To Have Walked Out of Restaurant about Wagyu Beef

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DP & I have recently returned from holiday with his DCs.

On the last evening we went out for a meal at a lovely restaurant.

DP & his son (13) both ordered Wagyu beef steaks- 150 gms. The restaurant only had 1 x 150 & 1 x 130 gm steaks left. DP said that’s fine.

When they arrived DSS started crying & shouting it wasn’t fair for DP (he’s 15 stone) to have the bigger steak.
After 5 minutes I got up and left.

DP thinks I should have been more understanding. I said ‘ personally I would have picked up the offending steak & put it in the bin’

the 13 year old realised all the old hierarchies have changed and he is now the least important person in his dads life.

Yes, because the least important person in someone's life generally gets taken on holiday and given disgustingly expensive steak

Have you been able to have a discussion about this subsequently with your DP, OP?

OP...Do you really order the cheapest thing on the menu ?

You should have swiped both steaks into your plate, cut them down to about 80g each, and scoffed the trimmings yourself.

Didn't want to read and run.

Totally off topic but has anyone tried Wagyu? Is it far superior to a top quality British steak?

All behaviour is communication.
If OP thinks it will help her to have her DPs son labelled a best on the internet then fine, she has set up this thread and achieved her objective.

A brat, not best. Typo.

Is this not hormonal?

I used to get overly upset sometimes when a bit younger than that - if he’s going through puberty maybe he’s struggling to control his emotions. I don’t think boys are exempt even if they tend towards different behaviour.

Admittedly I wouldn’t have kicked off in a restaurant but then I was a thoroughly pleasant teen

YANBU with your response though OP I would have done the same - just not sure about the ‘behavioural problems’ some people are talking about.

@DameDoom I have only tried at home and it was the £7.99 ones from Aldi (So not proper Wagyu at all but "from cattle sired by Waygu bulls and raised in New Zealand"... or something like that). Was delicious though, lots of marbling from the fat and quite rich, but very tender).

The proper stuff from Japan, costs up to 50 quid a steak (frozen) and that's to cook at home www.finefoodspecialist.co.uk/wagyu-beef/japanese-wagyu/ - so that's why I have never tried it. No idea how much it costs in a restaurant. You can buy the Wagyu breed bred in the UK though apparently, so restaurants here may sell that, which I am guessing is a lot cheaper than the stuff from Japan? Probably also the case in other European countries.

www.britishwagyu.co.uk/where-to-buy-1/

Some people seem to think it's over-rated though:
www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2017-03-08/is-wagyu-the-world-s-most-overrated-steak

OP can't win, can she?

The life of a step-parent, really. (I'm not one, but reading the threads on here....boy, tough.)

His father really needs to stop indulging this rubbish.
Wagyu beef? WTF?

13 year old can have the bigger lump of carcass when he's paying the restaurant bill.

buttermilkwaffles thank you. I'll be up for giving the Aldi one a go

health.gov/dietaryguidelines/2015/guidelines/appendix-2/

According to this, 13yo boys definitely do not need as many calories as adults, and they don't need the calories appropriate to a grown man until about 16 (unless they are one of the ludicrously tall 13yos we keep reading about on MN....! but that is not usual or typical).

Of course growing boys need enough food but the idea that average early-teen boys need to be given bigger servings than their fathers is quite wrong (and could result in obesity if it becomes a regular habit--though admittedly one steak on one night would hardly be an issue).

Absolutely fine for him to have the smaller steak. He should appreciate getting any wagyu as it is a luxurious food.

(Interestingly, it looks like 19-20s need the most calories, even though their growth has either plateaued or stopped altogether by that age. I guess it's because they are still putting on "bulk" (width/muscle) at 19-20 which takes up a lot of calories).

Found the vegan!

Dammit, you beat me too it 9amTrain!!

13 years old and crying/shouting over what is essential 20g of steak. He'd have walked out with me and straight into bed without any steak.

I’m sorry but you must have had a delightful time on holiday with him .....

*Yes even now I would feel a heightened sense of unfairness if me and my friend both ordered the same steak but it was decided she’d get the bigger one. Why? Because she’s older? Taller? Weighs more?

Children don’t comprehend that the reason Dad gets more is that (apparently) he needs more. They see that they are getting less and believe that they must be worth or deserving of less.*

That is called being greedy. Had a friend and I gone out and been in that same situation, it would have been 'you have it' 'no you have it' 'I insist, you have it'. It's 20 fucking grams difference! No one is going to starve over 20 grams, and if it were not Wagyu that is ridiculously overpriced per gram, you probably wouldn't have even noticed the difference.

Well, clearly this is not about the beef

How long have his parents been divorced? How bad was the divorce, how's his relationship with his mum?

Divorce can be hard for kids (especially if preceded by years of fighting and bad atmosphere)

I know 1 boy like in OP, he can't take anything, but that is because his family life is a mess (controlling dad who raises his fist at him/shouts at him. Depressed mum who micro manages the DS. The poor kid is a mess, and yes, he would cry over any disappointment, he's easily on.the verge of tears)

Something is up with this kid. The OP speaks of him with no affection, fair enough maybe, but poor boy

Unless he's Veruca Salt, this was not about 20g of beef and I'm surprised at the scathing comments essentially calling a 13yo child a brat.

I don't know what it was because I'm
not a psychologist but it wasn't the beef.

Feeling his dad doesn't put him first, feeling like his dsm doesn't particularly like him, missing his mum, something, but not the beef.

Call it what you will, 'storming off' or not, walking away from a difficult family situation doesn't really help

Calmly leaving a tantruming child in a safe place until the tantrum burns itself out is pretty much the definition of what to do. It's just that normally the child is 3, not 13.

It is lovely steak. A rare treat due to the cost although apparently Lidl and Iceland do a version of it. Burgers around £3 and steaks around £8 but it’s not going to be the proper stuff but presumably still tastes really good.

Generally in my opinion DSS & I have a very good relationship. He often asks to help with cooking etc.

When I first witnessed his crying because he was losing a game I was actually dumb struck. He now cheats when playing certain board games so he wins.

Yes I generally choose the cheapest thing I don’t think I appreciate food enough to order something really expensive