like the days over. Well, That's your issue and mentality. Not everyone else's.

I sleep naked. So when I’m wearing PJs I’m still dressed

This is funny.....

Women don’t need to wear makeup to have self respect.

I have nice clothes for work. I don't want them ruined cooking, cleaning and sorting kids after work so I get changed. Iv still got my face on and hairs the same. I don't get your point

I think the OP is coming in for a good old fashioned MN drubbing, probably from the same pockets who are hammering the OP on the “soap dodger” thread

I started a thread today desperate to find comfy casual trousers to accommodate my portly belly as I am sick of having to default to PJs as my comfy clothes as for me I associate getting in my jim jams waaaaaay before bedtime with being sick or being really down and just wanting sad alone time with hot chocolate and a weepy film.

I will also freely admit that as well as wanting to look nice enough (for a Monday night watching university challenge) I do it a bit for DH too as I’d feel a bit if he was in his jammies at the stroke of 7.

I do take my bra off though, that’s a non negotiable.

I’m still not getting the whole jeans are more formal thing...

Besides you wouldn’t have a clue if you’d never met me whether I’d just changed into my pyjamas, never got dressed into outside clothes or had just been to a yoga class...

Oh dear, I spend the day usually in shorts (designed as men's loungewear) & a t-shirt, no make-up (never wear it) and no bra (ditto). And they're not even pert
Worse still, I'll go out like that except I'll swap the shorts for proper ones (usually) and stick a shirt over the top.
How will I live with myself

So you equate people worrying about what they look as having pride in them self.

I see it that there are many ways people have pride in themselves that has nothing to do with how they look.

If I popped over to the neighbours for a cup of sugar and she was in her pjs should I look down on her? That's a bizarre notion.

Isn't the question more why do we feel we have to be uncomfortable when we present ourselves to the world?

I don’t think I look unattractive in my pyjama bottoms with no make up on though! I just look like me but in pyjama bottoms. I have pride in myself in that I think I’m quite attractive without make up (I have good, clear skin, long eyelashes etc). So for me, wearing pyjama bottoms and no make up doesn’t equate to me slobbing out.

Jeans = not slobbing out
Leggings = a teeny bit of slobbing out
PJs = slobbing out

Have I got this right???

The amount of pride I feel for myself isn't dependant on how my hair or makeup look. That says more about you

Asda for a comfortable pair of soft trousers that aren't PJs...

How very dare you! My PJs came from Harrods!

I'm so happy to find there are other people who don't wear makeup, I thought I was the only one. I don't tend to notice what other people wear, just thought everyone else still did.

I like to keep wearing a bra for my own comfort but change into a pair of yoga pants ( have a stack, all the same) and a t shirt or loose cotton sweater (again, a few all the same) brush my hair and take off my makeup. I wouldn’t like to be in actual pjs in the evening - would make me feel too sleepy by association to do anything but slump ( she says, typing this from the horizontal on the sofa)

The amount of pride I feel for myself isn't dependant on how my hair or makeup look. That says more about you

This.

I don’t wear make up, comfort is the most important thing about clothes, i don't get my nails, hair, or eyebrows done, and i am pale because i keep out of the sun.

That doesn’t mean i don’t take pride in myself though. I have brains, i have a good education, knowlege of a wide range of subjects. I have a nice house, my kids aren’t too feral, the dog is well trained, lots of things to take pride in. Plus i’m not that bad looking, in fact i’d say I prefer how i look- make up free, natural and comfortable, than many people trotting around in high heels, fake tan and hair extensions. If you’re talking about looks, i take pride in the fact i look ok without all those hours in a salon and at home :))

Will I do, OP?

Just thinking about the "pride" bit

I ramped up my weights workout today and felt quite proud of that. Can't really see wearing makeup having the same effect.

Speak for yourself re dangling

I quite often sleep in my bra and make up.
Seriously though, I kind of don't get the trend for wearing pyjamas all the time at home. I don't care if other people want to but I think it would make me feel like I was in some kind of institution.
I'm wearing cullottes and a cropped t shirt now and I'm pretty comfy.

Why do do equate pride with p.j's??
My self esteem does not plummet when I relax at home in leisure slacks
I'm proud of my days work, chuffed if I've exercised, proud when my kids are fed, homework done, morally/socially educated.

B) why would you want to sit there with everything dangling about

I'd be happy to sit and dangle but not easy with tiny boobs.

Just read the OP. Nothing else yet BUT I do agree!