To wonder if anyone else will admit to being a soap dodger?

[blueberrycoconut]

I often can’t be arsed. Dh has to prompt me. Anyone else?

I hope you're feeling particularly strong today OP because, as you can see from the replies you've already had, people will really leap on this and stick the boot in.

I wouldn’t notice if my dh missed a day of showering (unless it was hot or he’d been exercising) It must be pretty bad if your dh is telling you ffs have a shower.

How is your mental health OP? I only ask this as I have been through periods where I just 'couldn't be bothered' to keep up normal standards of hygiene, not washing or doing my teeth or hair for weeks on end, but I was very seriously depressed at those times. Lack of self care is a huge red flag for mental health issues. But I also don't think it's always necessary to wash every day, and actually I think it's quite wasteful to do so, MN is full of clean freaks though so I'm not surprised at the responses you've had so far.

OP, can't be arsed to shower would indicate a low mood and Im wondering if you perhaps have a low level depression. Im also wondering if you are in fact bothered about your lack of feeling the need to shower and your reaction to some of the posts here is bravado?

Granted some people appear to not need to shower daily but if your partners is having to tell you to go and shower you're obviously not one of those people.

ugh by the time he looks at your hair and asks you to shower, it must be so gross...

please tell me you don't use public transport?

Silk, we cross posted and Im also wondering about the Op's mental health.

Oh sweet Jesus I'd be ashamed if my DH had to prompt me to wash! We shower every single day. I feel disgusting if I don't.

And you should wash your hands!! I bet you don't after the loo, do you?

I don't wash every day when I have depression. Same for brushing teeth, although even when depression is bad I do that once rather than the usual 2/3 times a day. I wash my hands always.

I actually never saw my granny shower. In her retirement flat there was no bath, only a shower. She used to have a basin sluice type wash. She never smelt. I think 3/4 times a week is ok.

Not washing your hands regularly is unpleasant. Showering four times a week sounds ok. I shower or bathe every day but I’m not appalled by someone doing it ever other day. The lack of hand washing turns my stomach though.

blueberry, really? It's not the washing thing as such, but the fact that your husband has to tell you and you seem ok with that. Do you have no respect for him or your relationship?

I would lose respect for my husband if I had to keep telling him to shower. I'm not his mum. I certainly wouldn't be attracted to him even if he did get in the shower after I'd told him.

If your hair is so manky that your husband is telling you to shower then that is beyond acceptable. Why is this ok with you? Are you sad about something?

Honestly, this isn't a confession thread that you'll have many takers on because most people, if they aren't suffering from depression, would not do this. Get help. Or don't, and don't be surprised if your husband takes the decision for your relationship out of your hands. You sound extremely complacent about it. Don't be.

Are you feeling down?

I thought this was going to be about using shower gel / cream rather than soap 😂
Sometimes I don't shower everyday but I definitely do in this heat! And I now cycle to work everyday so I do need to make sure I shower everyday!
Four times a week isn't too bad though I'd say, I used to have bad skin and my doctor advised me to only shower every other day so I wouldn't say it's too bad!

You should definitely be washing your hands after you use the loo though !
I think honestly if your husband is noticing you're not clean then a lot of other people are probably noticing too. Sorry to shame you op but being clean is important.

Well, I don't enjoy showering but I still do pretty much every day. The only day I don't always bother is when I have my chemo pump attached because it's a bit of a faff with the tubing etc.

Do you wash your hands after using the loo? I really hope so.

No, I’m not depressed. Dh just says ffs, get in the bath if I need to. It’s not a big deal

That's disgusting.

You have a shit, don't wash your hands and you think people would be OK with that? YABU.

But it's not even about showering, people don't have to shower. Plenty of people hate showers and only take baths etc.

It's about not washing at all!

I don't necessarily shower every day but by God I wash every day!

So if you're only actually putting soap to body 3/4 times a week, you smell!

That is so unattractive ! Get some self respect

Well it clearly is a big deal if you had to start a thread about it!

It’s not a big deal

No big deal? Your DH is basically having to say you stink. I suggest you get in the shower more often or you may lose your DH as well as any friends you might still have.

It is a big deal. Aren't you worried your DH will start to find you unattractive? Because if my DH had to be prompted because he looked or smelt filthy I would not be as attracted to him.

For him to say ‘ffs have a wash’ is embarrassing though surely? I have to tell my young children to wash, if I had to tell my husband he was dirty and/or smelly that would be very off putting!

You have a shit, don't wash your hands and you think people would be OK with that? YABU

How on earth did you come to that conclusion? Perhaps the Op only washes her hands when she's been to the loo.

This again, in another guise.🙄