To be a little bit sad that my DH is now a little old man

[Oldsu]

I do love him dearly he is the light of my life BUT
I never really thought of him as old even though he is 69, but I guess having been married to him for 46 years I hadn't really noticed as its sort of gradual.

Today I was waiting for him to come home, a taxi pulled up and an old man in a raincoat had to be helped out of it, it gave me a bit of a start when I realised it was DH.

Mind you I am sure he looks at me and wonders where the young girl with the hour glass figure went.

Its a bugger this getting old lark

My parents have been married 67 years, DH and I 41 years.
I'm another who looks in the mirror and my mum looks back at me!
I've recently been pretty ill and DH is having to look after me; it's a huge shock when you're normally very fit and active ☹️
Not sure what my future looks like.

wherehavealltheflowersgone

Aw op this brought a tear to my eye, congratulations on your lovely long marriage

My ddad died at 62 and I've just realised I'm nearly his age. It is so unfair as he was a brilliant dad but he had prostate cancer that went into his bones and other organs. He didn't have a cat in hells chance once diagnosed.

Old age doesn't come on it's own, it brings all sort of shocks with it. I was looking at an outfit for my daughter's wedding (I'm 62) and kept thinking that's something my mum would have worn. I then realised she was only six years older than me when she died.

Walked my youngest daughter down the aisle last Saturday.
Buggered if I know who the little, fat, old, bald bloke appearing next to her in the photos of the event is though . . .

Its me for the second time! Such an emotional thread. Lesley I have followed your story on another thread and admire you so much.
It was my birthday today. We took the whole family out for lunch. My DH has been through the mill lately. Lots of problems and none completely solvable but was so aware of the love around the table for him.

I feel guilty for wondering how I'll manage if I'm left alone when I read some of the posts on here.

Thank you for all your lovely replies some of them have made me cry. I am glad now I started this thread BTW Longsummerdays you are lucky you see your mum when you look in the mirror I am beginning to look like my Nan

I've been married 43yrs, and I look At him as the vital young man imarried back I 1975. It tears at my heart because we're not. But life goes on. What else can we do?

I'm not going to correct my mistakes. But I am crying myself to sleep on this thread, and thats the honest truth.

Goodnight peeps.

A very poignant thread. OH and I both early 50s. We have lost three friends to cancer in the last six months and are seeing our parents' health decline. Carpe diem indeed.

Oh and re the PPs I quite like a foray onto Gransnet. Agree that there is a great deal of support and friendship. Sure people moan (and they don't here?!) but there's lots of other threads too

Ach, the comment about glasses!
I noticed I was getting double vision in one eye, and the optician told me I had developed astigmatism - as well as a lecture for not getting my eyes tested for 13 years. Glasses permanently for me.
A friend remarked "You're lucky to get to your age before needing glasses!"
I was 36.
My parents are both septuagenarians and are probably in better health than me. My dad has finally retired and is noticeably looking younger, if anything!
As for DH and I, we're coming up 14 years married soon and he's just as gorgeous as ever, but with lovely tight glutes thanks to taking up cycling. I feel like a flustered blimp next to him.

My Dh is 70 has RA, Lupus and osteoarthritis, I too was waiting for him a couple of weeks ago and suddenly realised he was the bent white haired man coming towards me, it was a shock. I'm a fit 67, we've been together since I was 17.

About 4 years ago I went to a ferry terminal to collect my DH in a car. I'd been waiting a while and saw this rather haggard, shabbily dressed, very middle aged guy shamble off the boat. I was quite shocked. I did tell him I was a bit shocked particularly at his clothes which that day were truly bad....like a gamekeeper from 1970. To his credit, he's really smartened up since. He was 44 back then!!!
Perhaps you did catch your DH at a bad moment .....69 is really NOT that old. Late middle aged...not a little old man fgs...sounds like something from a bloody fairytale!

Sometimes i catch sight of my reflection and realise i really have turned into my mother - and not in a good way.

My parents were married for 50 yrs and then my lovely dad died very suddenly at age 73. It's so hard for my mum adjusting to life without him. I on the other hand have been married for 17 yrs (feels like 50 mostly)!

It’s lovely to read these posts of people growing old together and heart-breaking too, for those who have lost their partners/soulmates and parents at a young age.
It made me think of my DH - we are both in our early 50s and been together 11 years and looking towards the future.

It made me think of my mum, who has Dementia/Alzheimer’s and in a care home and how she misses her husband (my dear dad died aged 72 - 15 years ago) and that it would be their 59th anniversary on Wednesday. I am glad I sent a TouchNote postcard of my DH and me in our Glasgow2018 volunteers uniform.

I can’t do a lot for my mum but it’s doing the little things that makes a world of difference.

As someone says: grab life by the balls as much as you can.

Oldsu - I sympathise, being an old couple ourselves.
I didn't realise there were so many of us on here!

I totally get it - my DH has aged years in a shortish period after being diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis and diabetes plus another condition, and it makes me sad that we can't do the things we'd planned on ... but glad he's with me. Like you, I find the future abit scarey.I just pray every night that I'll have him as well as he is today for years yet.

I was looking at outfits for my daughter's wedding next month. One outfit she said was nice ,but I said "it looks like something your nana would have worn". She reminded me that I'm 62 and my mum was only 68 when she died.

I still see my DH through the same eyes as when we first met 20 years ago. I'm totally in love. I don't see how time changes us but it does and we are still smitten with one another.

My husband is 61 this year, he doesn't have any hair now and has put a fair bit of weight on but to me still the same as when we met.

My Dad is 81 and I only see him for a week once a year. Every year he gets a bit more deaf and smaller, more bent over. He's in great health luckily.

The sexiest mad I know is 60 this year. Oh my lord he is just beautiful, brown eyes like liquid, tall, a bit craggy with silver hair. Just gorgeous. And, he just has this way of way of walking......

man obvs.

My DH was 85 when he passed (35 years my senior). Watching him age, I found the more frail he became, the more dear he was to me because I knew our time was shortening. In his heart he was the same man who had captivated me when I was 17; in my heart he was more than that because I'd grown to appreciate him. Twenty years on and I miss him bitterly.

Another couple of "old farts" here, him 72 me 75, married 51 years, yikes.
Yes we do feel our age sometimes but as we are caring (adopted) 5 with special needs, youngest 12, thanks Social Services, they keep us alert and on the ball! Seriously we fall about laughing most days, life is good so enjoy yourselves you young whippersnappers.
Thanks Oldsu for starting this thread I have a lot to be grateful for, still love the silly old fool!!