What's happened to having a bit of pride in yourself?

[daffodil10]

I am genuinely asking this question out of curiosity not being inflammatory but I will no doubt be accused of this in typical mnet style! Anyway here goes-

I don't understand why some women are so proud of the fact that the first thing they do when they get home is to take their bra off and put pjs on.

A) I don't have time as when I get in from work there's stuff to do.
B) why would you want to sit there with everything dangling about

I think it is much better for your state of mind to have a bit of pride In Yourself, to wear a bit of makeup, clean clothes, brush your hair etc. On another note if your bra is so uncomfortable you're wearing the wrong bra!

I work from home. I run two businesses.

I sometimes work in PJs

My jeans are my comfy clothes and they are really comfy. I have a few "going out" smarter, tighter and stiffer denim ones that aren't so comfy but my every day type ones are great.

Mummy l bow to your Panache

I love my jeans.
Also love my pyjama bottoms and vest tops (with no bra!!)
However, I most love my nursing bra as it is so bloody comfy. Actually, most of my bras are comfy.
Who cares, life is short. Be comfy whatever.

Haha ... I'm with you sister ! I've got a pair of 30FF and my bra stays firmly on till bedtime .. love a bit of make up to prevent me looking like a corpse and I shave my armpits !!!! Shock horror !

I take pride in many things, but my ability to wear a bra and have makeup sitting on my skin for 16 hours per day isn't one of them.

I tell you what, OP - I do absolutely have pride in myself. I have pride that I can wear what I want, when I want, without worrying about what other people think about me. I don't need to wear make up to make myself feel better (although I may choose to wear it, on certain occasions, if I want to).

I have pride that I can make my own decisions about what I look like, and how I dress without having to worry about what anyone else thinks about me. Whether that's my DH in my (own) home, or a random poster on the internet.

I suggest that you practise a bit of self awareness and look for something to help you boost your self confidence and self esteem.

Home is the place I can be comfortable and look as scruffy as I want. There's nobody at home I want to impress. I don't have a partner.

I do take pride in myself, I am always clean and take care of my personal hygiene. I dress nicely when I go out the house, my hair is always done. My home is clean. When I get home I want to put on joggers and take off my bra and make-up.

Sometimes I leave the house for work at 6am, I'm in workwear all day. I get home. Sometimes at 6pm or 7pm. I have a shower, the kids have bedtime. I change into PJ when I get out the shower. Because I can't be bothered to change numerous times (I change a number of times at work normally too) during my evening. The kids change into PJ. Depending on the situation -we snuggle down and do homework etc and then they go to bed.

I don't wear makeup. At work or at home. Hasn't held me back and to be honest it would be a waste of time at work.My children don't see high heels and makeup as looking after themselves -they see eating healthily and reading an improving book as looking after themselves.

My pride is my work done to the best of my ability. I can operate in high heels if you like -but quite frankly I think you might have more important things to think about if you were on my table.

I take pride in myself for being a nice person, not a judgemental c...who cares what other people do with their brazier.

I'm a spiller if I didn't put my pjs on at home ide just ruin my clothes.

Some days I just shower and put clean pjs on like today.

you do feel 10000 x better when you are a bit more made up

You might,I don't. Hate the feel of make up on my skin.I feel 100000 better once I've cleaned my teeth and coconut oiled my skin.

Mrsmadevans

Actually better still. My summer maxi dresses then become nightwear for the cooler months.

Therefore I am always dressed.

I believe I have won the thread.

@daffodil10 I didn't get dressed at all today. I showered and changed into fresh PJs. No bra or make up all day.

Would you assume I have no pride?

I don't get why this bothers you OP? That's the bit that's more baffling than the fact that some women like hanging around in pjs at home!

I guess some people find bras uncomfortable.

With two young children and no nursery/child care help, I barely find time to have a shower, let alone style my hair or put make-up on.

However, I am not in the 'take your clothes off when you get home gang', more the 'don't get round to changing out of the dressing gown for half the day' gang.

My pyjamas are waaay nicer than my day to day clothes, I look smarter going to bed than I do during the day! I don't take my bra off because I only wear supremely comfortable yoga bras. Never wear makeup, that's not a lack of pride in my appearance - I think it looks shite, and I don't need to smear my face with colourful sparkly gloop to feel good about myself. Each to their own, but you sound seriously uptight OP, you don't need to be a slave to patriarchal beauty standards to have pride in yourself. I'm quite proud that I eschew the crappy expectations in favour of what makes me happy.

Cheesefield. I guess it's just alien to me. On a Saturday and Sunday I'm in and out of the house, running the kids here and there. I'm also working outside and have people around all the time

What I do with my tits when I get home from work is, quite frankly, none of your business, OP.

Sometimes if I don't have to go anywhere I don't even put a bra on. Shock! Horror!

I think I have pride in myself by not wearing makeup op. I am happy and relaxed as I am.

I kind of understand OP!

I used to live with friends, who, as soon as they arrived home were in pjs and watching tv. I genuinely found it really depressing.

It's not as though I was doing anything exciting necessarily but to give up on the day as soon as work is done, and be all gross in comfy clothes...felt tragic. Nothing will happen, we will do nothing...ugh.

Having said that we were late teens so it's probably different out of that age group.

Thank you lesbiannotqueer.

Lucky you op. I’m disabled and wear my maxi dresses for a reason. And I agree with a pp. You sound seriously uptight.

There are so many benefits to not wearing a bra all the time, going without a bra can help stimulate collagen production too so perkier breasts not ones that dangle more OP. Maybe that's why you don't go braless? maybe years of never taking a bra off have left you feeling a bit too self conscious of your own baggy boobs?

Jesus Christ Scrommidge
Did you have to post that godawful song. I'd forgotten how bad it was! Now it's stuck in my head 😶
OP may like it though

I have extreme pride in myself. I have for years have comments made that I'm always extremely put together. I feel better for doing my hair and make up and I've got a qualification in personal styling and whilst I'm a big girl I know how to dress.

I work in a very formal environment and I add quirky touches with nice shoes and accessories and I love my red lipstick.
That said once I walk thru the door the bra is well and fuckimg truely gone. Hair slapped back and shower. I put either fleece pyjamas two sizes too big on, or if it's not maxi dress type night dresses, I let every bit of me hang baby. I relax, I cook, I play eith my kids and don't give a flying fuck what I look like. Neither do my family who love me. Infact I think i look more like mum/animal servant/ wife once I'm showered and relaxed. Wtf would I be all dressed up and uptight after working all day? Not for me, certainly not for my family and I can guarantee my cat doesnt give a shit.