Visitor ordering only for themselves

[boingbat]

Invited friends round for drinks and dinner. Things were a bit delayed because I was sorting out kids etc. Served dinner, heard a knock at the door my male friend had ordered a takeaway for one and was incensed when we pulled him up on it. AIBU?

Does anyone really have any idea what happened here or is it just me? I could type out a list of a dozen questions but maybe the OP could just come back and explain it all. Esp. the oven chips ...

From your opening post, I think most people would have siad he was incredibly odd, and rude.
However, you can't invite people round for dinner then not serve them dinner. I too would be gnawing my own arm off, LONG before 9pm
Maybe he thought that the bread and chips was all you were feeding him ?

9 pm would have been too late for me as well. How long had he been kept waiting?
Round here it takes at least 45 minutes between ordering and receiving a takeaway, so it must have been quite a wait.

Couldn't someone else sort the children or food for you? And why didn't you provide nibbles while everyone waited?

I can’t stop laughing at the
a) Chip butty Amuse bouche ( I’m from Yorkshire and even we wouldn’t serve that as an amuse bouche!)
b) OP served dinner at nine but was posting on here @ 9.58. What sort of dinner invite is this?? Shouldn’t you be topping up drinks and serving pudding at this point??
c) really laughing at the squirt in the mouth yoghurt and rich tea biscuit for pudding............I need to know what the main course was now we know the starter and pudding! Chicago town microwave pizza? Turkey dinosaurs? What culinary delight could follow the chip butty amuse bouche??

I wouldn't be able to wait until 9pm, especially if I had been drinking so I'd have either said I was ill and left or ordered a takeaway.
What time was dinner meant to be? How old are your kids? Did you clearly communicate that dinner was still on it's way and he was getting more than just oven chips (bleurggh btw)

I don't think it's that rude (depending on how close of a friend he is) to order takeaway at your house, but it was rude not to ask if anyone else wanted anything.
If DH and I went to one of our friends houses for dinner and drinks and there was no sign of dinner anytime soon then I'm sure someone would suggest "shall we just order takeaway?". Or even "I'm starving, I'm going to order takeaway, anyone else want anything?"

Agreed, posting on MN when we have guests isn't good form, I was so shocked I couldn't help it. He remained indignant and has now left.

I really want to know what time dinner was meant to be!

@boingbat are you going to answer anyone's questions?

We went to a friend's bbq today and dh refused to eat anything because the host never said "help yourself".. despite everyone tucking In! People are weird.

Interested to know what the actual dinner served was and what time guests arrived.

Sorry now, that cannot be true, unless guest has other issues, or is oblivious to anything but his stomach. Could have made himself a cheese on toast or something. I don't believe this happened. Sorry.

That friend would have been called to order here and feckin ridiculed and his order cannibalised on the spot, and never invited again.

We are far too tolerant of isolationist (greedy and selfish) behaviour these days.

IF this is true!

Fucking rude!

I'm guessing he had two rounds of water as well
I'm crying with laughter at this

I personally would never eat dinner at 9, way too late but there is a big difference between knowingly booking a restaurant table for 9 and going to a friends house and unexpectedly getting served at 9.

When was dinner supposed to have been served? He must’ve ordered at least 30-45 mins before it arrived so by ordering time dinner must’ve been so delayed even by then. I would have bloody wanted to order takeaway as well.

Yorkshiremummy I find your anti-Chicago town pizza post offensive and unnecessary as they are a fine culinary staple!

@boingbat we need to know more..... can you answer some of what people have asked, or explained why you invited people for dinner then didn't serve it, or why you were posting on MN when you realistically should have been eating dinner - given the lateness of the start time

If someone was thinking about getting a takeaway delivered while at someone else’s house it would be normal ask the people present if they wanted something.

I’ve not seen anyone do this since my student days all the same.

It is ok, it is all bollix.

For the sake of a laugh on a Saturday night.

Good fun though commenting!

OP is clearly too busy eating her after dinner mints to reply.

As others have said what time was dinner meant to be? It can take up to forty to 60 minutes to get a takeaway delievered here on a Saturday night.

To be fair if I was a guest in your home I would be a bit annoyed about eating that late. I would never order a solo takeaway but do think that the host should be more organised.

Well he was hungry and showed initiative,youre not of pocket.whats the problem

I think we need more details, OP. It’s just not clear what the function of the evening was and why the food was delayed and how come he had time to order a take away or why he did?

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I think I would have taken the takeaway bag as a contribution to the party myself.

Oh thanks John, very kind of you, just sit there and we will serve it up to everyone in a few minutes, kind of thing.

Did this person bring a bottle or something aswell? Hmph.