Scalded for drinking alcohol by a stranger

[Boilin]

Went to Wetherspoons (I'm still there) with DP. I'm 28 weeks pregnant at the moment and had half a pint of cider with my meal. The woman who served it to me had no issue with it whatsoever, but the man stood next to me (not sure if he was slightly drunk) felt it appropriate to tell my DP that 'that won't be good for her or the baby' (hello I'm stood right here ). DP told him, 'it's fine' and told me to ignore him and the bloke then continued to discuss under his breath with his partner/friend my choice to have a drink.

AIBU to think he had no right? To think that it's fine that I had half a pint once in a blue moon? To feel pissed off with the constant judgement of my ever move since I've been pregnant?

Ugh. I've just had enough of today! Sorry for moaning...

Additionally, those of us who can actually assess and evaluate risk intelligently don't deserve to be infantalised, and certainly not by a random man in Wetherspoons!

Thanks op this thread has made me howl

I'd have asked him to say what he had to say to my face or stay the fuck out of my business.

This thread has kept me going all day. It's brilliant.

Also just wanted to add that agree that Scout's post is genius.

Also, a very good post by myrtleWilson pages back that not many seemed to notice.

@thislittlepiggywenttothemarket I'm worried that you're worried that you think I have a drink problem because I had half a cider!

If I was a stranger I wouldn't know tgat it was just one glass of cider though.

You say you are not from the UK so perhaps you arnt really qualified to add an opinion on this topic as you clearly don’t understand the current research.

Please tell me the qualifications that I need to add an opinion.

Also, I said that I didn't think that one glass of cider is harmful, please show me the research that I didn't understand about my opinion on that. Please add pubmed links where it shows that one glass of cider is harmful, since tgat is what you are implying here.

You would worry because a perfect stranger is having a half pint of cider (surely the perfect drink for the occasion) during a summer pub lunch? I would worry that about your anxiety levels if such trivia troubles you!

Since I don't know the perfect stranger I wouldn't know that it would be just one glass. I would judge someone who would drink a lot during pregnancy, but even then I wouldn't comment on it because it's not my life. I explained how I would think, and I am entitled to my thoughts.

ThisLittkePiggie

Yes but wouldn’t your sensible head probably think it’s just one drink?

Do you think many pregnant women or indeed most people are raging alcoholics as you observe them drinking a half cider.

The ones who can’t interoret research and ‘worry people have a drink problem with one cider’ are the stupid. You can’t argue with stupid.

How am I stupid to not know how many a stranger drinks if I see them one time drinking one drink?

And what internet research have I missed? I said that I don't think that one cider will harm you. But if I do see someone drink I would wonder if it was just the one drink or if they had a problem. Since a lot of pregnant women don't drink it's not totally stupid to think that if you still do drink you might be one of those people that have a drinking problem.

Well you need to stop saying you people in uk and sssuming all uk citizens are permanently pissed.

It makes you sound a bit thick

Where are you from thislittlepiggy? Do tell so we can chuck some lazy national stereotypes in your direction.

Do you mean you want to discriminate me? Why?

*Well you need to stop saying you people in uk and sssuming all uk citizens are permanently pissed.

It makes you sound a bit thick*

Maybe you are right here. I actually don't think that all uk citizens are permanently pissed. And I used to live in Kent so I do know that all people are different.

I am from the European continent. British holiday makers do have a reputation here for getting drunk a lot and behaving questionably. I also read more about alcohol on this forum than on other firums in my own language. I haven't read any research that uk citozens drink more than other people but I might have been influenced by stereotyping. My apologies if you felt discriminated.

I love how this still hasn't ended, if you all think you're right, then please show me where it says on the NHS website that consuming 1 unit of alcohol when pregnant is 100% safe and will cause 0% harm??

so please stop saying there are no risks when drinking half a pint of cider, because that isn't a certainty.

also thank you for all your comments on how my child will be 'underprivileged' because I'm young. didn't half make me and my partner giggle

last thing- I think I'm not as stupid as I should be considering I never fully stayed in school, and no thank you to the "you should go back to education after you have had your baby" id rather not thank you. Since when did going to school or college actually define how clever a person is? Richard Branson dropped out of school at 15 and he turned out fine didn't he? and you all call me judgy? yeah, ok.

It was likely close to ending, but then you came back @SavanahXx so I have a feeling the end isn't as near as we thought

Moderate, slow alcohol consumption with a meal isn't risky. Your body will dispose of it before it can reach the placenta. Binge drinking or drinking quickly / hard liquor are a different story.

what a shame it didn't end

You’re absolutely right savanah, that it is not 100% safe to drink alcohol in pregnancy. I don’t think anyone would / could argue with you there.

And good for you for deciding not to continue with education. That’s entirely up to you and a perfectly valid choice.

Whoever commented that your child would be underprivileged, (sorry, I didn’t see the comment, so I don’t know who it was), simply because you’re younger; that does sound judgy.

@catlady3 surely if that was true it would say that on the NHS website, but it doesn't? so who actually knows that it is completely 100% safe??

Nobody knows it’s 100% safe. Nobody has said it is 100% safe I don’t think?

thank you @SaoirseTheSeahorse I would normally get hearty over comments like that, but it made me laugh given that these people who should know better, and who are saying things like that about my child are actually no better than me.

Pubmed? Huh?

thislittlepiggywenttothemarket

Where are you from thislittlepiggy? Do tell so we can chuck some lazy national stereotypes in your direction.

Do you mean you want to discriminate me? Why?

Sigh. 🙄

Obviously because you used the expression “you people” to imply all UK people are rampant alcoholics, that’s why.

Now it’s your turn to feel what it’s like to have someone generalise about an entire country - or a group of connected countries, if you want to be pedantic. ( I am guessing, however, that pedantry is not your strength.)

So, for example, if you were to say you were French, we would throw onions and black berets and so in at you.

Clearer?

...so on