Husband keeps tracking our daughter on find my friend on iPhone

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If she goes out, it's every 15 minutes he's tracking her. I'm not too sure how to address this, thanks.

who would have the time and dedication to check every 15 minutes?

Lots of domestic abusers do.

Yuk.

Is he abusive in other ways op? That's what this behaviour is, abusive. I'd be concerned about why he seems to be obsessed with his teenage daughter, is he her biological father?

Delete the app off your phone. Weird as hell. Yes abuse and highly controlling you are not possessions.

He takes the car off her -was it not your gift too?

You need to be very clear with him that this is completely unacceptable, and he does NOT get to play the Victorian patriarch in your marriage or in your family. He simply cannot trample all over your adult daughter's consent and autonomy, and you won't support him in doing so.

I actually feel for your husband he is clearly terrified that something bad will happen to her and it's taking over his own life. Don't know how to help though, sorry I'll probably be there myself in a few years' time. Lots of calming discussions and trying to wean him off it?

He could get a tile or other kind of jetting tracker and put it in the car. Then your daughter can have autonomy when she’s not in the car, I guess. It’s still creepy, though. (I want the key ring thing because it can also locate keys in the house - I’m notoriously shit at losing them.)

I was wondering the same kaytee

The Freedom Programme will help you to understand the dynamics of your relationship and how damaging this is for your daughter.

Get your daughter to go too so she has a chance to unravel this before it wrecks her adult life. Don't normalise abuse for her, and don't stand by while her father abuses her.

Www.freedomprogramme.co.uk

He could get a tile or other kind of jetting tracker and put it in the car.

Personally, I wouldn't compromise and do something like this. She's eighteen, not thirteen - she deserves her privacy. If she can be trusted with a car, he needs to stop tracking her and if he removes her car, maybe OP can sell it and give the money to their daughter so she can purchase her own car without the risk of dad taking it away.

This is abusive. If he was her partner we'd call it coercive control which is illegal. I'm also concerned about your relationship with him that you don't seem to be able to fully challenge him or say that no, he can't take the car back. Is he controlling with you op? Does what he say goes in the house?

Woman of few words, aintcha OP ?

My dad is a computer boffin, he did this to me throughout my teens and probably does now

(I am 30)

It’s totakky obtrusive and he needs to stop.

I would take it off your own phone to set an example for your daughter. Could he take he car off her without your agreement or is it an empty threat?

He tracks the whole family? Wtf.

It’s your responsibility to remove his ability to track you and your daughter. I wouldn’t even tell him.

Get a mother phone, cheap one that he can’t access,

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You need to find out WHY he feels the need to check up on her so often. Is he worried about who she's with? Does he feel she's not safe? If he has genuine concerns, these can be addressed. It's natural for parents to be worried, but he needs to learn to let go, to let her grow up and make her own way in life.

If he's not worried and is just being nosey, he needs to pull his head in, back off big time or he'll push her away.

He sounds like a creepy weirdo.

You need to turn the function of for yourself to reinforce the message to him it’s not normal. And support your dd to do the same.

Very controlling and abusive. Tell her to turn it off. And if she has to give back the car, so be it. She will find a way to get her own car like others do.

Why are you all tracked, turn yours off asap, and tell her to turn here off right now.awful a usive and controlling.

You need to turn this into a red line issue and stand up for your daughter. He's being abusive and controlling.