To Have Walked Out of Restaurant about Wagyu Beef

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DP & I have recently returned from holiday with his DCs.

On the last evening we went out for a meal at a lovely restaurant.

DP & his son (13) both ordered Wagyu beef steaks- 150 gms. The restaurant only had 1 x 150 & 1 x 130 gm steaks left. DP said that’s fine.

When they arrived DSS started crying & shouting it wasn’t fair for DP (he’s 15 stone) to have the bigger steak.
After 5 minutes I got up and left.

DP thinks I should have been more understanding. I said ‘ personally I would have picked up the offending steak & put it in the bin’

The ludicrousness of people declaring somebody “needed” the extra is hilarious.

Nobody, in the history of humanity, has ever “needed” Wagyu steak. It’s a luxury not a feckin necessity!

I want to know how it was cooked?

OP I think leaving was the dignified response to his bratty behaviour. If my child had embarrassed someone enough to make them leave a restaurant I'd be furious with them! It sounds like you've bent over backwards to allow them time with their Dad.

Where did op say her dh was overweight? He could be tall and all muscle at that weight.

I think we need someone to upload pictures of two equivalent steaks and have a vote on which is bigger because I'm not convinced that it would be obvious to the naked eye.

This is ridiculous. Children do not have the choice when it comes to whose serving is larger. This child was lucky to be offered such a delicacy, whatever size it was! When I was a child, my parents had steak, I had chicken or something else, and I did not expect to have steak unless it was a very special event!

4.6 and 5.3 ounces.

Wonder what they cost?

I have just for the last 10 posts been thinking what wagyu stood for! (Sheltered life?) 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ AIBU? 😒

A dreadfully embarrassing situation. You were right to walk.

I think you dealt with it perfectly. If my DS did this I’d be beyond ashamed at the spoilt brat I’d raised and tell him to leave the restaurant.
The dad should be embarrassed of the tatrummung and tears too - good lord this boy is going to be ripped to shreds at high school.

I can't afford Wagyu steak! Hilarious.

Wow rainingcatsanddogs, I hope you are doing your boys a disservice by suggesting they would laugh and possibly put film on the internet of a 13 year old that was crying in a restaurant. Who knows what condition a child like that could have. I find your levity about it disturbing.

I was with a Disney Dad for just over 4 years. Nightmare. Ironically the kids weren’t the problem...

It had absolutely nothing to to do with the size of the steak. The 13 yo behaved like a 2 yo. Not “getting your way” is a fact of life, learning how to behave is too.
OP was totally correct in walking away from such an inappropriate and embarrassing situation.
I think I’d be questioning the future of my relationship with a man that allows this

To be fair 13 year old still growing and probably needed it more than an overweight man. They burn a lot of calories at that age.

And to be fair I doubt very much that a 13year old was thinking along those lines.
More like ' I want what dads got wah wah wah'

Your DS was out of line.

He should have given his son the bigger steak- at 15st it would have been for his benefit.

How much was the steak?

This silly little boy who cries and gets upset about the size of his steak is due to have a bloody big wake up call.

At 13 he wouldn’t have got wagyu beef. At that age most teens are bothered about quantity rather than quality.

He would have got rump.

Good point edison if we were in a restaurant with wagyu on the menu I’d tell kids to order anything but that! It’s bloody expensive!

My 7yo nephew once cried over fajitas and I thought that was pushing it a bit. I may have walked out too. Giving him the benefit of the doubt though; teenage hormones?

But how did you and DH deal with it afterwards?

Fancy steak is for pretentious adults, not hungry teens. 130g is about 5oz? That's a pretty tiny steak unless you know what you're expecting.

Obviously his reaction was way OTT but equally obviously it was not really about steak.

It is so difficult being a step-parent. I'm not one anymore, in part because my then BF's style of parenting was so different to mine (think Disney Dad versus real-life parent).

You are not being unreasonable. Does your DP not find it strange that hie 13-year old son had a fully on crying fit because his steak was a bit smaller that his Dad's?

This issue is not yours. Christ, I'd have been off the to the bar for a stiff g&t. Your DP needs to tell DSD to stop behaving like a spoiled brat.

*Sorry, DSS.