What's happened to having a bit of pride in yourself?

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I am genuinely asking this question out of curiosity not being inflammatory but I will no doubt be accused of this in typical mnet style! Anyway here goes-

I don't understand why some women are so proud of the fact that the first thing they do when they get home is to take their bra off and put pjs on.

A) I don't have time as when I get in from work there's stuff to do.
B) why would you want to sit there with everything dangling about

I think it is much better for your state of mind to have a bit of pride In Yourself, to wear a bit of makeup, clean clothes, brush your hair etc. On another note if your bra is so uncomfortable you're wearing the wrong bra!

Wow, OP found a time machine to post from the 1950’s

I usually do house work in my pjs Saturday morning - as do a lot of my friends, then shower and clean clothes. No harm.

And if people pop in? So what?

My mother always warned me about wearing night clothes in the day time. There was even a film about it..

God forbid women should stop giving a toss what other people think of them, eh? They might just get funny ideas about their own worth not being tied to patriarchal ideas of beauty, femininity and 'making an effort' and do something g really radical...

I'll thank people not to judge whatever I decide to do in my own home, on my own time, thanks. I have work and kids to run round after endlessly too. But does it make the slightest difference if I do that in my scruffs with no makeup or in a ballgown and heels? If it does, that says lots about the person in matters to. I hate the way makeup feels on my skin now. I used to wear lots but look ridiculous in it now. I'm not wearing uncomfortable clothes at home if I do t have to. Why on earth would I make myself uncomfortable just in case someone may think I've not made an effort?

I absolutely take pride, I take pride in my Daddy Pig pyjama bottoms.

Why would you get changed into jeans?! They are the least comfiest item of clothing to wear. It really isn't important what people wear in the privacy of their own home, if they want to be as comfortable as possible by not wearing a bra and being in PJ's its not really any of your business

What did your mother warn of? That your house will burn to the ground, that the plague will return. My mum told me not to put the milk in before the tea bag, or I'll have ginger children. (For clarity. Husband is ginge and I wouldn't care) I didn't have ginger kids despite a few thoughtless milk before tea bag incidents.

I think the key for me here is that I don't wear PJs, so if i was getting up on a weekend morning to clean, I'd just put on dirty jeans and a t-shirt as I don't want (and no-one wants to see) to do my housework in the scud. Also when I get home and get changed, I wouldn't be putting on PJs as I don't have any.

If I am working at home, I do get up and just put on my bathrobe and log in so that it's doing all that while I get washed and dressed,

Mirrivan exactly ! There seems to be a misconception on here that I'm doing housework in formal clothes. I put casual stuff on when I get home or it's a weekend. Makeup wise in the week I'll still have makeup on from the day- 😮 at the weekend prob just mascara. But as a pp said earlier if your sat in your pjs and no bra it's like the days over. My day doesn't end till I go to bed. Also the comments about doing this for a man - how the heck do you know whether I've got a partner male or female !!!!

Well... I'm proud of my G cups with and without a bra... DH especially likes the latter

I just love threads that are all about tearing other women apart.....

I work from home (client facing). My work is most busy evenings and weekends.

Trust me, Dh is overjoyed to come home and see me in pj’s with my make up off as then he knows he gets to spend an evening snuggling with me and watching tv.

My day doesn't end till I go to bed

How utterly exhausting!

LesbiannotQueer "It's not as though I was doing anything exciting necessarily but to give up on the day as soon as work is done, and be all gross in comfy clothes...felt tragic. Nothing will happen, we will do nothing...ugh"

Why is it "gross" to be in comfy clothes?

I shower twice a day mostly, due to workouts and commuting on public transport.

As for OP, I don't need to wear a work suit more than ten hours a day, I mostly don't wear make up anyway. If you want to wear it, fine, but why do you think the rest of should? as you've said it, I will say I find the amount of make up in the shops depressing. So you're depressed by me not wearing it, well, it goes both ways. It's okay, we are clearly not destined to be friends.

I take my bra off right away too. I'm at home ffs. I only ever wear a comfy yoga bra. I don't particularly want to carry my chest at Wonderbra height. Sports bras are pricey so I sometimes wear those in winter but mostly they're too visible under normal clothes.

I wear a uniform for work. When I get home, I shower, tie my hair back and put on PJ-esque leggings/yoga pants and a vest top. I am still dressed - I often walk the dog or nip to the shop dressed like that. Changing into comfy clothes after work doesn't mean giving up on the rest of the day.

But as a pp said earlier if your sat in your pjs and no bra it's like the days over

My pre school DC are in bed for 7 and DH works away fairly frequently so often I can’t go out in the evenings. I still do things... I read, study, do housework, talk to friends etc (don’t really watch TV). What’s the problem with doing all that in pyjama bottoms?

I also think that people must be buying the wrong jeans/too small jeans? Mine are cosy, stretchy and comfy. I liked being on holiday and just wearing a linen dress and flip flops but it's too cold for that here and too cold for PJs too I think. And yes, heating is on.

I wear a bra 24 hours a day as I’ve got 36j/k so it’s much comfier than them slipping around.

Are you a man judging his partner by any chance?

Op you do realise that the clothes don't maketh the man, or woman?

It's actually quite liberating when you stop giving a flying fuck what other randoms might think of your appearance.

I am clean and appropriately dressed for the situation, and in clothing that I like and that's as far as it's matters to me.

I don't use make up as a mask, I don't need to wear 'a bit of make up' in my own house, or anywhere.

If you don't like it, don't look at me.

If you can't be comfy in your own home, where can you be?
What happened to not judging people based on looks and why are you so shallow?

you do feel 10000 x better when you are a bit more made up

Nope. I have enough pride in myself to not need to hide what I look like. I don't wear heels either as wrecking my back and feet isn't what I consider taking pride in myself.

I have had enough male attention in bare face, working clothes and steel toed boots to know that what society tells us is necessary ain't. Not for work, nor for attraction.

Dangling? Everything is perfectly pert, thank you very much

What I choose to do in my own home is my business.