Visitor ordering only for themselves

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Invited friends round for drinks and dinner. Things were a bit delayed because I was sorting out kids etc. Served dinner, heard a knock at the door my male friend had ordered a takeaway for one and was incensed when we pulled him up on it. AIBU?

I was assuming that was probably a half cold mis match if the kids left overs as opposed to actual nibbles.

I'd certainly it have been abke to finish it nor would it have filled me up for long. Taht kimda stuff just makes me more hungry

FFS OP I've read the whole threading still no idea what time guests arrived, what time they were supposed to be having dinner and the bread and oven chips baffles me.

This is like one of those vague attention seeking Facebook statuses. OP lapping up all the posts on her thread.

Also find it a bit odd that everyone seems so formal when round friends places on here. Are people really sitting upright on the sofa lips pursed, slowly fading away?

I don't think so. There seems to be a fairly even split between what I consider a 'normal' dinner party - drinks, chat and olives/snacks etc. before dinner at 8.30/9.00 pm - and people who are gnawing their arms off/feigning illness and storming off because they haven't eaten within 10 minutes of arriving at 6.30 or something.

No standing on ceremony though

I love cooking and hosting and amongst family and friends we have over the years become the default gathering place.

I have now stopped hosting because so many people these days have so many requirements it becomes exhausting.

When you are invited to someone’s home you should not expect service and food as if you are in a hotel!

I don't think expecting someone to serve the meal you were promised as expecting hotel service

You can't invite guests over then act like they bare a huge inconvenience for a) not being thrilled someone faffs about with kids for ages and
B ) wants to be fed

If it's too much hassle dint invite them. But they are only here cos they were asked
It's not a surprise they may be hungry. Fhery were promised a meal

Oh FFS you’re adults (supposedly). If you can’t wait a while for dinner then you’re a twat. We berate our children when they want to eat before dinner is ready but they’re kids -,you’d think adults would have more self control and manners.

Op either: made it up
Or: refuses to answer on timings as she is a habitual ‘sorry, running late’

Do you really not factor in ‘kids’ bedtimes when you invite guests? What’s ‘etc.’ ?

Did you not prep stuff in advance/choose stick in the oven to do final cook a la lasagne and so on....

Well when people have been at work all day deliberately ate a light lunch so they would manage the meal someone invited them for and raved around to get there for the time specified they quite possibly hadn't eaten for hours. Bit different to expecting a chikd to go from 1 til 5.30

Bizarre, but on the other hand you’ll be able to dine out on this story for years 😂😂

Weird, rude and how fat is he, he sounds addicted to food

You have hit the nail on the head Giles, guests for dinner have become a huge inconvenience to me. What was once a great pleasure became an irritation because of people’s dietary and timing demands.

I do still do my dinner party thing of course because I love cooking but mainly for family now.

He was probably gobsmacked when you served up oven chips and bread.
If I got that served up to me as an amuse bouche I’d probably think a take away was a better prospect than the potential dinner

@jade9390 aren't we all addicted to food? I know I can't live without it

Can’t believe I’ve rtft and still no more info than two pages in!

I really want a chip butty right now.

Is his name Sheldon? This is like something straight out of The Big Bang Theory

I d have eaten his take away with my dinner and sent him home starving ! But I would have laughed about it with everyone else ! It is funny - but darn cheeky !!

Am I allowed to derail another thread? Do people really have “a time” that they eat? As I said upthread, my PILs do and I find it very odd and think it must be very limiting! I’m very much of the “eat when I’m hungry and I fancy it or when it happens to be convenient for what else we are doing” school of thought, notwithstanding that if we want to eat with the kids then I’d try to do food for before 7.30 as they get hungry/need to go to bed earlier. But fully prepared to accept we may be odd....

Do people really have “a time” that they eat?

No, we don't. Sometimes we eat with the DC, if the stars all align, but more frequently we eat later. It can be anywhere between 8.00 pm and 10.00 pm depending on various factors. I love cooking and we often enjoy the process, doing bits together, maybe having a glass of wine and chatting etc. That's how I unwind. I'd much rather be doing that than watching TV, for example!

We're both from late-eating families though

Yes rude but what a legend lol x

Ordering a takeaway makes someone a legend?

The bar has been lowered.

I am god.

I find it difficult to believe any of this. By the way there are millions of people in the world who can assure everyone that going without food for a day let alone a few hours won’t kill you. (Leaving aside the medical imperatives). It usually takes about five or six weeks of starvation before you die. I’m sure most of them would be willing to wait until 9.

Weekdays we eat dinner at 8:30-9.

We went to a friends dinner party at the weekend and starters were served at 9:30. Mains at 10:30.

The only time I’ve seen a friend abandon dinner was at a restaurant where we’d been waiting an hour for starters and he walked down the road for dominos. 15 minutes later we got bored and all followed.

It’s an interesting new form of rudeness though.

" It usually takes about five or six weeks of starvation before you die. I’m sure most of them would be willing to wait until 9."

What a stupid argument. A bit like when parents used to tell their children to eat horrible food because someone in a country with famine would be happy to have it!
Of course, you're not going to die if you eat at 9, but if you've been hungry since 6, you can't blame someone for getting their own food.

9pm for dinner is crzy. YABU. HWNBU id have chipped in for the take away by that point.