To wonder if anyone else will admit to being a soap dodger?

[blueberrycoconut]

I often can’t be arsed. Dh has to prompt me. Anyone else?

How often do you wash your children OP?

They have a bath most nights.

It takes me 10 minutes to sbower and hair wash in the morning. When my dc were born, 20 years ago now, I got up fed them nappied them, put them in cot from the first days at home and had a shower and hairwash.

It is ill disciplined and filthy not to. My DC grew up cogniscant of their personal hygiene even my teenage boy.

My mum only ever has her hair washed by a hairdresser each week. So thats once a week she has it washed and thats all. No one would ever call her dirty and she doesnt look dirty.. shes a very elegant woman

I think many of us can probably remember their gran/mum having her weekly shampoo and set and her hair still looking lovely when the next one was due. Ive never been able to understand it though I do marvel at how women of a certain age or generation have the ability to look so well turned out on a good wash every day, then a bath or shower once a week along with a once a week hair do.

Has everyone gone mad? OP is disgusting, leaves a trail of stench everywhere and has mental health issues because she showers FOUR times a week??

I hate showers. Always have. But I hate being dirty and smelly more. And frequent hand washing stops you and others getting sick. OP, unless you have a physical or mental health problem, I think you need to improve your hygiene. I’d be mortified if my DP felt he had to say something.

Ok blueberry, but you still don't care that your husband tells you to wash, has to tell you to do that.

That is not what a normal, functioning adult relationship is like. I wouldn't put up with it in any event.

They have a bath most nights.

So you can wash then! Either at the sink while they bath or get in the bath with them.

Honey, wash those hands. It’s one of the best ways to stop getting ill.
As for the body, at least run a flannel round your bits. Maybe invest in some dry shampoo for your hair ( I would rather just wash hair as I find dry shampoo itchy but it does cut down on grease and odor)

I did get troll vibes but I won’t say anymore in case MNHQ put me to bed with no supper

You sound like my ten year old daughter. It's not nice to live like this as an adult.

I thought that, Jen.

Suspicious subject for a first time poster.

I am. I have ADHD and it's one of the things I struggle with. It's boring/routine meaning I don't want to do it, there is a bit of a sensory thing going on too (I hate feeling wet) and I'm used to the feeling of my skin with a few days' dirt on it meaning it doesn't disturb me until it's been far longer than most people would go. If I feel like I smell sometimes I'll actually wash just my armpits which I recognise is completely nuts as it's more trouble than showering. I just can't seem to get myself into the habit of it. I will remind preteen DS to do it because he wouldn't otherwise but I don't myself

I do wash my hands because I'm a bit paranoid about worms but if I forget about that I can get a bit lax, especially if there aren't good facilities to dry them - the wet feeling again is behind this.

I used to have the same problem with teeth but I have changed that. I had to train myself to brush my teeth every day by forcing myself so that I got used to the sensation of clean teeth because before I was used to the sensation of them being dirty, and them being clean felt nice but unusual. That's where I am with showering now. If I get clean I feel nice but it's not my normal feeling. If I leave it for too long then I'll start getting itchy/uncomfortable but for the majority of the time a little bit of dirt feels normal. I know I need to train myself out of this but I haven't managed to get into a routine of daily showering yet. I have found the best time of day for me to do it is in the evening so I'm halfway there.

As a child I was only bathed once a week so perhaps that's why? And it was always a whole ritual so I have in my head that it takes a long time.

I’m not trolling.

I did sometimes get in the bath when we had one but not with two. Too splashy.

Oh fuck I'm half asleep and didn't think troll. Argh.

I feel grim if I don't bathe daily. It affects how I feel about myself too. Not handwashing is gross and unfair to others who might get I'll from your germs.
I was astounded yesterday at the coast watching 2 separate women walk straight out of the toilet without washing their hands - I mean, at least pretend you do it in public!

I did sometimes get in the bath when we had one but not with two. Too splashy. smile

So wash at the sink while they bath. You can smile while you do it if you like.

I'll actually wash just my armpits which I recognise is completely nuts as it's more trouble than showering

It’s not that really @bertiebotts

I have to use Coal Tar soap as at certain times I can be quite wiffy of pit and if I’m on my own avd the kids are apeshit it’s all I can do to stop them killing one another unsupervised

My teenage son is a soap dodger. It’s such a sticking point with us, as no matter how much I understand he’s a teenager (and he has autism) I just can’t stand it! We have endless conversations about it, as I just want him to learn to be clean, even if he doesn’t actually care about such boring minutiae 😆

As for adults? I can understand those with MH issues or some sensory issues not feeling up to self care.

But it’s a deeply ingrained value in me, personally. I can’t function properly or have any sense of pride in myself if I’m not clean,

And I’m not being snotty. I also have ADHD, but for me, it’s the opposite. Cleanliness is about the only routine I am organised with, probably because it feels good to me. I love my morning shower and my evening bath. I love clean hair and fresh breath. I love perfume and scented body lotions. Definitely the sensory pleasures that hel me get my shit together with this one area of my life!

Not washing your hands after you've been to the toilet is disgusting, sorry. You'll actually make other people ill doing that.

I love showering, as it's relaxing and helps you cool down, like a mini spa; it makes me feel happy. I like a good sniff of my bf in his natural state, but if he regularly left his hair until it looked greasy I wouldn't stay with him.

Loads of people do not shower daily OP.

As far as health recommendations go, you actually do not need to either. It is recommended that you only shower if you are particularly dirty or sweaty, otherwise not needed daily.

You need to was your hand before you eat though. you would be surprised at whats on them!

I’m not a troll

You won’t smell much if you shower 4 times a week as long as you’re not exherting yourself by jogging etc. But lack of hand washing is grim.

We have just shared a holiday villa with the in laws and their hygiene habits left a lot to be desired. MIL’s way of washing mugs and glasses is to literally rinse them under a tap (no use for washing up liquid then?!)and rub the rim with her unwashed nicotine fingers. It is DISGUSTING. We had a dishwasher as well. In the end I just said to her “look, so that if you insist but i’ll Be putting them in the dishwasher anyway”.

When they left I went into their bathroom for something and saw one of their hand towels. Had clearly been used to dry someone’s hands who had definitely not actually used soap with their water!!!

DH tends to be a bit like that with his hands. He is a bit better than when we first met (when I hd to tell him that he couldn’t wear the same socks and undies for 2 days running ). I also had to tell him ha the thought of his unwashed fingers coming near my nether regions made me proper boak. So he does wash his hands more now.

But sometimes will stArt cooking without first washing his hands which I detest.