DH is being dim, isn't he? Financial

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So we usually do our regular online shop at Sainsbury's, because this is one of the very few supermarkets that shock what DH likes for his dinners (very restrictive dietary needs).

Anyway, I've just noticed Morrison's sale the same thing for cheaper, it's on offer. Only about 30p difference, but we by several of these so it all adds up. Plus, their basics are cheaper.

DH is putting his foot down and saying no, he doesn't want to try Morrison's.

I've asked why and he says there's no point. I said we could save £5/10. He said I don't really care about saving a few quid

Yeah, like we have money to just burn

So I asked again, and he said it's just too much faff to change.
I said but I've signed up instantly. He says no, I'm comfortable with Sainsbury's so leave it at that.

AIBU to think he's being bloody dim? Why wouldn't you save just a few quid? Why spend more money, even small amounts, when you don't have to?

He's adamant it's too much hassle. And says he isn't interested in saving a few quid. It's not worth it.

For context, either myself or him order the online shop. I was going to do it so it's not like he had to go out of his way to sign up or anything. I'd already done it.

In annoyance, he's agreed to add it all up and see if there's any difference at all. Sod's law it'll cost the same overall or be more expensive.

Not really sure why I'm writing this, perhaps I just need a rant

He will most likely see the thread and get the hump. Hopefully it doesn't turn out that I'm U!

I'd say, on the whole, Morrisons is cheaper than Sainsburys, although obviously, like the tinned carrots example, there will be exceptions.

Which works out cheaper will depend on what you buy, but you could always alternate, and on the week that you use Sainsburys, buy a couple of cans extra of tinned carrots and whatever mythical item DH likes to have for his dinners.

Someone whose diet can only be accommodated by one supermarket chain?

I find Sainsburys is better quality overall and Morrisons own brands are a bit crappy. We use several supermarkets over the course of a month and can rarely get a full shop in any of them due to particular requirements. Usually get most of it in Sainsburys because they have more variety and fresher fruit & veg and Waitrose for the special vegetarian and luxury items.

Lidl is not that great, can never get a full shop due to the lack of choice, lack of vegetarian/vegan, lack of freshness/rotting veg, soap flavoured cheese and no Cravendale milk just to mention a few.

The thing is though if he likes the version that one place does over another then why does he have to change. (I do think he should try the other version before deciding)

Just because Tesco/Morrisons/Lidl/Sainsbury's etc all do for example lasagna it doesn't mean there all the same. There will be one that you like much better than the others.

I suppose it would be like you liking a particular brand of tea/shampoo etc and then you dh telling you this other one is 30p cheaper so that what your having.

What a dull discussion to have. Why do t you just order from wherever you want, provided it’s got the things you need.

Just use mysupermarket and it'll work out the cost of your shopping at all the main shops and you can easily see the cheapest.
If his objection is just that it's not enough of a difference, I'd take no notice and do it anyway. My FIL is like this, I've been trying to get him to change energy supplier for years but he says they'd 'only' save for example £50/£60 a year so why bother. In reality, he just hates change of any sort and resists it fiercely. Which is fine, not my problem or my money. But if it directly affected me, I'd be ignoring him and doing it anyway.

I can't think of any circumstances where this would have been an actual conversation in my house.

OP order from where you like, as long as it suits his dietary needs there's no problem. What an odd thing to 'put his foot down' about.

Morrisons on-line may be more expensive than in store because they don't have some of the cheaper items on-line, for example most of the "savers" range.

I'm presuming that his dietary needs are some kind of allergy or severe intolerance. Perhaps he has tried other brands before and it has impacted on his health? I can understand therefore that he may be reluctant to try somewhere else and risk being ill. Could he try just one of these products, see how he reacts, then take it from there? Or could he continue to get the Sainsbury's products, then the rest of the shop be done at Morrisons if that will still be cheaper?

I don't know what his dietary needs are but our local Morrisons has an amazing aisle full of special foods - way better than our nearest Sainsburys (perhaps because the Morrisons is in the slightly 'posher' town!)

It probably varies from place to place but it could well be worth a try, although he might just prefer the Sainsbury's versions and dietary restrictions can be miserable so I don't think he's unreasonable in that respect.

Well the OP suggests that they're on quite a tight budget. And lots of small savings add up and can make a huge difference.

Lucky for those who don't have to make these kind of choices, and can buy exactly what they want, without thinking about the cost, but many do need to stick to a budget, and looking at reducing supermarket costs without necessarily compromising on choice and quality is a very good place to start.

The OP says the exact same item that her DH likes to eat a lot of is 30 pence cheap at Morrisons, plus some other of their basics are cheaper. If this is something they can, say buy 10 of and keep in the freezer or cupboard, that's £3 saved straight away, plus whatever saved on whatever else they buy. It won't even matter if they spend some of the savings spending an extra 16 pence on more expensive tinned carrots.

I'd say that an average shop at Morrisons would be £5-10 more expensive at Sainsburys, so potentially a couple of hundred pounds a year saved, which is significant to a lot of people.

Could you alternate? Just double up on the cheaper items at each supermarket so they last a fortnight.

I appreciate you're talking about online btw - but I am assuming most items are online as well as in store.

Why on earth would you buy tinned carrots??

i find www.mysupermarket.co.uk/ an excellent price comparison tool. either online or just to compare prices. we have saved an absolute fortune.
when you complete your shopping basket, the site will compare prices for you. also good for showing special offers as well.
do an online shopping list with this tool and show him the difference!

I am also mind-boggled at tinned carrots. It's the sort of thing that very very old people with no teeth or taste buds might buy...

Are his restrictive dietary needs from genuine health problems like coeliac or severe nut allergy, or does he just place narrow limits on what he will eat? In which case is this supermarket conservatism part of the same issue?

Gosh yes it is so dull to have to worry about money

£10 saved every week is £520 a year!

I have a basic online shop from Morrisons every week. I've used Tesco, Sainsburys and Asda in the past and Morrisons is easily the best. They use the same delivery network as Ocado (which services Waitrose). I then do a top-up shop in Aldi and at the local market for soft fruit and veg.

To be honest your H sounds like a snob. Which is fine, but be honest about being a snob - don't dress it up as "too much hassle". If he's happy to lose over £500 every year because he thinks Sainsburys is 'posher' then more fool him!

The tinned carrots are for his lentil concoction that he eats for lunch during the week. Looks and tastes awful to me.

We can't shop at Asda because they don't stop Linda McCartney pulled chicken, but funnily enough we have to go there just to buy his Asda's own strawberry soya milk

Not convinced snobs eat tinned carrots. I think he’s just weird.

Xpost - Surely you shop at range of places OP?

I online shop from 4 different supermarket, it would be 5 if Morrisons delivered in my area.

I just get all the best stuff from each one and stock up. They don't tell you off for lack of loyalty and I'd get really bored using the same one each week.

I've also found you get more inducements if you're not a regular.

My DH was the same - wouldn't eat own brand cereal so I conducted an experiment. I put own brand cereal in branded packets and, guess what, he never noticed.

He sounds a nightmare! Sainsburys is the one shop we won't use - asda quality at ocado prices IMO.
If it's an option why don't you just buy your own and any DC you have food and let him sort himself out with his lentils and tinned carrots!

Why is his diet restricted and what would happen if he eats something he should avoid?