WIBU to post Dsis her kids back and ruin her holiday?

[Santasjinglebelle]

WTAF to do?
Agreed to have niece (8) and nephew (7) over to stay for a while so Dsis and hubby can attend destination wedding/ first holiday without kids in tow.
Last time they were here I put them both in pyjamas pants as I know that they're prone to accidents and I just don't have the time or energy (or inclination to be frank) to keep up with the additional laundry.
Dniece pipped up earlier to tell me me that neither of them will be wearing pyjama pants this time round as their mummy told them not to.
Thinking they must have misheard, I call Dsis to get her to speak with them. Dsis proceeds to berate me for wanting to "humiliate" her children. Apparently pyjamas pants encourage bedwetting by infantilise slow developers - better to let them feel uncomfortable in their own piss and learn the hard way.
Before I could get out any kind of response she fobbed me off with some shite about a dodgy line and hung up!!
WTF am I supposed to do? They went to bed at 8pm and used the toilet first but I've just changed nephew's sheets! Another 8 nights of this makes me want to weep.
No other relatives near enough to pawn off on, niece is adamant, nephew does what his sister says and Dsis not answering phone anymore.
Hubby's response (he was joking) "try Easy jet." But now I'm seriously considering this, WIBU?

DS1 was dry well before his first birthday at night - I actually thought something was wrong with him. DS2 was average (around 2.5) and DS3 still has an accident once a month or so at nearly 9.

@Thesearepearls
Are you serious?

If it was normal/average/standard to wet the bed at 7...8...9, then no doubt pull ups would be made in that size.

Hi OP. Whilst it not usual to wet at this age it is normal. If they won’t wear pull ups then try the night time bed pads. Don’t put it under the sheet, put it on top - but in order to stop it getting scrunched up put a small cot sized sheet or large towel over the top. Make sure they drink LOADS during the day but maybe cut back in the evening ( although new research shows this makes no difference) definitely do not give them any hot chocolate (or tea or coffee). The mum really should have had a discussion about managing this, the poor DC must be mortified.
@CurrentlyAwayFromTheCompuer - yes we’re such ‘lazy’ parents. Your life atm sounds like mine for the last 3 years. We have just spent well over £100 on a Rodger alarm system and I am now sleeping in the same room as 11yo DS in order to wake him up when it goes off, as he doesn’t. Then change his sheets, re-set the alarm and do it all again a few hours later. Then get up after a broken nights sleep and get everything washed and dried in order to start all over again. Compared with all those hard working parents who put their children to bed then sleep all night and get up in the morning with no washing to do.

Oh and medication doesn’t always work either DS on double dose of desmopressin and Oxybutynin which had no effect

"Aren’t they a bit old for bed wetting? Ugh"

Aren't you a bit old for trolling? Ugh.

Aren’t they a bit old for bed wetting? Ugh

Aren’t you a bit old to be using the word “ugh”.

How old were your kids when they stopped bedwetting Rose.....?

Ignore all the “experts” OP. You need to be firm but kind. I agree with the suggestion of saying it’s meant to be holiday and fun so they can wear bedtime pants and not have to worry about wet beds.

@Santasjinglebelle, don't do any of these daft extra-work suggestions. Just use pull-ups. It's not your job to night train you dn&n on holiday, especially when it's been dumped on you without consultation. Let them and you have a nice, easy holiday.

A PP's suggestion of having them wear pants under the pull-ups in order to feel the wetness, as demanded by their mum, is a reasonable compromise.

I am unreasonably outraged by a stranger's situation OL, and so many of the responses that encourage you to doormat yourself, let alone the ignorant, even nasty, responses!

purple, Depends on how you approach it - if they see it as a punishment then yes, if they see it as just one of those things which has to be dealt with then no.

Yes, I see.

RoseWhite, what a foul thing to say.

Ghanagirl

Despite having been reported in many occasions for abusive posts - and having had posts deleted - you are still continuing.
I am surprised you have not been banned.

...on many

You have been reported again.

Aren’t they a bit old for bed wetting? Ugh

Nasty post.

Report away you are deeply unpleasant if you make disparaging remarks about a young child who wets the bed

Tbh I'm amazed RWT hasn't been barred before now for the nasty little troll that he/she is, really I am.

I’m not the only one who thinks what you said is offensive ^^

"You have been reported again"

Betcha quaking in your boots there, GG.

liz70

Tbh I'm amazed RWT hasn't been barred before now for the nasty little troll that he/she is, really I am.
Exactly!!

name change

Delighted to see MN have taken reports seriously and deleted the offensive post.

Is it really common for seven and eight year olds to wet the bed? Genuinely curious as I've never known any not dry by that age other than one who had complex additional needs. Seems strange it is both of them too.

Betcha quaking in your boots there, GG.

Is it really common for seven and eight year olds to wet the bed? Genuinely curious as I've never known any not dry by that age other than one who had complex additional needs. Seems strange it is both of them too

Night time bladder “training” doesn’t work like daytime training, so it’s perfectly normal for a child to wet the bed much later, it can be due to lack of hormone production.

It can also be hereditary so both siblings being later to be dry at night isn’t uncommon amongst those who aren’t dry.

@JacquesHammer thanks, I hadn't considered that I might need nappies until that age! For DC not me...