To wonder if anyone else will admit to being a soap dodger?

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I often can’t be arsed. Dh has to prompt me. Anyone else?

Has your sexual relationship broken down?

Not sure what's worse, being a dirty mare or seemingly proudly admitting to it!

I shower every day if im going out but I do admit that if im not going out I may well not shower or change out of PJs...and then just go back to bed in them at the end of the day even sometimes! (but thats quite rare) I do usually go out most days though so on average im showering most days.
The only thing I do religiously is wash my face and hands, and brush my teeth...
I got a bit down last winter and didnt brush my hair for a few days and I had to have a load of it cut out because of the matting... (I have very long hair) that was really sad and grim so I make sure to brush it twice a day now.

No, it’s good meadow

I used to shower every day but life is hard with small kids and I don’t always have time.

Jesus. It's usually a sign of depression, as others have said, but you just sound like you don't care about yourself or others. Do you think anyone wants to be near someone who smells, ffs?

I don’t think I do smell.

Like I say, it’s usually my hair dh comments on.

Is this for real? LOL I would die if my dh told me I needed to shower because I stank. Don't get my wrong there are plenty of times when having a shower and drying my hair etc feels like an total effort but it's not really optional, you just have to do it. And the fresh feeling after you've done it is so worth the effort. How old are you OP? I would be genuinely concerned your dh might land up leaving you over this

The only people I know who are like this were brought up like this.
If you’re not in the habit of washing as a child then you can see how you think that’s normal as you grow up. I know a child who is only allowed to bathe once a week, he is absolutely filthy all the time and he smells so bad. He has to be prompted all the time to wash his hands etc. After lunch he has food all over his face and he has to be told to wash as it just doesn’t occur to him to do it. His parents/grandparents are the same so they’re just passing down they’re own scummy habits.

Anyway OP, it’s not really the norm to not wash, no. People who don’t wash regularly stand out.

How anyone “doesn’t have time” for a 2-3 rinse in the shower twice a day (or even once!) is beyond me. Just making excuses for being generally grotty.

*THEIR!! Fucking ducking phone.

Well, we actually don’t have a shower at the moment. But washing my hair is what takes the time.

thats a bit mean. I just had a baby and have a toddler as well. Like I said above I only shower when im going out so when I first had my daughter I didnt shower for a few days. My DH did actually have to point out to me (in a good natured way) that my armpits whiffed a bit!! He didnt ask me to wash, just laughed and said 'wow thats quite powerful!' I dont think hes going to leave me lol.
The OP says she just finds it difficult to shower every single day with young children... I really dont think her husband is going to leave her over that, thats really an odd thing to say!

I'm not sure that showing every day is entirely necessary (barring heatwave/sports/physical exertion) is it? My friend with eczema showers every other day cos it dries out her skin.

Not washing frequently is a sign of depression?

and unless you are very overweight and have issues with sweating, or are incontinent or have some other issue.... then having a full shower every single day is massive overkill, and a horrendous waste of water and soap. Twice a day every day is a boderline madness! (unless theres some reason like youve been to the gym or got particularly dirty doing something)

touchy as in touch each other?

I don't think every other day is bad really, but the not washing hands is grim.

If you hair is getting that greasy when your washing it that often you may want to find a new shampoo, wash it more often or not wash it when you shower everytime. deleate one that fits.

I would die of mortification if my personal hygiene was poor to the point that someone else felt compelled to comment on it

I also think it’s the case that people with poor personal hygiene don’t realise that they smell bad. Whenever I encounter someone unwashed and smelly it is always my view that they must just not realise - most people aren’t so selfish that they would knowingly inflict BO on others. But it proves that you can’t be the judge of your own smelliness! And if your DH is commenting you can guarantee others in public are noticing too.

My mum only ever has her hair washed by a hairdresser each week. So thats once a week she has it washed and thats all. No one would ever call her dirty and she doesnt look dirty.. shes a very elegant woman

4 showers a week in temperate weather is fine.

To put it into perspective, Queen Victoria (or was it Liz 1?) bathed once a year!

Do you wash your hands after using the loo and before cooking?

Don't be yourself up or allow the 'i shower three times a day' people here to beat you up either

Oh, so your husband tells you to get in the shower ffs yes you've just said you don't have a shower at the minute...

Not much point posting to you OP, whatever your reason for posting it's all a bit pointless.

how can washing your hair take all that much time. it's literly a 2 minute job.

*Don't beat yourself up

Is this a reverse??

I shower most days, sometimes I go without at weekends but that's if I'm being lazy and deodorant / dry shampoo can cut it, and I'm only needing to nip to the shops or something. I enjoy showering though,and at 35 weeks pregnant I'm very sensitive to my own odour... I'm in for no more than 5 mins, 10 is a push if I'm shaving my legs (when I could reach) but I always feel better after. I don't think skipping the odd day or two is so terrible as long as your hygiene is up to scratch... washing hands is a must...

My DH on the other hand has to be prompted frequently, this and the gym membership he never uses have been the two main causes of arguments in our entire 5 year relationship. I don't feel I should need to remind him to shower... and when I do, it sets me on a spiral of resenting him for all the other things I have to remind him to do (wash dishes, check if we need milk, take the bin out) ... and it's infuriating. I mean he could happily go a week or more without, relying on lynx alone to survive. 🙄

So when he does actually shower of his own volition it's like a minor miracle. He doesn't actually hate showering, he spends half an hour in there, he's just a lazy bastard and he just doesn't think of it being something to do. I can't understand it, it's like this part of him never stopped being a teenager.

I knew this when I married him and I'm sure your DH knew the same. But why not surprise him. There is now nothing more attractive to me than my DH in a towel having taken ownership of his own personal hygiene ... lol.

Op it takes a few minutes to have a sink wash doing face, under arms and privates with a flannel. You can do that with small children milling around. I’m sure your children sleep at night too. Honestly, unless you have mobility issues meaning you need assistance, there is no excuse for for not washing yourself daily.

Oh dear...