To be a little bit sad that my DH is now a little old man

[Oldsu]

I do love him dearly he is the light of my life BUT
I never really thought of him as old even though he is 69, but I guess having been married to him for 46 years I hadn't really noticed as its sort of gradual.

Today I was waiting for him to come home, a taxi pulled up and an old man in a raincoat had to be helped out of it, it gave me a bit of a start when I realised it was DH.

Mind you I am sure he looks at me and wonders where the young girl with the hour glass figure went.

Its a bugger this getting old lark

@Oldsu do you still look at him and get that rush of love and affection? Speaking as someone who only got married this year, that's all I want, to be able to look at my husband 30 years from now and still feel that. I kind of got that from the warmth in your first post :)

OP, what a wonderful long marriage.

My DH died at 61 and I am corroded with envy when I see couples of our age, because we never got to grow old together. Next week would have been our 25th wedding anniversary. I'm glad to say I always appreciated him, never took him or our life together for granted.

Dont worry Samcro just nag him to cycle safely.

There are so many thoughtless drivers out there, you just have to preempt the crazy risks some of them will take !!

I hear you olds

I'm married 31 years.
I married an athletic very handsome man. (Most people felt I was punching above my weight)
He's mid fifties now and I find myself increasingly regretting that I didn't appreciate his rugged good looks and fine young body.

He is overweight and balding now with arthritis but hey ......I love the very bones of him, arthritic or not.

Hasthemarketsplit i am secretly hoping that he won't be able to do it any more....I would rather take him and pick him up from work.
all the accidents he has had are because of drivers not looking(not this one was work related)

There is a song- by Sophie Ellis Bexter I think- that says”you give me young blood” or something similar and, despite our 30 years together, I do feel my DH does inject me with this. We laugh together and behave ridiculously immaturely together. Our 18 yo DD says ‘relationship goals’ about us, which I think is a compliment!
However, it is a shock to realise we probably need reading glasses as we squint over a menu!
I think all our long term friends look great so I agree I see people at the age they were when I met them. We lost a great mate aged 51 to MND recently, it has made us embrace life even more than we did before I hope.

Congratulations on 46 years of marriage. My parents would have been married for 50 years next month, but my Mom died last year, just 2 weeks after their 49th wedding anniversary. Treasure every moment.

I also do that thing where you catch your reflection in a shop window or mirror and think yikes, is that me, I look so old...

I am sitting here feeling so sad for my mil as today is her 63rd wedding anniversary and she lost her husband in March. Count your blessings. As a pp said the alternative isn’t great.

Its a bugger this getting old lark

Isn't it just.

DH died at 37 when our DCs were 7 and 5. Please, please be thankful for long marriages and old age. I miss him desperately.

This thread is so moving; funny (especially tinkly with her baffled children), lovely and sometimes sad.

I totally relate to the "people forever stuck at the age you met them" thing. DH is simultaneously 23 (in my mind) and 42 (in reality). And I still can't believe my luck.

My dad died a few months ago, and at 82 was a proper "little old man". He and my mum were married for 46 years and she misses him so desperately.

for echt and researchandbiscuitfan.

If you think getting old is a bugger - take yourself over to Gransnet. God it's a depressing place.

I've had exactly the same experience recently OP -- twice! Both times I spotted some geezer riding a bike near where we live and thought ´who's that old boy near our housé' only to realise seconds later that it was DH.
I didn't think he was all that grey...
He's still quite sprightly, though. .

My old man is late fifties and we have our 36th wedding anniversary later in the month. He has just been tested for being diabetic and is quite shocked. It obviously means a lot of lifestyle changes, but I still think of him as the fit young rugby player from our wedding pictures.

I have enjoyed your replies but I really hope I haven't upset anybody, I do realise I am lucky we have had all this time together and katmarie yes still get that rush of love and affection, hope you have a long and happy marriage

Kath

I avoid Gransnet as my children are career focused and it might be years before we have GC, just hope they do not leave it too late. Their lives and their choices, of course.

My Aunt and Uncle celebrated their 70th wedding anniversary in the year before they both died. Now that's old

I kind of get where you're coming from, but my 36 year old friend died this week leaving two young children, and I'm pretty sure that her husband would give anything to have reached 46 years of marriage with her and go have grown old together.

congratulations to all the long marriages.been at it twice,divorced first but ont because we didnt love each other.second died after 20 years he was 70.
am still in touch with ex he still calls me beautiful and i still get that little rush when the phone rings and its him.weird huh/then i look in the mirror and wonder who she is.shes 61!
having been loved unconditionally by 2 husbands,i can't really bitch.
in my head i am still 17(and ex and i still flirt like school kids)...enjoy what you have and cherish it all.

Parkinsons Disease is dreadful - I look at OH sometimes and can't imagine how he will last another 24 hours - his quality of life is zilch, in spite of all our best efforts.

We have been married for 48 years. And now he is an emaciated heap crumpled over on the sofa - and there is nothing I can do. He looks like the photos of Belsen victims.

Enjoy your lives when you are fit; relish your time with your DC.

I don't think Gransnet is depressing! Perhaps you are looking on the wrong threads - try the limericks!

I am always impressed by the courage and resilience of the Gransnet posters - their youthful outlook and determination to squeeze every ounce they can from life.

It must be the way we think about life , glass half full or half empty.

You’ve obviously not lived with a painful and debilitating illness if you think that’s all it takes.

This thread has made me cry this morning, so lovely in its own way. I hope you have many more years together to get littler and older and greyer.

31 years married here.
My mum is 83 and getting frail now. She looks in the mirror and says "God, I look old". well, that's because you are! But she hates the loss of independence and weeps a lot with frustration and pain ...

Having said that, she has always loved motorbikes so for her 83rd birthday in May we arranged for the British Legion Riders to turn up on their Harleys and take her for a spin on the back!!