To wonder why they are pretending it wasn’t planned?!

[Bilbonaggins]

My SIL has just announced her first pregnancy - really exciting and her and BIL are thrilled!

They got married at Christmas and she told me when they got back from her honeymoon that she had gotten her implant removed as they wanted to start a family.

But now she is telling everybody what a surprise it was and how they weren’t even trying? AIBU to find it really odd to pretend a pregnancy was unplanned when they came off BC in order to have a baby?! I find it especially awkward when they say it around friends that I know have been trying for children a while and haven’t been successful.

I can understand pretending it was planned when it wasn’t but why would anyone want to pretend their baby was an accident? Any ideas?!

The OP just thinks it's odd the couple are playing fast and loose with the truth, when there's absolutely no shame in the truth.

And she's wondering about it on an anonymous forum. It's allowed.

Why would OP be envious?

A couple told her they were about to start trying for a baby. A few months later, well within the normal time period, they have conceived. They are now going round telling everyone it was an accident (this is what it is when you conceive while 'not trying').

That is bloody WEIRD and I'd be wondering what on earth their thought process is too.

Have we got to a point where people think that the normal thing is to come off your birth control and conceive that very same month? So they somehow feel a need to lie about it if it took them a few months, as it actually does for almost everyone of normal fertility? And especially if they were on hormonal contraception that can take a little while to leave the body?

Have we got to a point where people think that the normal thing is to come off your birth control and conceive that very same month?
No. But I'd like to think we are at the point where adults who actively come off contraception in order to have a baby don't bullshit the world by claiming their pregnancy is some how miraculously unplanned and a total surprise.

Maybe it's just me what is wrong with announcing a pregnanch and that's that?Great news everyone.

Why say one thing to one person and then lie? It's odd. If you're pregnant and it's a wanted baby then great news. Save the bullshit.

I think there can be an element of psychological protection in the language people use.

I was very broody for DC 3 age 39 after a 2DC then a gap. DH & I said we would "see what happened." We were aware that pregnancy age 39/40 was different to pregnancy in our late 20s and didn't want to build our hopes too much in case we weren't successful. At least that's what we told ourselves. We weren't really under any illusions that we were trying TTC. We just knew we were lucky to have 2 children already.

We did have DC3